Dating i muslim

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A place for Muslims in love.

2012.02.28 09:34 so_haraam A place for Muslims in love.

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2010.12.01 23:39 AgentLiquid Exchange ideas!

A recovery and discussion subreddit for those who were once followers of Islam. All are welcome but if you're here because of your hate for Muslims as a people then this is NOT the subreddit for you.
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2020.10.20 06:56 konakanoodle He called, and I'm breaking up all over again

We dated for 4 years. His family is Muslim, I'm white and atheist. I always questioned if it was going to work. It was always on my mind. I thought he loved me, but he didn't want to move things forward. So we parted a year ago. A few slip ups but overall, I thought my head was getting clearer finally.
He's been dating someone almost immediately since we broke up, so for about a year. Last night I hear from him, he wants to meet up. Says they broke up. I stayed over (I know bad idea) and today he calls to start talking about how she wants to meet up with him, and he's looking for advice on what to do. This is basically where I find out he's been dating her a year, but now wants to settle down and get married to her. Inside I was completely dying. I've been thinking about him every day since we broke up. Holy shit that was awful.
We did talk briefly about us because at that point I said I probably can't give advice. As we continued, I find out he never loved me, he just stayed because there wasn't a good enough reason to leave, and he called me yesterday because he knew I'd pick up and I'd be there.
I'm just so tired right now of online dating, and I only finally got out there on a few dates in the last month as I was feeling better. I just have no hope or desire now. This is like the 5th guy I've dated where the next one ended up being the one they married. And I really loved this one. So much. Still do. I'm 40, and I just feel like I'm never marriage or long term material. Lots of feelings right now. I just needed to tell someone. Thanks for listening.
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2020.10.20 06:51 lowkeylana I (25F) have been having a sexual relationship with a married muslim man (35M).

Hi there, I first want to say: I do not wish to offend, be insensitive, nor portray any type of negativity or hatred towards Islam, and those who practice Islam. I understand my question may come off as rude/insensitive/offensive, but I promise you this is not my intention with this post. I do not want to offend nor disrespect the integrity of this sub, and I hope I can seek some truthful answers from a Muslim community, given my current situation.
I tried to make my reddit post topic as straight-forward as possible, but if curious, please read the next paragraph for more details. Apologize in advance for the length of this post, but I hope this reaches some and I can get some input on this situation, from an outsider's perspective who is in the culture.
I (25F -- non-muslim) met a Musli Turkish (specifically Kurdish) man (35M) about a year ago, and our relationship started off as platonic friends. He owns/manages a restaurant/bar down the street from where I live, which I frequented often, and which I started frequenting more due to COVID19 restrictions/working from home/loneliness from working from home.
One night, after a few (~6) months of being friends and drinking together at his restaurant a few times a week, he kissed me after the restaurant closed and when we were walking to our cars to go home. We went home separately that night, but you can guess what happened -- we began texting more, hanging out more, etc. and we found ourselves hanging out more, both at his restaurant and at other bars we would go to after his work ended. We eventually began a platonic friends-with-benefits situation, getting drinks at other bars and having sex at my place after he would get off work. I had just gotten out of a long-term relationship a couple months prior to him kissing me, so I did not want to start a new relationship, but I continued to have sex/hang out with him afterwards because our sexual chemistry was on fire. It was a purely physical thing at first, but we grew to become good friends. He would share me stories of his life/work/etc.
FAST FORWARD a month later after we began having frequent sex... I find out through his other (muslim) friends at the restaurant that he was married and had a 2 year-old daughter. I was FLOORED when I found this out, and asked him about it. I would have never found out had his friends not made a drunk comment one night ("go home to your wife!").
He admitted he was in an arranged marriage with his cousin, that I was the first person he'd had sex with since he'd been married, and that his wife and him do not get along. I am so confused. I'd facetimed his mom and sister (who still live in Turkey), and they seem to know who I am. I found out, through him, that he'd been telling his other friends/regulars at the restaurant that we have been hooking up. I had no reason to believe he was married. He says that, in his culture, men can hook up/date multiple people at once, and because he provides (monetarily) for his wife and his wife's family, that he, as the man of the household, can do basically whatever he wants.
Now, I know this may sound messed up, but I never wanted a committed relationship with him, and still do not. I know I have issues deep down inside (was not raised properly, and have not matured enough to stick to the values I have defined for myself), which is why I think I enjoy having platonic sex. My question is... IS THIS NORMAL??? What the F*** is going on?!!??!!? I am so confused. Has anyone ever experienced this, know if this is normal, or if this is even allowed in the muslim community?!?! Are there many instances of muslim women being okay with this situation?! I asked him if his wife knows, and he says that she must, because she does his laundry and smells my perfume, and he goes home late/does whatever he wants, regardless of if I had been in the picture or not. They also (his words, not mine) have not been having sex. TBH, I don't really care if they are or not. I think his mom wants him to have another kid with his wife, and I've told him that I want him to be happy and that I don't want to be a problem in his life. He says that I am not a problem.
However, I sometimes worry for their child, who is only 2 at this point but will get oldebe more aware of the situation going forward. He has even admitted he does not want to hurt his daughter.
Please, I am seeking some input from those in the culture, or those who may have had experience with this type of situation. I have googled this situation before, but have found mixed input. Please, and thank you.. I appreciate you reading this post, and taking the time to answer.
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2020.10.20 05:03 netflixbut- Is intimacy possible if you don’t find your partner attractive and his reason (25m) legit?

So I want to start off by saying me and my guy are Muslim so premarital intimacy is not okay but hey it happens , I’m 23f and he’s 25m. We matched on an app and talked for a month before meeting up, I really liked talking to him and felt like he got me and when we finally did meet up for coffee afterwards he was allllll over me, just kissing and hugging and gropping everywhere I thought it was odd but figured he was really into me and I wanted him too , he told me he really liked me and was content with me and wanted to marry me. Muslims marry anywhere from 6-8 months of dating. He wanted to talk to my father, met with him at Starbucks for a few hours, his parents invited my parents over to set a wedding date, he seemed to be rushing having all the details into place. I figured it might have been his past trauma of being rejected by a the old girls father that he really liked, he told me about her on our first date lol red flag, also might have been his fathers terminal heart conditon.
At this time I also had some severe acne happening, and he suggested I take accutane for it, which I did and it got worse before it got better but he’d always ask me when my skin would clear or why I didn’t take it earlier smh. It made me really insecure, plus at some point he went from calllinf me cute and hot to him being the better looking one, and being the trophy boyfriend. I’m a med student, have a pretty nice body, am a great cook, religious, smart and funny, but guess I just have acne lmao.
We never really had proper dates it was always just hooking up in the car, I gave him oral twice which I regret, but I thought he really liked me and he would tell me he loved me and would txt me all the time. But I figured this was mostly because Quarantine too and places being closed. His family was also really excited about me and would call me and my parents often to talk about an engagement for us.
Towards the end I found out he smoked weed way more often than I initially assumed, and was asking him to quit and he was upset and said I can’t get him attached to me and switch up now, I finally agreed to him smoking, but I kind of kept nagging about it and he finally exploded saying how he wants to be able to do whatever he wants, and I apologized but felt like he didn’t love me otherwise he would have quit. He’d also like complain about being tied down or restricted after marriage.
Anyways on the day of our engagement, his family came over for dinner and he legit acted like he didn’t know me, and the day after he broke it off through text citing our arguments and my immaturity, and our lack of interest. So I told my parents and they told his about the weed, mostly cause I felt screwed over because he didn’t civilly discuss things with me but instead made my family have a whole party for nothing and to treat us disrespectfully. He was livid he said the main reason was that he was never attracted to me and that I looked different than my pictures when he met me, and things just went wrong fast and felt like he had to marry me because of how pure I was . But someone he kept using me sexually even though he knows it’s a big deal???
FYI he’s back on dating apps and talking to girls right away still trying to get married ASAP while I’m here heartbroken.
TLDR: Feeling used by a guy who said he’d marry me, and then said I was ugly the whole time.
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2020.10.20 04:11 eyelash_ Divorce question and advice needed

Posting on behalf of my reddit-less friend who is in an Islamic marriage with her boyfriend/husband. (Apologies if I misspeak as I am non-religious and am going off of Google and she is also pretty confused.)
Note: their ceremony was not legal (not recognized by the state, no marriage license, not declared as married on taxes, etc.) Also note: she is Jewish by blood and heritage, not really by practice. She's essentially non-religious. He is Muslim with strict parents that immigrated from Kenya when he was 7 (17 years ago).
They met in college and after they both were graduated, his parents said they would need to go through with their marriage ceremony if they wanted to keep seeing each other after 3 years of dating. She agreed and converted and the ceremony was completed by an Imam and witnessed by his parents, aunts and uncles, and cousins. She received a ring.
Fast forward to now and she wants to leave him but he keeps saying she can't unless they have a divorce ceremony with the Imam witnessed by his dad and cousin. We're confused because it's not legal, so what happens if she just doesn't?
Additionally, I found a resource saying that "A man can say “DIVORCE” (or any phrase that means divorce) to his wife...If he took her back twice now, there is only one final chance left. The third time this happens their relationship is permanently severed."
He has broken up with her far more than 3 times. Does this mean their union is separated?
Any advice would be appreciated since she feels like she's being manipulated back to him.
Thank you.
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2020.10.20 03:44 BabyBiThrowaway4589 Need Help Questioning

So some background on me: I (23M) came from a very religious muslim household which comes with its sexual repression. For a few years I repressed myself so hard I convinced myself I was Asexual (not that there is anything wrong with that). I recently came out a of heterosexual relationship with a woman who was bisexual and Muslim. After the relationship ended I realized that I envied how she was able to really find herself and was questioning just how much of myself I truly repressed.
There have been times in my life where I felt non-platonic tension with men. I recently downloaded Hinge and set it to men. But for some reason I just find most men on there unattractive (granted this might just be due to how dating apps commodify people). I also feel discomfort whenever a guy I match with is taller than me or particularly showy. I also consume a lot of queer literature for fun and was wondering whether or not I am actually questioning my sexuality or if I’m just in it for the thrill I get when I read queer literature.
There have been many times when I see a man in person or on videos and will acknowledge that they are attractive and beautiful. But I am not sure if that is just an appreciation of male beauty or legitimate attraction. Hell there have even been guys I crushed on but idk if those were friend-crushes or actual crushes. But never have I felt sexual attraction to another man, or at least arousal. I have even tried watching gay porn and felt nothing in response.
So I guess I’m asking, how the fuck will I know? I feel like every part of my brain is telling me I’m bi but I also feel like an imposter since I haven’t been sexually aroused.
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2020.10.20 02:58 Letstalkgacha Im bi and I dont know how to feel about

so I am bi but theatre problem is I am a muslim and feel like its really wrong for me to likr girls since its a sin. Also my family is himophobic and like I dont wanna get disowned but I wanna date girls but it feels like I am being a disgrace. ITS CONFUSING ME SO MUCH!!! Any advice?
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2020.10.20 02:51 throwawaywoopw00p Perspective needed: having an “ally” to tell my parents?

How important do you find having “allies” when telling your parents unsavory news? I’m a Pakistani Muslim girl, dating an Indian Hindu man and we’d like to get engaged in the next year hence now’s the time to tell my parents. My bf’s family is a lot more relaxed and has been very accepting... certainly something the Pakistanis in my parents' generation can learn from but I digress.
The problem is my brother and sister in law… they were completely on board up until a few months ago when my boyfriend and I hit a VERY rough patch and broke up. In that short time period, I went to stay with my brother and spilled all the dirt that frankly should’ve been kept bw my boyfriend and I. Since then, he is understandably not my bf’s biggest fan. He’d now rather not be involved as he doesn’t want to lie to my parents when they ask him details about my bf. Reading this back, I realize how juvenile this problem is, but having my brother on my side was a HUGE stress off my back. I absolutely abhor that, even at my age, I'm having to play this game where I am waiting for my brother to be okay (to not tarnish that relationship as he's only looking out for me), THEN I can go tell my parents & have some semblance of support, THEN nurse their wounded feelings/angedisappointment and THEN maybe have some sort of acceptance (read: mere tolerance). All the while, my boyfriend and his family are growing antsy that my parents are completely in the dark.
I don’t have close desi friends, I would love perspective/related experience/or even just a "please grow some balls”.
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2020.10.19 23:05 NamNguyen56 fan Kamala Harris is Communist, why did no one (except President Trump) say it?

fan Kamala Harris is Communist, why did no one (except President Trump) say it?


fan Kamala Harris is Communist, why did no one (except President Trump) say it? On Fox Business Network's "Mornings with Maria" on October 8, President Donald Trump described Democratic vice presidential candidate Kamala Harris (D-Calif.) As a "communist; She has left Bernie (Sanders)! "The president went on to quote Senator Harris 'stance, actually even more extreme than Senators Bernie Sanders' (I-Vt.), Or Elizabeth Warren's (D-Mass.).)
But there are six more convincing evidence to show that, yes, Kamala Harris is indeed Communist.
1 / Left-Left
Parents Harris's parents, her mother Shyamala Gopalan, an Indian cancer researcher and Donald Harris, a Jamaican economist, are both tough leftists.
In the early 1960s, the couple was active in the Berkeley African American Association.
According to a former member, Aubrey LaBrie, “Fidel Castro and Che Guevara are heroes of some of us. ... We talked about black Muslims, the liberation movements going on in Africa, everything. "
The leader of the group, Donald Warden, advised two young African-American Association members Huey Newton and Bobby Seale, who would form the Black Panther party in 1966. The Panthers follow the Maoist philosophy. and support communist China. They serve as role models for today's Black Lives Matter movement.
Years later, the Warden (then known as Khalid al-Mansour) played a role in helping Barack Obama enter Harvard Law School.
In 1975, Donald Harris was recruited into the Stanford University economics department as an open Marxist.
2 / Pro-Communist Boyfriend
After joining the radical student union at Howard University, Kamala Harris returned to the Bay Area to begin his legal career. Harris, 30, has aroused public opinion when dating Willie Brown, 60, a leading member of the California Democratic Party, is about to become mayor of San Francisco.
Brown has helped Harris's career and put her on several board positions, and received a salary of around $ 400,000 over five years, according to San Francisco Weekly.
Brown is a longtime communist sympathizer. For the first time, he was elected to the public office with the help of the American Communist Party's youth. He was awarded the Lenin Prize by Dr. Carlton Goodlett, the owner of a communist newspaper, by the former Soviet government.
A few years after his affair with Harris, Brown still publicly funded the Communist Party's fundraising activities in the Bay Area while serving as mayor of San Francisco.
Today, Brown is considered by many to be one of the best friends of the Chinese Communist Party in the Gulf.
3 / The person was led by Kamala Harris close to the communists
While working as a San Francisco district attorney, Harris advised a young San Francisco activist named Lateefah Simon. After hiring her and helping Simon attend college, Harris introduced his young friend to many influential people in San Franciscans. Today, Simon is president of the left-wing Akonadi Foundation and chair of the Gulf Express Transport (BART) board.
When Harris first met Simon, the young woman served on the board of directors at the Oakland-based Youth Empowerment Center. Every other member of the board - Harmony Goldberg, Adam Gold, Cindy Wiesner and later, Obama Green Jobs Czar Van Jones - were members of the Communist group Maoist "Organizing a Revolutionary Together" ( Standing Together to Organize a Revolutionary Movement) (STORM).
Gold is today a member of the LeftRoots, a group affiliated with the Liberation Road group, which supports the Communist Party of China.
Simon is a close friend of another LeftRoots member, the founder of Black Lives Matter, Alicia Garza.
Harris openly supports the Black Lives Matter and remains close to Simon and Garza. In return, Garza is a longtime friend and colleague of Comrade Alex Tom of LeftRoots - who has close ties to the China Progressive Association and the Chinese Consulate in San Francisco.
4 / Financial sponsors under the Communist
Maya Harris, Harris's sister, is a student activist at Stanford University. She is a friend of Steve Phillips, one of the top Marxist-Leninists in the school and a longtime member of the pro-China League of Revolutionary Struggle group.
According to Phillips
' "Politics Intelligence" blog: "First, let me make it clear that I'm out of the Left. I learned Marx, Mao and Lenin. In college, I organized unity efforts for the libertarian struggles in South Africa and Nicaragua, and I spoke to people who considered themselves communists and revolutionaries ..., and I did. does her research on the Black Panther Party. "
After leaving Stanford in the early 1990s, Phillips directed many of his comrades to the Democrats. He is also married to the Sandler billionaire family, which gives the young revolutionary a significant political influence.
Sandler's money has funded the American Progress Center, ProPublica, and numerous candidates and voting initiatives across the country. In 2008, Phillips spent $ 10 million through his PowerPAC-plus on voter registrations in the southern and southwestern states, helping his friend Barack Obama outdo Hillary Clinton in the election. primary election of the Democratic Party.
In 2013, Phillips helped elect his old Stanford friend Cory Booker to the US Senate from New Jersey. In 2018, he almost put his guardians Stacey Abrams and Andrew Gillum as governors of Georgia and Florida, respectively.
Phillips is a friend of the Harris family and helped Maya Harris' husband Tony West become the deputy attorney general in the Obama administration. He is also the main sponsor of the political career of Kamala Harris.
In 2003, Phillips helped Harris win the election, serving as a San Francisco county attorney. Ironically, she defeated incumbent Terence Hallinan, who was a young communist who helped Willie Brown win her first election.
Phillips' PowerPAC-plus helped Harris win the election, served as California Attorney General in 2010 and then to the US Senate in 2016.
5 / Chief of the Secretariat to the Communist
In the early 2000s, current director at Harris's Karine Jean-Pierre is active with the New York-based Haitian Support Network. The organization worked closely with the pro-China / North Korean Workers' World Party and backed Jean-Bertrand Aristide, the former left-right president of Haiti and his radical Lavalas era.
In April 2004, at the Whitman Theater at Brooklyn University, 2,000 people gathered to listen to a program titled "An Evening with Friends of Haiti: The Truth Behind the Haitian Coup".
The protest was co-chaired by Jean-Pierre and Kim Ives of the Haitian Support Network, along with Pat Chin and Sara Flounders from the Workers World Party.
In May 2004, Jean-Pierre joined a delegation to Haiti with two famous comrades of the World Workers Party, Steve Gillis and LeiLani Dowell.
Around the same time, Jean-Pierre was working for friendly New York City Council member James Sanders. Her duties as part of his reelection campaign included working with the local branch of the highly discredited "community organization" ACORN.
6 / The husband is close to the communist party
Doug Emhoff, Harris's husband of law firm DLA Piper, “boasts nearly 30 years of experience in China and more than 140 lawyers specializing in the 'China Investment Services' branch,” according to National Pulse.
National Pulse continued:
“To facilitate the operations of DLA Piper's China - which has received numerous prestigious awards from the China Business Law Review and Chinese Law and Practice - the company employs one a series of former Chinese Communist Party officials.
“Ernest Yang, who served as the company's Head of Legal & Legal and Co-Head of the International Arbitration Committee, was appointed to the People's Political Consultative Conference of China (CPPCC) in 2013. CPPCC serves as the top advisory committee to the Chinese Communist Party, and Yang was promoted to the agency's Standing Committee in 2019.
“Jessica Zhao, Senior Advisor, served as Deputy Secretary-General of the Commission China International Economic and Trade Arbitration (CIETAC), a government-owned body established by the Chinese Communist Party in 1956. It was developed under the auspices of China Promotion Council. International Trade, 'China trade promotion enhancement government agency.'
Several other senior DLA Piper employees, both Chinese and US citizens, served the Chinese regime. Emhoff quit her job at the company in August, The American Law reported.
7 / Does anyone have background checks?
If Biden is elected president, then within a note, Harris will become the female president of the United States.
If Harris applies for an intermediate job in the Department of Agriculture, she will almost certainly fail the security background check. She owes her entire career to those who agree or actively support the Communist Party of China.
Fortunately for her (and possibly catastrophic for the country), elected office-holders are not subject to a security check.
President Trump said, "If Joe Biden is elected, China will own America."
Biden chose the ideal vice president to help China do this.
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2020.10.19 19:58 spoiledsweet I feel numb after reading my sister’s Wattpad

Growing up, she was the GC and I was the scapegoat. I went NC with her and my family because our father physically abused us and raped me. Everyone denies the physical abuse and no one knows about the rape. He convinced everyone I was a drug-abusing prostitute who needed saving. They believed him.
She has a romance novel on the Episode app with millions of readers and supporters. I recognize myself in a few characters. One is a sadistic villain who is jealous of the main character. Another is a loud groupie of the MC. I even see myself in the mean girl who’s out for MC’s man but ends up seducing his father. Oof.
My sister always had unrequited feelings for a boy from our community. She built her fictional universe and real following off of these feelings. In her story, the boy’s heart softens and true love blooms.
In real life, my sister has had less than ten conversations with him. He’s our cousin’s cousin by marriage. He was sixteen and she was eight when her feelings for him arose.
We were all raised Muslim. Our father picked him out for her when we were kids. Our parents had an arranged marriage and wanted to arrange us too. None of us were allowed to date. I left home because I wasn’t down with any of that. You don’t get to use me up, chain me down, and marry me off, dad. No.
I see her feelings as an obsession born in painful throes of trauma. My sister projected all the love she wasn’t allowed to show to our father or receive from him, and shunted it into this mild, older boy she barely got to know. He was the blank canvas to her boiling red paint.
He married a different girl in real life. His parents picked her. I remember reaching out to her when this happened. She replied that he was “old news.” I hadn’t known about her novel at the time, so I was under the impression that she really was over him. I expressed surprise that she let him go and made the mistake of using the word “obsessive” to describe her past.
Meanwhile, I discovered, my sister had taken to Wattpad to mourn. She included my remark, calling me a distant cousin. Strangers left comments calling me a bitch.
I must have been on a last hurrah of self-sabotage.
I’m hoping to get my own self-empowerment blog going soon. My design is starting to look like a magazine.
Yesterday, I remembered that her groupie character who’s supposed to be me becomes a magazine editor in the end of her story. This irritated me and ultimately led me to peruse my sister’s stuff. Magazine editor or critic or sadist or slut, the person who my sister tells everybody I am, is not me.
But the more I try to prove who I am not, the less I allow myself to be who I am. Her story has been feeding off of unaware people like me and that boy, and mine has starved, hungry for the truth that I have suppressed. My father got my sister to suppress me once. My sister gets her minions to do it now.
I don’t have to let them.
After discovering the comments, I closed the window and stopped reading.
It’s time for me to feed myself. Self-sabotage has won this battle again, but I’m determined to win the war.
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2020.10.19 19:38 partypastor Unreached People Group of the Week - Wolof in Senegal

Sorry about this being late. My coffee maker broke, so it was a tragic morning.
How Unreached Are They?
The Wolof are 0.01% Christian. That means out of their 5,620,000 people, there are roughly only 500 believers. Thats only 1 believer for every 10,000 unbeliever.
There is a New Testament in their language
What are they like?
Typical qualification that all people groups can't be summed up in small paragraphs and this is an over generalization.
Traditionally the Wolof were divided into three classes: the freeborn, those born into slavery, and the artisans. The freeborn class ranged from high-ranking noblemen to common peasant farmers. The slave class was made up of the Wolof whose parents were slaves. They were born into slavery and continued to serve their parent's masters. Finally, the artisans were considered a low class in Wolof society. This group included blacksmiths, leather workers, and musicians. Intermarriage among the three classes was a very rare occurrence.
However much of this class distinction is disappearing among the Wolof. For example, former president Abdou Diouf of Senegal was actually from the blacksmith class.
The Wolof, particularly the women, are known as being very beautiful. They dress fashionably and wear sophisticated hairstyles. In fact, they are often the fashion-setters for others around them. While many of the Wolof have settled in cities and work as merchants, teachers, or government officials, most of them still live in rural areas and work as peasant farmers.
The main cash crop for the peasants is peanuts. Huge sacks of them are sold to traders, and the earnings are used to provide new clothes, household utensils, blankets, and tobacco. Okra, peppers, beans, and tomatoes are also planted in gardens around their houses. Their basic dietary crops include sorghum and millet. For breakfast, grains are prepared as thick porridge. In the evening, grains are prepared as a steaming dish covered with either peanut and tomato sauce or meat and bean sauce. Wolof generally do not like change and are content with the same daily meals.
A typical Wolof village consists of several hundred people living in compounds that are grouped around a central village square. The compounds contain houses made of mud or reeds. Fences are built just inside the compound entrances to block the view of strangers. Public events, such as dancing and wrestling, take place in the village square. A platform used for public meetings is usually located in the center of the square, and a mosque is located on the square's east side.
When outside the village, the Wolof must wear clothing suitable for the occasion and according to one's role in society. While in the public eye, they must look, move, and talk in the appropriate manner, even while shopping in the market. Joshua Project
History Lesson
Hundreds of years ago, the Wolof conquered many tribes in the northwestern Senegal area. By the end of the 1300s, the Wolof had grown into a large empire of separate, self-governing states. By the 1500s, the empire had split into four major Wolof kingdoms.
The French expanded into Senegal during the 1800s, making it a colony of French West Africa. In 1946, the Wolof of Senegal were awarded French citizenship, and today, many Wolof have their homes in France. In 1968, Senegal gained its independence. Joshua Project
What do they believe?
Virtually all of the Wolof claim to be Muslims. Islam is centered on five basic teachings or "pillars." (1) A Muslim must affirm that "there is no god but Allah, and Mohammed is his prophet." (2) Five times a day he must pray while facing Mecca. (3) He must give an obligatory percentage (very similar to tithes) on an annual basis. (4) He must fast during Ramadan, the ninth month of the Muslim year. (5) He must try to make at least one pilgrimage to Mecca in his lifetime.
Wolof believe in bad and good spirits, as well as witches. They think that all of these live in their villages. Bad spirits live in tall trees or grassy areas. The Wolof wear amulets to protect them from the bad spirits. A marabout, or spiritual leader with supernatural powers, is contacted when making important decisions. Joshua Project
How Can We Pray For Them?
Brothers, my heart’s desire and prayer to God for them is that they may be saved. (Romans 10:1)
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Here are the previous weeks threads on the UPG of the Week for Reformed
People Group Country Date Posted Beliefs
Wolof Senegal 10/19/20 Islam
Turkish Cypriot Cyprus 10/12/2020 Islam
Awjilah Libya 10/05/2020 Islam
Manihar India 09/28/2020 Islam
Tianba China 09/21/2020 Animism
Arab Qatar 09/14/2020 Islam
Turkmen Turkmenistan 08/31/2020 Islam
Lyuli Uzbekistan 08/24/2020 Islam
Kyrgyz Kyrgyzstan 08/17/2020 Islam*
Yakut Russia 08/10/2020 Animism*
Northern Katang Laos 08/03/2020 Animism
Uyghur Kazakhstan 07/27/2020 Islam
Syrian (Levant Arabs) Syria 07/20/2020 Islam
Teda Chad 07/06/2020 Islam
Kotokoli Togo 06/28/2020 Islam
Hobyot Oman 06/22/2020 Islam
Moor Sri Lanka 06/15/2020 Islam
Shaikh Bangladesh 06/08/2020 Islam
Khalka Mongols Mongolia 06/01/2020 Animism
Comorian France 05/18/2020 Islam
Bedouin Jordan 05/11/2020 Islam
Muslim Thai Thailand 05/04/2020 Islam
Nubian Uganda 04/27/2020 Islam
Kraol Cambodia 04/20/2020 Animism
Tay Vietnam 04/13/2020 Animism
Yoruk Turkey 04/06/2020 Islam
Xiaoliangshn Nosu China 03/30/2020 Animism
Jat (Muslim) Pakistan 03/23/2020 Islam
Beja Bedawi Egypt 03/16/2020 Islam
Tunisian Arabs Tunisia 03/09/2020 Islam
Yemeni Arab Yemen 03/02/2020 Islam
Bosniak Croatia 02/24/2020 Islam
Azerbaijani Georgia 02/17/2020 Islam
Zaza-Dimli Turkey 02/10/2020 Islam
Huichol Mexico 02/03/2020 Animism
Kampuchea Krom Cambodia 01/27/2020 Buddhism
Lao Krang Thailand 01/20/2020 Buddhism
Gilaki Iran 01/13/2020 Islam
Uyghurs China 01/01/2020 Islam
Israeli Jews Israel 12/18/2019 Judaism
Drukpa Bhutan 12/11/2019 Buddhism
Malay Malaysia 12/04/2019 Islam
Lisu (Reached People Group) China 11/27/2019 Christian
Dhobi India 11/20/2019 Hinduism
Burmese Myanmar 11/13/2019 Buddhism
Minyak Tibetans China 11/06/2019 Buddhism
Yazidi Iraq 10/30/2019 Animism*
Turks Turkey 10/23/2019 Islam
Kurds Syria 10/16/2019 Islam
Kalmyks Russia 10/09/2019 Buddhism
Luli Tajikistan 10/02/2019 Islam
Japanese Japan 09/25/2019 Shintoism
Urak Lawoi Thailand 09/18/2019 Animism
Kim Mun Vietnam 09/11/2019 Animism
Tai Lue Laos 09/04/2019 Bhuddism
Sundanese Indonesia 08/28/2019 Islam
Central Atlas Berbers Morocco 08/21/2019 Islam
Fulani Nigeria 08/14/2019 Islam
Sonar India 08/07/2019 Hinduism
Pattani Malay Thailand 08/02/2019 Islam
Thai Thailand 07/26/2019 Buddhism
Baloch Pakistan 07/19/2019 Islam
Alawite Syria 07/12/2019 Islam*
Huasa Cote d'Ivoire 06/28/2019 Islam
Chhetri Nepal 06/21/2019 Hinduism
Beja Sudan 06/14/2019 Islam
Yinou China 06/07/2019 Animism
Kazakh Kazakhstan 05/31/2019 Islam
Hui China 05/24/2019 Islam
Masalit Sudan 05/17/2019 Islam
As always, if you have experience in this country or with this people group, feel free to comment or PM me and I will happily edit it so that we can better pray for these peoples!
Here is a list of definitions in case you wonder what exactly I mean by words like "Unreached
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2020.10.19 19:33 cjwyoming Re-litigating the Hugos, Episode 1 - 1990

During the quarantine I, like many others, have been reading a lot of science fiction. To give my reading a direction, I've been focusing on novels that have been nominated for what I consider the genre's highest honor - the Hugo Award for Best Novel. I thought it might be interesting to read every nominee for a given year, and then discuss whether I thought the best novel actually won.
I've started with 1990 because I had to pick some date to start, and I didn't feel like starting at the beginning and wading through a lot of 1960's-era terrible sexual and racial politics, plus most of the 'classics' from this era have been discussed to death. I also won't be reading any books that aren't standalones or the first in their series unless a majority of the rest of the series has been nominated as well. I also won't be looking at any of the other awards, like Best Novella or Best Short Story, unless I have a good reason to.
With introductions out of the way, let's look at the nominees for 1990:
In what would prove to be prolific author Poul Anderson's last nomination, we follow a group of immortals - normal people who have found they've stopped aging. We start following our first immortal, a Phoenician sailor named Hanno, in ancient Greece, and follow him as he attempts to find other immortals throughout human history, all the way up to the present day and beyond.
The Boat of a Million Year's problem is that Anderson couldn't decide where he wanted to end the novel. The book keeps going on long after it seems to have reached a natural end, with more ideas being thrown at you even up until the novel's final pages. The novel's most engaging moments are all in the first two-thirds, which gives us a sweeping view of world history as the immortals attempt to find each other, involve themselves with historical events, and try to evade death or capture. However, I don't think Anderson thought this section was as interesting as it is, so he felt the need to add an almost completely unrelated coda which takes place on a starship, and isn't interesting at all. If the book was just the first two-thirds, it'd be a lot better than it is.
A Fire In The Sun is the second novel in Effinger's 'Marid' series, which follow the exploits of an erstwhile private detective named Marid Audran as he keeps the peace in the slums of a fictional futuristic Muslim city in North Africa. The book owes a lot to the cyberpunk genre, a genre which was slowly on its way out of the vogue by 1989. There's a lot of discussion of cybernetic implants, and a focus on shifting gender identity, but unlike in other cyberpunk books where the tech is front and center, the tech in this book really serves as a backdrop to what is, at its core, an attempt at a hardboiled detective story.
Ultimately, I think this book, and Effinger's series as a whole, relies too much on taking ideas from other genres than presenting new or interesting ideas itself. It's pretty clear from the book that Effinger knows that other genres have useful tropes, but he doesn't know how to use them effectively, because he doesn't know why other genres employ them. In the end, the book ends up feeling like a mix of a bunch of different genre tropes that, while they're engaging, don't work very well as a whole.
I invoked what I'm calling the Series Rule to not have to read Prentice Alvin, which is part of Card's followup series to Ender's game. In truth, I was relieved to not have to read it. I have massive ideological differences with Card, and it's hard to ignore his bigotry in a lot of his other work. I thought about reading it for completion's sake, but I have better authors to spend my time reading. By all means, if you think that I unfairly dismissed this novel, let me know, but unless there's a really compelling reason to read this Mormon fanfiction, I'm staying away.
A plague is sweeping through the populated worlds of the galaxy - everywhere except for the bucolic backwater of Grass. Reluctant heroes Rigo and Marjorie are sent by the galaxy-spanning militant religion Sanctity to investigate Grass, infiltrate its community of reclusive fox hunters, and find a cure before the plague kills all other life in the galaxy.
Grass is one of the books that I had hoped I would find while doing this project. It's a very good, very imaginative, and very engaging book that takes a lot of SF tropes like first contact or alien intelligence and repackages them in a way that manages to constantly surprise. I don't want to spoil too much, so I'll just say that it by all rights should be a classic of the SF genre, and it's a shame that it's largely been forgotten.
An instant classic the moment it was released, Hyperion is one of the few SF novels that needs no introduction. However, I like typing, so I'll introduce it anyway. A group of seven pilgrims journey towards the mysterious Time Tombs of the world Hyperion, sharing their stories of the world, their place in it, and of the mysterious Shrike, which threatens to kill six of them - and grant the wish of the seventh.
I can say with certainty - Hyperion is exactly as good as people say it is. It's some of the best science fiction of the last few decades, and it's still emotional and interesting in ways that few modern SF novels can match. We can get into endless debates into which of the tales is best (it's the Consul's tale), but the beauty of Hyperion is that it holds different meaning for different people.
I feel that the 1990 WorldCon attendees got it right when they gave Hyperion the Hugo. It's far and away the best of the nominees. Grass is the underdog pick here, and I feel that if more people had read it, and if it had been nominated in a year where Hyperion wasn't, it could have been a winner. All the other books for the 1990 class were kind of forgettable.
So what do you think? Is Hyperion as good as people say? Do you have opinions on any of the other books? Do you want to flame me for calling Orson Scott Card a bigot? Are there any books published in 1989 that should have been nominated over these ones? (I think that yes, there was - Brothers In Arms by Lois McMaster Bujold is better than all the nominees except for Hyperion)
Thanks for reading, and may all your SF be interesting!
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2020.10.19 18:58 friendly_scribe I [29M] want to know if I am being shallow or unreasonable, because a woman I am talking to [26F] has not said the smartest things. And it is putting me off.

Sorry about the title, as I am very awful at these things.
I have been single for a about 8 or 9 years following quite a crappy relationship. And that was the only relationship I ever had. I recently decided to put myself out there and went onto a certain matchmaking app.
For context's sake, this matchmaking app is designed for people with an Islamic background - I am a Muslim, but I am not very religious and I am actually conflicted about my faith. I was hoping to find someone from a similar background, with similar struggles as maybe we can relate. Naturally, everyone there is looking to get married whether for their own faith or that of their family.
I matched with a person and we have been talking for about 2 months now. They live in another city about 1.5 hours away (I live in the UK, not the USA), and it is not very serious at this stage. Though she has given me some sort of pet name already, but at this point I am so socially inept I don't know if it is good or bad. Covid19 is not really helping either so we have not physically met yet.
During the conversations we have had, she has said some things that were eyebrow raising. This is not to mock her or anyone, just to give an idea. To paraphrase:
Taken alone, anyone of these incidents can be chalked up to her just not knowing about a certain thing. And that's fine. But all together, it is putting me off.
One thing I always found very attractive in a person is intelligence in general, and what drew my attention to her was how she mentioned she was teaching herself another language. I don't care about university degrees that much, and I don't care for people who call themselves "intellectuals". But I feel like I am being arrogant or snobbish in being put off by this, but I just cannot help it.
Otherwise, she is a sweet and good person. She does not seem petty or toxic as far as I can tell. And she makes an effort in conversations.
Am I being too shallow and judgemental?
TL;DR - Met someone on dating app. We have been talking for about 2 months but not physically met. She said some not-smart-things that, individually, are not a huge deal. But taken together it is making me second guess future relationship (see bullet points). Am I being shallow/making a big deal out of nothing?
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2020.10.19 18:05 ntg1996 I am sorry, I had to express myself ... I cannot anymore

Sometimes life can be very thought that you cannot enjoy living it anymore just because you're different, I mean how would you feel... ?
If your lifestyle, mindset are different that your environment, and you cannot make friends, you're just trying to be a good human, people let you down and take advantage of your kindness
if you were a non-believer in a Muslim Arab country and you have to hide your thoughts and pretend to be religious to avoid problems
if you came from a poor family, worked hard graduated with a master degree with the highest score but happened that its coronavirus, opportunities are very limited and the job you could afford is with a very low salary, barely can pay you rent , a bit of food, and you have to accept it even tho it is screwing your career, very low salary that people joke at you in the office for wearing the same clothes because you cannot buy new ones.
Your gf dump you after 6 years of a relationship, you just do not feel you can date again
My Actual job putting on me too much pressure, while some of my co-workers are pure cancer to me for no reason
I grow up with a lot of complications, I worked hard to make my life meaningful even with all the struggles I faced, all I feel is failing, I am so so tired man, I do not enjoy any moment of being alive I feel dead for more than a year. All I kept thinking about is my parents that wanted me to be something they were my reason to live. They gave me energy but I do not know what happens to me. When it's night and I try to sleep I get panic attacks, in the mornings I feel weak, sleepy, cannot focus on anything, I just feel tired wishing could be saved.
Wish I could just hug someone and cry so loud, I feel so weak and broken, and I am afraid I won't be able to fix myself again and it will just get worse...
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2020.10.19 12:54 mricaz Should I stay with my bf or end it for the sake of family (although I can’t imagine myself ending it)

tl;dr: Overthinking about the future, scared of not being accepted. Feeling isolated and my exams are starting tomorrow. Could this fuel my anxiety and overthinking even more?
I’m a female. 18 in a week and dating a guy, we’re in a long distance relationship. I love him to death and I would seriously do anything he asks of me, and vice versa. There is only one issue that has been eating me alive. Or maybe two, but the biggest one is the fact that my family do not know about him. I feel terrible at the fact that I cannot speak to my parents or family about him and it makes me feel like I’m holding everything in and away from them. The last time I had a minor crush on a guy I was kinda working with for a few weeks, I told my mum and (because we are Arab) she said that we don’t do dating, and it is much safer to keep my distance from him. I was heartbroken, and I started crying after she left. This was well over two years ago, so I’m over the pain now, and he ended up being a jerk anyway, so I’m really glad I didn’t pursue anything deeper with him. As for this guy, he’s amazing. He offers to buy me everything, I’m the one who refuses and suggests that I’m the one that will buy him stuff. He’s wanted to catch a flight to see me, but I said it’s too soon (although we’ve been together for half a year). His parents know about me, and yet the only person I’ve ever mentioned him to was my older sister. I feel absolutely guilty. This may seem so stupid seeing as we have not met in real life but I truly think I am in love with this person. I can’t imagine a day without him, I can’t go without talking to him every single second of the day that I am able to. I think about him all the time. We have different timezones but he has always stayed up for hours on end just to make sure I sleep well, and that I’m happy.
Long story short, I love this person. But here’s the complicated part: my religion isn’t Christian, Muslim, Catholic, Jewish, etc. Instead it is a religion with a minority population that does not allow conversion. A lot (or some) of the women and men in my community have married outsiders, but that has often resulted in being disowned or just shunned by the community, which is absolutely stupid. So to think that my parents would accept it, is out of the question. Because I know for sure it will be no. Personally, I am not religious. But my parents I’d say are lenient with a lot of things, but interfaith is not one.
I don’t know how to keep my partner and my caring family both in my life? I don’t want to let my parents down. But we live in a Western society and it is unfortunate but I don’t have the same mindset as them, they cannot expect me to follow every rule and custom of their country. I always overthink scenarios, that lead me to cry and be upset over. Scenarios of my family yelling at me for this decision and me having to decide whether to break up with him or face the judgement of everybody else? If my parents would accept us, I don’t even care if the world was against us, I would continue to love him. I’m scared, I don’t want to leave him but what happens if I am forced to? This sounds stupid and I’m sorry if nobody is able to empathise with me, but it’s difficult to move on with my life and pretend to be happy when truly I am miserable by overthinking this.
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2020.10.19 10:59 ManonFire63 Church Attending Christians and Romans 1:18-25

What are dishonorable passions? What does it mean that someone rejected God. Given a Christian is going to Church, doesn't that mean they are in God's good graces?
God’s Wrath on Unrighteousness
18 For the wrath of God is revealed from heaven against all ungodliness and unrighteousness of men, who [a]suppress the truth in unrighteousness, 19 because what may be known of God is [b]manifest [c]in them, for God has shown it to them. 20 For since the creation of the world His invisible attributes are clearly seen, being understood by the things that are made, even His eternal power and [d]Godhead, so that they are without excuse, 21 because, although they knew God, they did not glorify Him as God, nor were thankful, but became futile in their thoughts, and their foolish hearts were darkened. 22 Professing to be wise, they became fools, 23 and changed the glory of the incorruptible God into an image made like [e]corruptible man—and birds and four-footed animals and creeping things.
24 Therefore God also gave them up to uncleanness, in the lusts of their hearts, to dishonor their bodies among themselves, 25 who exchanged the truth of God for the lie, and worshiped and served the creature rather than the Creator, who is blessed forever. Amen.(Romans 1:18-25)
Rome became known for sexual immorality. From the top down, figures such as Caligula and Nero were known for sexual immorality. John the Baptist was murdered for speaking out against Herod's sinful marriage. (Luke 3:19) Later, as Apostle Paul and others started spreading the gospel to the gentiles, how much of The Law should they follow?
You are to abstain from food sacrificed to idols, from blood, from the meat of strangled animals and from sexual immorality. You will do well to avoid these things. Farewell. (Acts 15:29)
Today, what would be dishonorable passions? It became a tradition, or something implied, that there would be hook ups during Prom night? A group of high school students go to a party where it was assumed morally loose things would happen. Someone was in college, and they were in hook up culture. Sexual immorality is not honorable. Someone sexual immorality was dishonoring themselves. They may have been dishonoring their families. Someone in sexual immorality didn't care much about honor, or only liked to invoke honor when it benefited him? That would be dishonorable, and lacking in integrity. Righteous has a definition. Given Christians are going to Church, and the pastor was ok with, or tolerant of, sexual immorality, said pastor was a false teacher, and there may have corrupt things going on around him, or in his congregation. Thus far I have not mentioned sodomy, as in men laying with men. Reading further into Romans 1, we find that eventually, sodomy and people having unnatural desires may have been like dominoes falling when society has rejected God and righteousness. Someone believed in God, and went to Church? Given they were rejecting righteousness towards being tolerant of, or seeking acceptance from, worldly politics, and worldly people, they were rejecting God. They may have been creating a false Christ. Jesus Christ has a character. God has a character. Did someone try to change the character, of God to something something it was not? That would be a form of Paganism.
For you were once darkness, but now you are light in the LORD. Live as children of light (Ephesians 5:8)
For the people hearing the gospel for the first time in Rome, and choosing God, there may have been a vast difference between a new Christian, a child of God, and the people around them. We may be able to see this in the historical complaints pagan Romans had against the Christians. Today, many people have been working to be tolerant. Tolerant of what? Tolerant of sin and evil and darkness? Tolerant of neo-paganism, and intellectuals that were in the occult? Given we are growing in faith, and developing The Kingdom of God, we are separating ourselves from unGodly things. Christians are moving into Christian communities. Who should a Christian's neighbors be? Muslims? Hindus? Atheists? Occultists? No. God forbid. Given they were your neighbors, they may have had an influence over you, and you have been submitting to their authority. Christians should be in their own communities, working to grow in Faith, developing a relationship with God, being a beacon, a light to the world.
What happens when society has rejected righteousness and God with no repentance over time? They may have developed "Hearts of Stone" like the Rolling Stones song. They may have done evil things. Given I was to go to a college, and ask some people about stories relating to some sororities, and dating, do find things similar to "I Hope They Serve Beer in Hell," but just mean, and worse? God is love. (1 John 4:8) They didn't know God's love. How many of them, not knowing God's love, ended up in positions of leadership somewhere?
Herod and Herodias and John the Baptist
For Herod himself had given orders to have John arrested, and he had him bound and put in prison. He did this because of Herodias, his brother Philip’s wife, whom he had married. 18 For John had been saying to Herod, “It is not lawful for you to have your brother’s wife.” 19 So Herodias nursed a grudge against John and wanted to kill him. But she was not able to, 20 because Herod feared John and protected him, knowing him to be a righteous and holy man. When Herod heard John, he was greatly puzzled[b]; yet he liked to listen to him.
21 Finally the opportune time came. On his birthday Herod gave a banquet for his high officials and military commanders and the leading men of Galilee. 22 When the daughter of[c] Herodias came in and danced, she pleased Herod and his dinner guests.
The king said to the girl, “Ask me for anything you want, and I’ll give it to you.” 23 And he promised her with an oath, “Whatever you ask I will give you, up to half my kingdom.”
24 She went out and said to her mother, “What shall I ask for?”
“The head of John the Baptist,” she answered.
25 At once the girl hurried in to the king with the request: “I want you to give me right now the head of John the Baptist on a platter.” (Mark 6:17-25)
Man is the head. He is a decision maker. Woman the neck turning the head. Herod was a man. He made decisions. Herodias may have had a heart of stone. She was evil. She worked to turn Herod towards making the decisions she would like him to make. In 2020, where is female guilt? Where are females guilty?
How many feminists have been sin and wrong doing? How many of them have expressed such a hatred for Donald Trump, that they would to him dead? Even going so far as to be in a video with a fake Donald Trump severed head? What spirit were they of, and what was in their hearts?
Christian societies value purity, and holiness, and virgin brides. Has society been more of a Harlot Ezekiel 23, a Harlot Ezekiel 16, or a Virgin Israel? In Ezekiel 16:48-52, an explanation of God's Judgment on Sodom was given. What lead up to that? Ezekiel 16 starts off with an metaphor of Jerusalem as God's adulterous wife. What came first? The adultery or the idolatry? Sexual immorality and adultery lead towards hearts stone, and people doing wicked things to each other. People with hearts of stone, with no repentance, may have ended up doing the things that brought God's Judgment on Sodom. (Ezekiel 16:48-52)
Someone in 2020 went to Church, and they were ok with sexual immorality, and liked to appease the gay community. They rejecting God and righteousness. They didn't know God. Be earnest and repent.
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2020.10.19 05:39 gyrosaregreat Day three of my throwaway diary so whoever finds this o well :)

So today was pretty uneventful but applying to colleges gives me so much stress. Like teachers give zero grace for balancing school work with applications. My ACT is next Saturday and I'm so concerned I don't even have enough time to study. Like I still have to finish homework and work on an orchestra assignment I put off for such a long time and that is completely my fault. But still, I'm really tired and I get why senioritis exists. I'm seriously considering emailing my teachers later saying I have my ACT this week asking for an extension so hopefully that seems fair. I hope this is the last college test I have to take though, I'm so sick of stressing over college and I doubt I'll even get into my reaches, like I'm smart but I'm no legend you know. I also felt really giddy today every time this one dude texted me and it just made me happy so yea. My baby cousin came over today and I love babies but this was an unexpected visit and today was not the day for it. Like please tell me if you're planning to come over rather than springing it on me last minute. I took him out for a walk because he usually calms down but he started crying outside too like really loud and I was so scared my neighbors were going to come see me stressing over a baby. One of the funniest things though, I took a break to play among us and I met two teens my age who were dating so I played with them and we were like okay it's def cyan and he's like I'm Muslim, God is going to come for you. Then I was like nah bruh I'm Muslim and I started spewing verses and was like that ain't cool. It was so funny though because they left the chat and I was like wow bet he was Sunni and woulda slit my neck (I'm Shia and there's a whole other level of discrimination within the Islamic community just for that) and I made the couple laugh and a couple other times too. I don't see myself as super funny so that was just a good feeling. :)
Okay daily activism time a wooh hooh. I noticed this yesterday but I thought I should bring it up anyway. My little sister loooooves the Loud House, you know the kids show on Nickelodeon and I saw Flip call Lincoln "chief". Correct me if I'm wrong but I thought the term was reserved for Native American heads of tribes and should only be used as a term of respect. It originated from European culture but then became reserved specifically for Native Americans so people could recognize their leader. So citing this from the website by the Native American Indian Association of Tennessee, "Use of the title ‘Chief’ by persons who are not tribal business or traditional leaders is considered offensive. Non-Indians addressing individuals who are not federally- or state-recognized tribal leaders or elders by the title ‘Chief’ is also considered offensive to traditional Native American people." I also read that many Native Americans don't even look at chief as an appropriate term according to nativecircle.com. They said that chief " is a word that is commonly given as a nickname which incorrectly labels Native American men. The term 'chief' itself is incorrect. American Indian leaders were never 'chiefs', but headmen, or clan mothers, and so on. Not 'chiefs'. Native leaders were highly disrespected by the USA. So calling someone 'Chief', is just a way to continue that disrespect. Trust us when we tell you, being called 'chief' carries with it the same insulting, belittling sting for a Native man as being called 'boy' does for African American men."
In either case, the word is not appropriate to use in reference to Lincoln Loud. Nickelodeon has grown a lot from where they once started by slowly integrating more BIPOC into their shows and even creating an acknowledgement for George Floyd's murder but still they have a lot of growth to do. So hey if anyone from Nick sees this, you guys were my childhood but PLEASE don't use the term chief in your shows please and thanks :)
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2020.10.19 03:23 Helen5808 This is gonna be a thing now

Understand the Context.
The voyage by Christopher Columbus in 1492 that connected the Eastern and Western hemispheres led to the first global trade networks. They provided the framework for historical events for the following centuries.
Establishment of Maritime Empires. Between 1450 and 1750, European states, starting with the Portuguese and Spanish, sought a transoceanic route to Asia. Europeans established trading post empires in the Indian Ocean that
inadvertently brought them into contact with the Americas.
Global Exchanges. Trans-Atlantic trade linked the Americas, Europe, and Africa for the first time. European colonists who wanted sugar and other crops to sell in the global market developed plantations in the Americas. Their desire for laborers fueled the trade in enslaved Africans. Trans-Pacific trade flourished as well. Silver mined in Latin America was the major commodity.
Over time, the transfer of crops, animals, and disease between the Eastern and Western hemispheres, known as the Columbian Exchange, altered life everywhere. The introduction of potatoes, corn, and tomatoes to Europe led to population growth. The introduction of deadly pathogens, such as small pox and measles, devastated the populations of the Americas.
Change and Continuity. Within the context of increasing European influence, regional commerce and established states in Afro-Eurasia continued to flourish. The Mughal, Ottoman, and Qing Empires expanded, creating ethnically diverse states. Across the globe, peasant and artisan labor intensified as the demand for goods and food increased. These developments set the stage for the revolutions that defined the period after 1750.
Technological Innovations.
The sailors, moreover, as they sail over the sea, when in cloudy weather they can no longer profit by the light of the sun, or when the world is wrapped up in the darkness of the shades of night, and they are ignorant to what point of the compass their ship's course is directed, they touch the magnet with a needle which (the needle) is whiled round in a circle until, when its motion ceases, its point looks direct to the north.
- Alexander Neckham (1157-1217).
Essential Question: How did cross-cultural interactions spread technology and facilitate changes in trade and travel from 1450 to 1750?
Although land-based empires were important during this period, various inventions allowed Europeans to venture long distances on the ocean. The magnetic compass, originally created in China for fortune telling, helped steer a ship in the right direction, as described by Alexander Neckham. The astrolabe, improved by Muslim navigators in the 12th century, let sailors find out how far north or south they were from the equator. The caravel, a small, three-masted sailing ship developed by the Portuguese in the 15th century, allowed sailors to survive storms at sea better than carlier-designed ships. Cartography, or mapmaking, and knowledge of current and wind patterns also improved navigation
Demographic pressures pushed Europeans into exploration and trade. As the population grew, not all workers in Europe could find work or even food. Not all sons of the wealthy could own land because primogeniture laws gave all of each estate to the eldest son. In the carly 17th century, religious minorities searched for a place to settle where people were tolerant of their dissent. All of these groups, as well as those just longing for adventure and glory, were eager to settle in new areas. Those who left their homelands in search of work, food, land, tolerance, and adventure were part of a global shift in demographics.
Developments of Transoceanic Travel and Trade
Europe was never totally isolated from East and South Asia. The Indian Ocean trade routes had long brought silk, spices, and tea to the Mediterranean by way of the Red Sea. Islamic traders had long known of land routes from China to the cities of Baghdad and Constantinople and from there to Rome. Then, in the 16th century, more and more Europeans became active in the Indian Ocean, with hopes of finding wealth and new converts as their twin motives.However, Europeans faced competition from Middle Eastern traders based in kingdoms such as Oman. For example, the Portuguese set up forts in Oman but were repeatedly challenged by attempts to remove them. The Omani- European rivalry was one reason for Christopher Columbus's search for a new route to India.
The voyages by Columbus connected people across the Atlantic Ocean.
European traders became go-betweens linking Afro-Eurasia and the Americas.
• From the Americas, they purchased sugar, tobacco, and rum.
• From Africa, they purchased enslaved people.
• From Asia, they purchased silk, spices, and thubarb.
This extensive trade transformed Spain, Portugal, Great Britain, France, and Holland into maritime empires, ones based on sea travel.
Much of this trade was carried out by men. However, in Southeast Asia, Europeans conducted most of their business with women, who traditionally handled markets and money-changing services in those cultures.
Classical, Islamic, and Asian Technology
Western European countries such as Portugal, Spain, and England were developing their naval technology. They were aware of traditions of sailing that went back to the classical Greeks, such as using the stars to navigate. They combined this knowledge with new ideas developed by Islamic and Asian sailors and scholars, which they learned about because of the cross- cultural interactions resulting from trade networks. Al-Andalus, in what is now Spain, was a place where Islamic ideas diffused into Europe.
The leading European figure in this development was Portuguese ruler Prince Henry the Navigator. While he never sailed far enough out to sea to lose sight of land, he strongly supported exploration. He financed expeditions along Africa's Atlantic Coast and around the Cape of Good Hope. With his backing, Portugal explore African coastal communities and kingdoms before other European powers.
Advances in Ideas. As scholars gathered knowledge, they improved the safety of sailing on the ocean. For example, Newton's discovery of gravitation increased knowledge of the tides. As a result, sailors could reliably predict when the depth of water near a shore would be decreasing, thereby exposing dangerous rocks. As people kept increasingly accurate records on the direction and intensity of winds, sailors could sail with greater confidence.
Improvements in cartography also improved navigation. An astronomical chart is any map of the stars and galaxies. Mariners relied on these maps to guide ships' direction, especially before the introduction of the compass, using the skies to help them determine their location. Ancient astronomers in Babylonia and Mesopotamia had created star charts as early as the 2nd millennium B.C.E. Charts by Chinese astronomers date back to the 5th century B.C.E. Charts were also used widely by classical Greek astronomers. Using telescopes to help create astronomical charts began in 1609, and the practice was widely used to map the stars by the end of the 17th century. Astronomers typically divided the charts into grids to help locate specific constellations and astronomical objects.
Advances in Equipment. Several developments in the equipment used on ships made sailing safer and faster than ever. Ships moved adroitly, aided by a new type of rudder, another idea imported from China. The astrolabe, improved by Muslim navigators in the 12th century, allowed sailors to determine how far north or south they were from the equator.
The compass is the primary direction-finding device used in navigation. It works either with magnets or a gyroscope, which is a wheel or disk mounted to spin rapidly around an axis in various directions. Other compasses determine the location of the sun or a specific star. The magnetic compass, originally invented in China, allowed sailors to steer a ship in the right direction. It is the oldest and most familiar. It was discovered by mariners in both China and Europe in the 12th century. This type of compass works as Earth itself acts as an enormous bar magnet. Earth's magnetic field is almost parallel to the north- south axis of the globe, which means that freely moving magnets, such as those in a compass, take on the same orientation.
The lateen sail, or a ship sail in the shape of a triangle, was a pivotal piece of technology. Used by Arab sailors and in the Indian Ocean, it significantly affected medieval navigation and trade. The ancient square sails that preceded the lateen allowed sailing only in a single direction and had to be used with the wind. The lateen, however, could catch the wind on either side of the ship, allowing it to travel in different directions. When used with the square sail, the lateen allowed sailors to travel successfully into large bodies of water, including oceans, for the first time, thus expanding trade routes.
New types of ships also improved trade. By adjusting the ratio of length to width of a ship, adding or reducing the number of masts, and using different types of sails, builders could adapt ships to improve their efficiency. (Connect: Compare the technological advances of the Mongols and Chinese of the 12th and 13th centuries with those in the chart below. See Topic 2.1.)
Three Types of Ships. See graph.
Long-Term Results. The long-term result of combining navigational techniques invented in Europe with those from other areas of the world was a rapid expansion of exploration and global trade. About the only part of the Afro- Eurasia world not affected by the rapid increase in global trade was Polynesia, since it was far removed from trading routes.
The introduction of gunpowder, another Chinese invention, aided Europeans in their conquests abroad. Soon enough, however, sea pirates also used the new technology, particularly the Dutch pirates known as Sea Beggars.
In North Africa and in the trading cities along Africa's east coast, Islam spread rapidly as a result of the growth of the Abbasid Empire, centered in Baghdad, and the activities of Muslim merchants. Interactions among various cultures inside and outside of Africa brought extensive trade and new technology to the continent.
Navigational techniques continued to spread throughout the 17th century. Russia's Tsar Peter the Great visited Western Europe in 1697 to observe military and naval technology. His interest in European technology led him to hire technicians from Germany and elsewhere to help build Russia's military and naval power.
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2020.10.18 23:32 yeet_yeet_112 Boyfriend Admitted I Was A Rebound And He Never Had Feelings For Me

I (23F) just ended a short relationship with a narcissist (26M). We started as FWB 2.5 months ago. Before we first met in person, we acknowledged neither of us was looking for anything too long term or serious. I'm leaving the city for a PhD next fall. He didn't clarify why on his end, but I figured maybe he was too busy with finishing med school and working on his start-up to get invested in anything.
Throughout our FWB, he initiated texting all day every day, sometimes triple texting me and Facetiming me to make sure I got home safe. We had a ton in common research wise and in our witty banter. He kept me in the loop on everything. So many inside jokes and voice note exchanges. He even took me camping when I said I'd never been. He told me multiple times I was "an absolute delight" "so unbelievably smart and sexy" "the best he's ever had" "can't stop thinking about me" "wished we were cuddled up." In my mind, it seemed like he'd fallen harder than he'd anticipated and was making a ton of time for me despite his busy schedule - he'd ask me to spend the entire weekend over at his place and work to finish as much as possible before I got there. He got hair products, so I could braid his hair and watch shows with him. That kind of thing. He even deleted his Tinder infront of me unprompted because he said he didn't need it anymore.
So after 2.5 months of seeing each other exclusively, I start to develop feelings for him. It really hit me when we went kayaking and someone asked if we were married or dating and he laughed and said "we're just friends." I thought back to us holding hands in a tent and falling asleep together, and it just didn't feel that casual. So I asked him a week later if he was interested in seeing where this goes and said I wasn't sure I could continue much longer being physically engaged since I'd started to develop feelings. He replied that we were indeed practically dating and that he "enjoyed his time so much with me." He said he still wasn't sure about long distance or anything too serious quite yet, but what we had was definitely more than a FWB. He then asked me if I would go out with him. I said yes, and he amped up the romance even more over the week. He thanked me for being so open and honest, calling this "extremely attractive and reassuring."
When we met up again, he had set up a massage area for me and was calling me babe. He told me everything was on him for the weekend. We had great sex per usual and cuddled up inside with some food. The next day, I ask if we should continue the conversation about dating in person since it transpired over text. This is where the truth came out.
I'd told him about my past relationships, and he'd hinted at his, but kept it brief and didn't lament, so I'd honestly thought he'd moved on. Holy shit was I wrong.
He starts by saying he got out of an 8 (!) year relationship 8 months ago (3 years long distance). He thought he would marry this girl, but then when he started actually thinking about proposing, realized he wanted a Muslim wife to maintain the household since he wasn't disciplined enough to (had no idea he wanted to become a more conservative Muslim since he was... you know... fucking me), so he broke up with her. He then told me I was a rebound, and he didn't have feelings for me after I pushed him on what this meant in our context. He said he reacted impulsively over text when he asked me out because he didn't want to lose the distraction I provided from his ex, and maybe the reason he treated me like a girlfriend is because that's all he's known for 8 years. But he did not have feelings for me. He said I proved to him that there were other smart, beautiful women in the world and when he was with me, he wasn't thinking about his ex. He did concede that maybe he knew in the back of his mind he was treating me like a girlfriend, but didn't want to acknowledge it.
I told him the reason I began the discussion via text was to give him time to think free of any biased dispositions on my end. I ask how could he ethically ask me out and game a relationship for a week. He even acknowledged that if I hadn't brought it up again, he wouldn't have said anything. He figured we'd have either broken up organically, because of LDR, or he'd eventually come clean yet again about the type of wife he's looking for. I then told him he was selfish and manipulated me into whatever arrangement would get me to continue having sex with him.
Yes, we said we were FWB, but he wanted a girlfriend experience without any commitment or clear communication. To straight up ask me to be his gf rather than ending things and finding someone else to fuck is mind boggling. I packed up my things and left without acknowledging his goodbye or tears. I'm more stunned than hurt, but what a lesson on the downsides of going with the flow. I'm glad I left with my dignity. For now a dating break, but eventually on to better things.
Tl;dr FWB to relationship to realizing I'm just a rebound he was projecting a relationship onto to continue fucking me and distracting himself from an 8 year relationship ending.
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2020.10.18 23:28 MudassirMEMD Blasphemy punishment in Islam: Sharia, Hadith, and Quran verses

Sharia:

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Islam_and_blasphemy#Traditional_jurisprudence
Hanafi – views blasphemy as synonymous with apostasy, and therefore, accepts the repentance of apostates. Those who refuse to repent, their punishment is death if the blasphemer is a Muslim man, and if the blasphemer is a woman, she must be imprisoned with coercion (beating) till she repents and returns to Islam.] Imam Abu Hanifa opined that a non-Muslim can not be killed for committing blasphemy. Other sources say his punishment must be a tazir (discretionary, can be death, arrest, caning, etc.).
 
Maliki – view blasphemy as an offense distinct from, and more severe than apostasy. Death is mandatory in cases of blasphemy for Muslim men, and repentance is not accepted. For women, death is not the punishment suggested, but she is arrested and punished till she repents and returns to Islam or dies in custody. A non-Muslim who commits blasphemy against Islam must be punished; however, the blasphemer can escape punishment by converting and becoming a devout Muslim.
 
Hanbali – view blasphemy as an offense distinct from, and more severe than apostasy. Death is mandatory in cases of blasphemy, for both Muslim men and women, and repentance is not accepted.
 
Shafi’i – recognizes blasphemy as a separate offense from apostasy, but accepts the repentance of blasphemers. If the blasphemer does not repent, the punishment is death.
 
Ja'fari (Shia) – views blasphemy against Islam, the Prophet, or any of the Imams, to be punishable with death, if the blasphemer is a Muslim. In case the blasphemer is a non-Muslim, he is given a chance to convert to Islam, or else killed
 
 

Hadith and Quran sources:

The following are 3 Hadiths where Muhammad gave the OK to kill people who "maligned" him, "disparaged" him, and hurt him with evil statements about his family.
 
1) Sahih Muslim Book 32, 146 - http://sunnah.com/muslim/32/146
TLDR: Muhammad ordered the murder of someone who had said bad things about him, and he even told one of the target's former friends that it was OK to tell lies in order to do it.
It has been narrated on the authority of Jabir that the Messenger of Allah (may peace be upon him) said: Who will kill Ka'b b. Ashraf? He has maligned Allah, the Exalted, and His Messenger. Muhammad b. Maslama said: Messenger of Allah, do you wish that I should kill him? He said: Yes. He said: Permit me to talk (to him in the way I deem fit). He said: Talk (as you like). So, Muhammad b. Maslama came to Ka'b and talked to him, referred to the old friendship between them and said: This man (i. e. the Holy Prophet) has made up his mind to collect charity (from us) and this has put us to a great hardship. When be heard this, Ka'b said: By God, you will be put to more trouble by him. Muhammad b. Maslama said: No doubt, now we have become his followers and we do not like to forsake him until we see what turn his affairs will take. I want that you should give me a loan. He said: What will you mortgage? He said: What do you want? He said: Pledge me your women. He said: You are the most handsome of the Arabs; should we pledge our women to you? He said: Pledge me your children. He said: The son of one of us may abuse us saying that he was pledged for two wasqs of dates, but we can pledge you (cur) weapons. He said: All right. Then Muhammad b. Maslama promised that he would come to him with Harith, Abu 'Abs b. Jabr and Abbad b. Bishr. So they came and called upon him at night. He came down to them. Sufyan says that all the narrators except 'Amr have stated that his wife said: I hear a voice which sounds like the voice of murder. He said: It is only Muhammad b. Maslama and his foster-brother, Abu Na'ila. When a gentleman is called at night even it to be pierced with a spear, he should respond to the call. Muhammad said to his companions: As he comes down, I will extend my hands towards his head and when I hold him fast, you should do your job. So when he came down and he was holding his cloak under his arm, they said to him: We sense from you a very fine smell. He said: Yes, I have with me a mistress who is the most scented of the women of Arabia. He said: Allow me to smell (the scent on your head). He said: Yes, you may smell. So he caught it and smelt. Then he said: Allow me to do so (once again). He then held his head fast and said to his companions: Do your job. And they killed him.
See also: http://sunnah.com/bukhari/64/84
 
2) Sahih Bukhari Book 64, #185 - http://sunnah.com/bukhari/64/185
TLDR: Muhammad asks Muslims to "relieve" him of a man who said "evil statements" about his family.
…So, on that day, Allah's Apostle got up on the pulpit and complained about 'Abdullah bin Ubai (bin Salul) before his companions, saying, 'O you Muslims! Who will relieve me from that man who has hurt me with his evil statement about my family? By Allah, I know nothing except good about my family and they have blamed a man about whom I know nothing except good and he used never to enter my home except with me.' Sad bin Mu'adh the brother of Banu 'Abd Al-Ashhal got up and said, 'O Allah's Apostle! I will relieve you from him; if he is from the tribe of Al-Aus, then I will chop his head off, and if he is from our brothers, i.e. Al-Khazraj, then order us, and we will fulfill your order.' …
Doesn't this sort of hadith encourage Muslims to defend Muhammad's honor at all costs?
 
3) Sunan Abu-Dawud Book 40 #11 - http://sunnah.com/abudawud/40/11
TLDR: Muhammad said it was OK when a man killed his pregnant slave wife for slandering Muhammad.
Narrated Abdullah Ibn Abbas: A blind man had a slave-mother who used to abuse the Prophet (peace_be_upon_him) and disparage him. He forbade her but she did not stop. He rebuked her but she did not give up her habit. One night she began to slander the Prophet (peace_be_upon_him) and abuse him. So he took a dagger, placed it on her belly, pressed it, and killed her. A child who came between her legs was smeared with the blood that was there. When the morning came, the Prophet (peace_be_upon_him) was informed about it. He assembled the people and said: I adjure by Allah the man who has done this action and I adjure him by my right to him that he should stand up. Jumping over the necks of the people and trembling the man stood up. He sat before the Prophet (peace_be_upon_him) and said: Apostle of Allah! I am her master; she used to abuse you and disparage you. I forbade her, but she did not stop, and I rebuked her, but she did not abandon her habit. I have two sons like pearls from her, and she was my companion. Last night she began to abuse and disparage you. So I took a dagger, put it on her belly and pressed it till I killed her. Thereupon the Prophet (peace_be_upon_him) said: Oh be witness, no retaliation is payable for her blood.
 
 
Quran 33:57-61:
Those who annoy Allah and His Messenger - Allah has cursed them in this World and in the Hereafter, and has prepared for them a humiliating Punishment.
And those who annoy believing men and women undeservedly, bear (on themselves) a calumny and a glaring sin.
O Prophet! Tell thy wives and daughters, and the believing women, that they should cast their outer garments over their persons (when abroad): that is most convenient, that they should be known (as such) and not molested. And Allah is Oft-Forgiving, Most Merciful.
Truly, if the Hypocrites, and those in whose hearts is a disease, and those who stir up sedition in the City, desist not, We shall certainly stir thee up against them: Then will they not be able to stay in it as thy neighbours for any length of time:
They shall have a curse on them: whenever they are found, they shall be seized and slain (without mercy).
What exactly does it mean when it says that Allah "curses them in this world"? Some Muslim scholars have taken this to justify punishments of blasphemers.
 
Quran 5:33
Muslim scholars have also used verse 5:33 to justify the punishment of blasphemers:
The punishment of those who wage war against Allah and His Messenger, and strive with might and main for mischief through the land is: execution, or crucifixion, or the cutting off of hands and feet from opposite sides, or exile from the land: that is their disgrace in this world, and a heavy punishment is theirs in the Hereafter; Except for those who repent before they fall into your power: in that case, know that Allah is Oft-forgiving, Most Merciful
 
Note: These are the Yusuf Ali translations (possibly most popular translation in the world). For other translations you can go to: http://quranx.com/33.57-61 and click the other translations on the top left.
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2020.10.18 22:36 removalbot 10-18 20:36 - 'I have nothing against Muslims and I am all for religious freedom of expression. But if your personal beliefs support violence or death towards those who merely depict your prophet or deity, then yes, you should gtfo. / Same g...' by /u/Clbull removed from /r/worldnews within 32-42min

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I have nothing against Muslims and I am all for religious freedom of expression. But if your personal beliefs support violence or death towards those who merely depict your prophet or deity, then yes, you should gtfo.
Same goes to those who cannot respect Western freedoms or customs. If the first reaction you have to say... your daughter dating somebody outside your caste or having premarital sexual relations with a national is to brutally murder her for bringing "shame" upon the family, then you should gtfo too. There is no honour in honour killings.
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2020.10.18 19:02 devilsphilanthropist 23F UK, looking for wholesome female friends

Hi, some background on me:
I have been though depression and anxiety due to an rough childhood and had a weak friend base of some christian girls. I then 2 years ago I got into learning about Islam. I fell in love with the religion and converted. That spelt death for my weak Christian friendships. I get that muslims are scary to a lot of people, but I am open minded and I hope I can find people who are too. I don't care what religion or lack of you are, I will respect your beliefs and not try to convert you.
I'm looking for wholesome friends who will not try to get me to engage in drinking or gossip with them, or pressure me for photos for social media. I'm not judgemental in the slightest however, I don't care what sins you have, we all have sins.
I like people who have interests or hobbies and are passionate about them even if they are not the same as mine. My interests are: gardening and nature, human biology, reading classics and philosophy, cooking and baking, sewing and crafts. Politically I lean more to the right as I do not trust the government to make my decisions for me or help me. Supposed systems let me down in my childhood. I think a lot of so called wealth distribution just benefits the middle class, and I believe individuals should be free to choose for themselves and make their own mistakes.
I want a friend or two that I can have coffee dates with and go to the cinema or go out for meals or go around the shops. I want to do charity projects and volunteer with them in the local community. E.g. litter picks
I'm based in Oxfordshire and would love to make friends from nearby. Ideally I can chat to you first online then meet you in person. I will have a chaperone at first and meet you in a public place to be safe. I am very rusty on socialising so will need someone willing to be forgiving of my awkwardness.
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2020.10.18 17:24 Trollerlel009 Is it true that Book of Denkard 9 was authored in 1020 and Zoroastrianism copied the idea of hell bridge from Islam?

https://youtu.be/KSFQ5IIm-6Q Around 0:34-1:16 timestamp, Apostate Prophet says the hellfire bridge is also mentioned in zoroastrianism but Farid says he couldn't find it and neither could I. Where does zoroastrianism say that people will cross the hellfire bridge like Islam?
Around 1:28-2:06 timestamp, Farid says book of denkard 9 was authored in 1020CE in Baghdad, which is true, though there are no citations/references. (Date and authorship section)
Another link, wikisource article.
At the time of writing this before posting it, I found this wiki article (Gathas) through As Sirat article. The wiki article itself doesn't say anything about the hellfire bridge but after searching on duckduckgo, it seems like these two websites Website 1
Website 2 (PDF) talks about the hell fire bridge in zoroastrianism but I'm not sure about it because it's a long wall of texts. Is this where zoroastrianism mentions the hell fire bridge?
Btw, I'm muslim and not looking for a debate, just answers. Thanks. Edit: made it easier to click on links.
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