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2020.11.23 20:43 juanteeze The Bucket List of Juan

As a natural free spirit, I’m of the belief that everybody should have a bucket list. I believe it should consist of overcoming fears, achieving once unattainable goals, realizing childhood dreams, taking risks, and doing things that you wouldn’t do under normal circumstances…kind of like having that Magic School Bus Miss Frizzle “take chances, make mistakes, get messy” mentality. Of course, a lot of people won’t agree with that and I think those people are sissies…but that’s just my opinion. For me, I sat down in January of 2013 and identified 75 unique things I want to do before I kick the proverbial bucket. I’ve already completed a few of the following items. I’ll detail those collectively in a future post and the remaining items as I complete them. That written, here is my bucket list as I wrote it in January 2013. Let me know what you think.

  1. Bowl a game of 220 or better. This would be a grand moment considering the best game of my life (166) is more than twice my career average (82.7).
  2. Learn archery. Long before Jennifer Lawrence was picking cats off in The Hunger Games, I’ve always wanted to acquire this skill…for the physical benefits (improved upper body strength, balance, and coordination) and the mental aspects (clear mind and increased focus).
  3. Perform the Argentine Tango with a native Latin American woman in Buenos Aires. Aside from the first dance I’ll have as a married man, this may very well be the defining moment of my life on any dance floor.
  4. Perform the Foxtrot and the Waltz on a date. This is why I secretly took ballroom dance in Tokyo for 3 years…all for that moment to leave a marquee impression. I just hope the lucky lady respects the “lead and follow” rule.
  5. Go sky diving. I’ve always wanted to do it. And considering I know a lot more about parachutes—courtesy of one of my good friends—I don’t have an uneasiness about it anymore.
  6. Go white water rafting. I just want to see what the craze is all about. It’s high risk with the rocks and the drops but I’m sticking to one of the lower grades. I want to complete a bucket list item, not die.
  7. Zipline through the Cloud Forest in Monteverde, Costa Rica. I’ve never been one to be frightened of heights but after a particular incident in Air Force basic military training, I wasn’t really receptive to covering distances end-to-end hanging on a wire. That changed when I ended up by myself in one of the glass bottom Ngong Ping Cable Cars in Hong Kong a few years back. I’ll do a few runs Stateside before I venture down to journey through the clouds.
  8. Visit Red Square. Let’s break it down. A historic city. Saint Basil’s Cathedral. The Kremlin. Lenin’s Mausoleum. The Iberian Gate. Ummm…yeah, for a history freak like myself (I did have a 5.0 GPA in the history division in high school), this is a must.
  9. Learn to say “Hello, my name is Juan” in the native tongue of every nation in the European Union. I’m sure to impress a few of the locals and maybe a few expatriates in doing so.
  10. Visit Cuba. Hopefully, those cats in DC will stop playing politics and get rid of the embargo so I can go and do my 3-day travel thing. But, if not, I don’t have any issues with going as part of a people-to-people exchange. Either that or I’ll give up American citizenship and become a Canuck.
  11. Visit Christ the Redeemer. There is absolutely no way I’ll allow myself to leave Rio de Janeiro without a visit. It’ll definitely be one of my more proud moments as a Christian.
  12. Visit the Great Barrier Reef. No doubt about it, the only way I’ll truly get the maximum value out of that Nikon D90 I dropped a 12-spot on a few years back is to get a shot of this marvelous sight.
  13. Visit The Acropolis of Athens. You don’t just pass up a chance to see one of the most universally-recognized attractions in the world.
  14. Visit The Louvre. I love art museums and I actually visited this one as a teenager. But I was so young back then, still in my “tourist phase”. I didn’t appreciate it. A 2nd go-around is mandatory.
  15. Visit Niagara Falls. C’mon…who doesn’t want to get a picture of Niagara Falls?
  16. Attend the Toronto International Film Festival. I’m a lover of films so it’s no doubt that I’ll land myself in Toronto to attend one. Hey…why not see the hottest film on the block before 99% of the rest of the world does.
  17. Jog end to end and back on the Golden Gate Bridge. Roughly 3 ½ miles…that’s the equivalent of a normal PT run during my Air Force days.
  18. Buy an apple in Pike Place Market. Pretty simple but it carries a lot of meaning.
  19. Visit Disney World. Every kid should experience the thrill of going to “the happiest place on Earth”. I didn’t get that chance in my youth. I’ll get there but I’m likely saving the moment for the 5th birthday of my first-born child.
  20. Wave a flag at an international sporting event. A true fan waves the flag on the biggest stage.
  21. Take a picture of Hong Kong from Victoria Peak. As a fan of skylines and cityscapes, the Hong Kong skyline from The Peak is the holy grail of skylines.
  22. Experience A Symphony of Lights. Once one is done taking that famed picture at The Peak, get down to the Tsim Sha Tsui Promenade along Victoria Harbour at 8pm local and experience one of the best light shows ever.
  23. Make a stained glass window. It’ll make a cool arts and crafts project. Besides, I could potentially create a family heirloom. What’s cooler than that?
  24. Read every book by Charles Dickens. That’s my favorite all-time author. I’ve read all the majors but I’ll read them again and add the lesser knowns too. Heck, I may even buy them all to add to my library.
  25. Watch every movie that has won the Palme d’Or Award in my lifetime. The Golden Palm. The highest prize at the Cannes Film Festival. I’ve only seen 3 of the films released since 1984—Fahrenheit 9/11, Pulp Fiction, and Sex, Lies & Videotape—but my interest in watching the other 26 and possibly more since it is all the winners in my “lifetime” has reached a fever pitch of sorts since my official film festival debut (Toronto International Film Festival, 2013).
  26. Become a better public speaker by joining Toastmasters International. Something I pride myself on is my ability to write well. My ability to write well has translated into me speaking well. I want to become an even better speaker. Eventually, I want to give an oratory address that will move people. Joining Toastmasters will put me in position. After all, their motto is “Become the Speaker & Leader You Want To Be”.
  27. Become a notary public. It’ll probably be the closest to public office that I’ll get…and I get a cool stamp for being one, too.
  28. Meet a Brit soul singer from my Windows Media Player. That’s definitely not an easy one considering that list consists of the following: Sade, Corinne Bailey Rae, Marsha Ambrosius, Leona Lewis, Joss Stone, Ms. Dynamite, and Craig David. Laura Izibor is in there too but technically, she’s Irish.
  29. Meet an MVP or MOP from either of the following: Super Bowl, NBA Finals, World Series, BCS National Championship Game, or Men’s Final Four. It would be extra cool to have an opportunity to converse with the guy about one of the biggest moments in his athletic career.
  30. Make the front page of the newspaper. I’ve been in the newspaper plenty of times…just not on the front. Being on the front page of the newspaper—local or national—is like legendary stuff. Everybody who knows you will probably keep that paper as a keepsake and you’ll have something to tell your grandkids. Hopefully, they won’t get me in under the fold.
  31. Become a CNN Hero. I always said I wanted to make a difference on a global level.
  32. Get an article published in a newspaper or magazine. You think they’re ready for me?
  33. Acquire post-nominal initials. I consider it cool to have initials behind your name…kind of makes you seem like a big deal.
  34. Win NaNoWriMo. 1667 words a day for 30 days in November. That’s it? Well, go ahead and give me my award because 50000 words ain’t nothing to me.
  35. Audition to be an extra in a film. Everybody loves to see their name in the credits. That’s why you see a lot of people stay back at the end of movies.
  36. Drive a Lamborghini or Ferrari. I’m not flashy enough to ever own one of these joints but I’m high-falutin’ enough to rent one for a day.
  37. Leave a valuable contribution in my area of expertise. I left a lot of knowledge, a lot of success secrets, and ideas for future development with those I worked with as I walked away from my military career as a civil engineer. I don’t know if any of that was received and it’s likely that I’ll never know. However, I can use that same drive, that same fire for professional excellence I had as a serviceman in my civilian career and leave a contribution that’ll help advance my industry.
  38. Create a trust fund for my child. I want my kid to have all the things I didn’t get a chance to have. I want my kid to live without the financial struggles I lived with early on.
  39. Find the love of my life. A lifetime of mistakes, bad calls, and heartbreaks undone by a woman whose mere presence holds much significance to my future: how’s that for a love story? Can’t wait to see it in person.
  40. Propose in stunning fashion. The funny thing about this is I already know how it’s going to happen and where it’s going to happen. All that’s left is a lead lady and a period of courtship.
  41. Get married. It’s a prerequisite for a couple of other bucket list items. And I get to kiss somebody’s grown daughter in front of everybody.
  42. Have a child. I want a daughter and we’ll try until I get one. Just kidding…or am I? Seriously, children are a blessing from the Lord and I would love nothing more than to have a healthy, happy child to raise towards being a productive citizen of society. It should be noted that I’m not limiting myself to just one child…just can’t complete this item until I have at least one.
  43. Build a house. Why buy somebody else’s dream home when I can build my own…exactly how I want it.
  44. Catch a wedding garter. I’m willing to bet the moment this happens, the preceding 6 bucket list items will all happen within 3 years.
  45. Go to an Olympic Games. Doesn’t matter if it’s a Summer or Winter Olympiad, I’m going to one in my lifetime. And I’m gonna be there for either the opening ceremony or the closing ceremony.
  46. Attend a national championship game. Being in attendance at college football’s biggest game and seeing the national championship game logo at midfield or feeling the intensity of being in the stands on the biggest Monday in the college basketball season would be a grand moment for me as a sports fan.
  47. Attend a Kansas game at Phog Allen Fieldhouse. 16300 crazy fans rooting for the best team in America. Yep, I’m there. Rock Chalk Jayhawk…Go K-U.
  48. Attend a Packers game at Lambeau Field. It’s like the cathedral for American gridiron football. I need to get an end zone ticket so I can take in the tradition of the players jumping in the stands.
  49. Attend an Ohio State night game at Ohio Stadium. 106000 fans. Script Ohio. A live ESPN Saturday Night Football on ABC broadcast. I’m there.
  50. Attend a match at Wimbledon. It’s like the greatest event in tennis. Hopefully, I’m there when Venus Williams and Rafael Nadal are still good.
  51. Go to Macy’s Thanksgiving Day Parade. I just want to see the Charlie Brown balloon.
  52. Write a poetry book. I’ve written scores of poems of all kinds in my lifetime and I’ve always thought about releasing them to the public.
  53. Stay in an overwater bungalow in Bora Bora. Can you say honeymoon?
  54. Volunteer in a 3rd world country? Going to a place that’s very much likely to be even worse than the place I grew up in and giving my time to make life just a little bit more comfortable would be a great thing for me in so many facets of life.
  55. Take a picture in front of every Statehouse in America. Completing this one means that I’ll have to step foot into every state capital in the United States. That means I’ll have to one day return to Florida and Louisiana…places I’ve long stayed away from.
  56. Collect a postcard from 100 different cities in 100 different countries. This one is actually going to be easier than I imagined…being that I’m a Postcrosser and all. Oh yeah, I’m not counting the United States of America.
  57. Throw 50 $50 bills from the top of a 50-story building in a city of 1 million residents. How many people you know got $2500 to throw off the top of a building in a large city? I just want to see how the people below will react to money falling from the sky. And who knows…maybe it’ll be an on-time blessing for somebody.
  58. Visit every Major League Baseball ballpark. I’m a huge fan of the game and sitting in attendance in every stadium should be a goal of every fan. Heck, I may do it all in one season.
  59. Attend Game 7 of a championship series. I don’t know if there is any more dramatic finish to a sports season than a Game 7. It’s truly winner take all. The intrigue for me is that it’ll be short notice (1 day for World Series, 2 days for NBA Finals and Stanley Cup Finals). Good thing I got a StubHub account, a trusted travel advisor, and a leisure fund.
  60. Kiss at the top of the London Eye. Every London bloke has this on his list…so should every American guy.
  61. Take a date to a Michelin 3-star restaurant. So you got me, a hot chick who’s probably wearing an LBD, and one of the finest dining establishments on the planet…that’ll be a nice evening out all by itself. It would also be the bookend of the dating experience for me being that my very first date was at the Arby’s next to my job at Domino’s Pizza.
  62. Solve a Rubik’s Cube. I bought one with my first ever paycheck in November 2000 and I still haven’t mastered it. Heck, I still haven’t gotten 2 solid-colored sides yet.
  63. Milk a cow. It looks creepy on TV and I actually think it hurts the cows, even though experts say it doesn’t. It would be an awesome experience though. I’ll even wear a straw hat and coveralls.
  64. Walk the edge of the CN Tower. Yep…I’m gonna be all up on the top of one of the tallest buildings in the world, walking on the edge. That’ll be 102.3 times better than walking on the glass ledge at the Sears Tower.
  65. Attend a FIFA World Cup Final. This is the marquee spectator sport experience. Being there for the championship of the world’s pastime is unmatched by any other sporting event.
  66. Ride on the front row of every rollercoaster at Cedar Point wearing a blindfold. Two summers ago, it was a trip to Kings Dominion that I rode on the front row of The Dominator and just like that, the thrill-seeker in me that had been long dormant was awakened. Now, my eyes are set for a trip to Sandusky, Ohio to take on a dozen rollercoasters that carry a “high” or “aggressive” thrill rating. Doing so with a blindfold on adds to the intrigue.
  67. Tip 300% on a meal $70 or more. I remember the days where I paid exact change on meals. Now, I pay 10% on bad service and at least 20% on all other service. Dropping a tip 3 times the price of the meal would by far be a sign of the best service I’ve ever had. Crazy thing is it might happen the same night I go to that Michelin 3-star restaurant.
  68. Visit the Auschwitz Concentration Camp or the Kigali Genocide Memorial. Horrible, despicable, unimaginable crimes happened in both places…changed entire ethnic groups forever. A history guy like myself would want to see the damage up close and personal…and to pay respects to the lives lost.
  69. Host a foreign exchange student. Personally, I think it would be cool to play host to a student from a foreign country. It would offer me the opportunity to leave an impression at an international level and I can probably make some kid’s experience in America or wherever I’m at a memorable one.
  70. Attend every race of the Triple Crown in the same year. I’ll get to wear my #1 suit to the Kentucky Derby, drink a virgin Black-Eyed Susan at the Preakness Stakes, and listen to the New York theme song at the Belmont Stakes all in a span of 5 weeks. Who knows…I might even see history too.
  71. Fly First Class on an Emirates A380. Imagine a 5-star luxury hotel 35000 miles in the sky, moving at 580 miles per hour…that’s Emirates First Class. You get a private suite with a sliding door, a personal mini-bar, a wardrobe, a fully flat bed with mattress along with on-demand food specially prepared per request, access to an onboard lounge to mingle with other passengers…and it has a shower spa.
  72. Complete a 365 Photography Project. This is a mere test of discipline. I barely got through a 30-day photo challenge on Instagram. A 365-day challenge would be heartbreaking if I got halfway and missed a day. But that’s the intrigue of it.
  73. Swim with stingrays at Stingray City. This is the only reason I’ve come up with for really wanting to go to the Caribbean.
  74. Take up residence in Vancouver, British Columbia. From the first time I visited in 2006, I’ve always been fascinated with the city, the people, and the culture. Oh, and I can’t forget the awesome views along False Creek. At some point in this life, that’s where I’m going to live…or at least have a space where I pay a utility bill. Completion of this bucket list item includes the entire Greater Vancouver Area so setting up shop in the suburbs of Whistler, Richmond, Surrey, or Burnaby would count.
  75. Complete this bucket list. It’s as simple as that.
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2020.11.23 19:45 TeamTraction The London Project - NEW YEAR SPECIAL ANNOUNCEMENT!

The London Project Has A Big Announcement: The New Years fireworks display has been a staple of the celebrations since 2000, and is one of the standout events of the year in London. However,with the ongoing pandemic it was inevitable they would be cancelled. When this was announced, A group of people from The London Project started preparation for recreating the new years fireworks display virtually, inside Minecraft.
The London project is an organisation who are recreating London 1:1 scale in the popular game, Hosting it online for everyone to join and see the sights of the city without ever leaving their home. The show will have lights, music, and sound, and will be live streamed across all major social media sites live on new years eve, so you can still have a new years celebration with fireworks! To stay up to date with news on the project and links to where it will go live, follow The London Project on Instagram, Twitter or join their Discord server at:
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2020.11.23 19:43 astrid_s95 This is my story of sex trafficking and abuse by a partner who I thought loved me. Now I know better (may be triggering)

It's important that I tell this story so that if someone out there is struggling or feels stuck, know that you can get out.
My parents married very young, at 18 and 19 respectively. They met even younger than that. My father is a narcissistic sociopath and my mother is/was a very codependent but empathetic woman with some very low self-esteem. Their relationship was rarely about their children when they were married because my father demanded to be served and my mother had not yet stepped into her independence.
You can imagine the unhealthy habits I picked up from my parents. There was sexual abuse I experienced as a child, which I know contributed to my problems growing up too. I spent many years dating men who would emotionally abuse me and I thought that it was ok because they weren't hitting me.
February 3, 2019 my grandpa passed away. My entire life shattered because this man was the glue, the rock, the foundation of not only my existence but my entire family's. This man and his wife (my grandmother) raised me during the times my parents could not.
Not one day after this, I decided to meet a man for a drink whom I matched with on a popular dating app that uses your social media connections. Something about him seemed very off, even in our initial exchanges, but I thought what the hell? A drink won't hurt. So we met and had one drink. He seemed arrogant. Nothing about him indicated he was interested in what I had to say and I got such a bad vibe from him, but mourning the loss of my grandfather, when he asked to meet again I said yes!
The next time we got together, it was at his house and I brought a friend. This was the wrong friend to bring, as she is very materialistic. She saw the huge house he had and the shiney fancy things and immediately gave her approval. I tend to think had I not been grieving I never would've even been there in the first place, but I digress.
Over time, he began to spoil me with gifts, random Venmo deposits, vacations, etc. I thought wow, this is great! Little did I know that the price I would pay for these things would not be with love and commitment, but with sex, obedience, and servitude. (March 2019)
It started out small, being chastised if I wasn't appreciative enough. I felt guilty for being ungrateful, so I tried harder. If I spoke out against something he did that I viewed as wrong or immoral, I would be gaslit until I questioned my sanity. There was one specific incident where he made a remark about my sister being sexy on our vacation and when I said I didn't like that, he left me there thousands of miles from home and he flew back. Once at a strip club when I went to tip a girl, he got angry because he thought I was showing him up, so he left until I managed to calm him down and give me a ride home. Once more, I did a silly 3 stooges type "got your nose" and slapped his forehead when we were drunk with friends and he threatened to report me for assaulting him. All of us were like wtf! But I stayed. (April to July 2019)
This is when it finally got weird. If it wasn't already. He knew I had a problem with prescription drug abuse in the past, particularly benzodiazepines. This relationship had obviously been stressing me out to no end and I was now living with him. He kept telling me how crazy I was, how unstable I was, and that I must need medication. I believed it. So when he illegally obtained a prescription for alprazolam (by lying to his doctor that he had anxiety) I was fucking desperate. He only got this Rx so he could give me these pills. (September 2019)
What happened next, is I began abusing these and looking for more pills anywhere I could. After 2 years clean! Once he knew I was adequately drugged and compliant, this is when the requests came to shoot and make porn. Because it had always been a fantasy of his. There isn't a whole lot I remember about this because of how drugged up I was from pills and booze, but I have seen what was recorded and they are not things I would consent to if I had my mental faculties about me. Did I mention I had never smoked a day in my life, but because this was his fetish I was forced to do this also? (September 2019)
I began to notice times where I would black out and be covered in strange hand or finger shaped bruises. Sometimes this would be after he threw parties with really strange friends that he joked about being pervy old men or swingers. But if I asked point blank about what happened and who these people were, he'd just say oh I was kidding or chill out or you just passed out and I put you in bed. I've had problems disocciating before, but this didn't feel like that...but even if it get the idea. Side note, a female friend of his once told me that unless I enjoyed games and being locked in a wine cellar, I probably shouldn't date him. Yeah. (September 2019)
Around this time, I had a breakdown at work and took a leave. I was on a wait list to get into a partial psychiatric program. I started to open up to my psychologist I'd been seeing sporadically for a year about what was happening. I'll never forget the concern, fear, and horror in her eyes. It was all over her face. She tried to control her voice and be as soothing as possible, but it was obvious. Something was wrong. Then the words came...." THIS IS SEX TRAFFICKING AND YOU NEED TO GET OUT. WE ARE MAKING AN EXIT PLAN RIGHT NOW!" (Oct - Nov 2019)
It was a shock to hear those words. I didn't believe it because I felt complicit. If you're still reading, you know I was sexually abused as a child. 2 years before meeting this man I was raped by a group of men and the police did nothing. In fact one of the officers blamed me. So I felt VERY complicit, like I somehow put myself there and asked for it and was undeserving of anyone's help. (Oct - Nov 2019)
It would take me getting into the partial hospital psych program where I spent 9-3 five days a week for several weeks and talking about my life and feelings to finally understand what was happening to me and how what had happened was wrong. Other group members with similar stories heard mine and related or shared their story and I related. It was beautiful. Part of me had hope I could still salvage my relationship though and so I brought in this man that had been abusing me for a family session. When the session leadehead therapist met him and told me to run, I should have. (Oct - Nov 2019)
It would be another month before I moved out. Another 3 months before I severed ties completely. And it took me being sober and the threat of physical violence against not only me but a female friend in my new apartment, which brought the police. I was fortunate in that I had one particular friend (who is now my fiancée) drop everything for me and get me out of that house and into my own place, but even then it took a lot of love and support, patience and listening to me vent before I fully realized the man I had been trying to love wasn't capable of loving me. (December-March 19-20)
My main goal in writing this is: 1. To show that there is always a way out of any situation. And 2. Sex trafficking can take many shapes. It doesn't always mean you get kidnapped and held in a dungeon by some creep. This was a very well-to-do and well-connected man in a big US city. And he was smart. He knew how not to get caught, believe me I'm analyzing it still to this day to see where he was careless. And 3. Revictimization is extremely common among survivors of abuse, so society as a whole needs to learn this and understand we are not looking for these things to happen. There are monsters out there looking for people like us.
TL;DR - I spent the better part of a year living with or giving my time to someone who was abusing me and using me for sex and other devious/nefarious purposes. It took a huge overhaul of my life and mental health, but I got out. I'm only here to share my story and it's impossible to sum up like this, but know if you are trapped you can get out. If your situation looks anything like mine did, you are not alone.
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2020.11.23 19:17 thehammersuit Looking to the Future: 2021 WRs

On Paper the 2021 Florida team is going to be stacked with talent. However most of our players but will either be really inexperienced or have played sparingly in 2020. Pair that with a decent schedule, a new QB, and potentially new additions to the coaching staff and this could be a little bit of a down year than what we have come to expect from Dan Mullen. It bodes well for sustained long term success though because I believe even with all those factors that our team will be extremely competitive next season.
Let's take a look at the WR group for 2021.

2020 WR Roster

Name Year Height/Weight 24/7 Rating 2020 Stats*
Rick Wells R-Sr 6’1 / 202 3 Star (.8727) 2rec, 24yds
Trevon Grimes Sr 6’4 / 218 4 Star (.9806) 22rec, 347yds, 6td
Kadarius Toney Sr 6’0 / 193 3 Star (.8790) 42rec, 503yds, 7td
Jordan Pouncey R-Jr 6’1 / 215 3 Star (.8540) NA
Jacob Copeland R-So 6’0 / 203 4 Star (.9651) 12rec, 207yds, 1td
Justin Shorter R-So 6’5 / 225 5 Star (.9962) 16rec, 195yds, 3td
Ja’Markis Weston R-Fr 6’4 / 215 3 Star (.8763) NA
Trent Whittemore R-Fr 6’4 / 210 3 Star (.8643) 8rec, 81yds, 1td
Xzavier Henderson Fr 6’4 / 191 4 Star (.9700) 6rec, 109yds, 1td
Ja’Quavion Fraziars Fr 6’4 / 211 4 Star (.9317) NA
*Stats are up to date as of 11/23
In 2020 Florida had 10 scholarship receivers on the roster. I would say between 10-12 WRs is the target we should shoot for every season.
Of those ten receivers, three are seniors (Rick Wells, Trevon Grimes, Kadarius Toney) and while they all still technically have a year of eligibility remaining because of COVID I expect all three to leave. I also expect Jacob Copeland to declare for the draft. More on that below.
That leaves Jordan Pouncey, Justin Shorter, Ja’Markis Weston, Trent Whittemore, Xzavier Henderson and Ja’Quavion Fraziars as the only returning receivers from 2020.
Trevon Grimes and Kadarius Toney should both be drafted in the 2nd-4th round range. Grimes skillset is highly sought after at the next level and Toney showing he can be a true WR this season has massively upgraded his draft stock. Rick Wells might come back since he technically can but I just really don’t see it. I expect he will try to transfer to a school where he can play more and has staff familiarity - Central Michigan and his former coach Jim McElwain might be a good choice for him.
Jacob Copeland is honestly someone who could end up coming back but I just really don’t see it. He is eligible for the draft and I just genuinely don’t think he is happy at Florida. He has complained numerous times on social media post games where he doesn't get enough touches, he will be competing against a lot of talented guys next season and I can almost see the staff just not putting up a fight to keep him around. I expect him to declare for the draft even though he shouldn’t and before anyone argues with me on this - this happens every year with a lot of players who should stay in school.

2021 WR Roster

Name Year Height/Weight 24/7 Rating Notes
Jordan Pouncey R-Sr 6’1 / 215 3 Star (.8540) Has a chance to be a veteran leader for this very young squad
Justin Shorter R-Jr 6’5 / 225 5 Star (.9962) Will be the top target next year for Floridas new QB. IMO has 1st Round Potential
Ja’Markis Weston R-So 6’4 / 215 3 Star (.8763) Might give it one more season and see if he can make it work, could be a 2022 transfer candidate if not
Trent Whittemore R-So 6’4 / 210 3 Star (.8643) Has a lot of potential and needs to step up
Xzavier Henderson So 6’4 / 191 4 Star (.9700) I expect him to make a major leap next season and be the top guy in 2022
Ja’Quavion Fraziars R-Fr 6’4 / 211 4 Star (.9317) Bit of a let down not playing in 2020 but has a ton of potential
Trevonte Rucker Fr 5’11 / 160 4 Star (.9225) Could be the next Toney but hopefully no rap career to distract him
Daejon Reynolds Fr 6’2 / 210 4 Star (.9161) Lots of talent and has a chance to really compete for playing time
Marcus Burke Fr 6’3 / 180 4 Star (.9148) Low key is my favorite of the three freshman WRs.
This squad will be very young and inexperienced next season which is to be expected when you don’t recruit WR well in 2019 (shakes fist at Billy G).
Pouncey is really an unknown. He could be good but might be more of a vet presence than actual on the field contributor. I am also on the fence with Weston. Dan Mullen praised him extensively but he hasn’t contributed at all in 2020 and considering he had a whole season of preparation before Henderson concerns me.
Shorter has so much potential and when he is lined up with Henderson and Whittemore they will all create significant mismatches with their height and speed.
Fraziars has a year head start against Rucker, Reynolds and Burke but don’t count out the new guys all three can play significant minutes this season.

2021 Projected WR Depth Chart

Starter Backup Rotation
Justin Shorter Ja’Quavion Fraziars Ja’Markis Weston
Trent Whittemore Jordan Pouncey Marcus Burke
Xzavier Henderson Trevonte Rucker Daejon Reynolds
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2020.11.23 19:15 ShrunkGiant Chinese Mail Order Brides on camera

He stated in recent months that the Philippine Consular Office in Seoul has obtained issues from Filipina other halves of abuses dedicated by their Oriental hubbies that created separation, separation and abandonment. As language and social differences come to be an issue, the Filipina ladies are considered as products purchased for a rate. Most of mail order brides from China to South Korea contain Chinese residents of Oriental ethnicity. Kyrgyzstan and Uzbekistan are sources of mail order brides to South Korea. The Oriental males really feel that because of the challenging circumstances from which the Filipina ladies come, social differences and also the language obstacle, they "will certainly not flee".

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Although adultery is a misdemeanor in most of the states with laws against it, some — including Michigan and Wisconsin — categorize the offense as a felony. Punishments vary widely by state. In Maryland, the penalty is a paltry $10 fine. But in Massachusetts, an adulterer could face up to three years in jail.
The majority of these women were solitary, yet some were widows, divorcées or runaways. The head of the Chinese federal government agency battling human trafficking trouble claimed this month contraband of ladies as well as children from neighboring nations right into China is raising in spite of initiatives to combat it. NBC's aborted funny regarding a bought Filipina bride reveals the midsts of the entertainment industry's cultural blindness. marriage agency Internet site without the ladies's knowledge or permission. Web sites often include sexualized and also semi-nude photos of the females.
On June 4, 2001, Turkmenian President Saparmurat Niyazov licensed a mandate that needed foreigners to pay a $50,000 fee to wed a Turkmen resident, and also to live in the nation as well as own building for one year. Authorities showed that the legislation was created to shield women from being ripped off right into violent relationships.In June 2005, Niyazov junked the $50,000 and the property-owning requirements. In November 2009, Philippine Ambassador to South Korea Luis T. Cruz alerted Filipina women versus weding Oriental men.

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Courtship was performed by letter, until a lady agreed to marry a man she had never ever fulfilled. Several females wanted to escape their present way of living, gain financial security and also see what life on the frontier could offer them.
Nevertheless, as a lot of companies are being ranged from outdoors Belarus, he has actually been incapable to stop this activity. Since 2003, the Federal government of Australia's willpower to lower what was deemed "unsuitable immigration" by then-Prime Minister John Howard has gotten energy. The Australian public even more welcomed its federal government's brand-new plans following the media circus of the Jana Klintoukh instance. According to an earlier Give Thornton International Business Report for 2012, Russia had an also greater percentage of females in senior administration at 46%, still highest possible on the planet.
Gladly, we have provided an inventory of the very best mail order websites that is not just real but also has the greatest assortment of solitary ladies trying to find marital relationship. Select the greatest Asian mail order bride-to-be site that fits your requirements. Japan does not belong to the class of the growing countries, and Japanese women do not have to seek for a rich foreign husband who may improve all their economic Chinese Mail Order Brides concerns. This is the problem for individuals who require to acquire an incredible wife and the bright side for many that are in search of love as well as love. Some of them suppose that Eastern mail order brides can not succeed in a relationship with Eastern men as a result of they have bad good manners as well as frustrating state of mind. If you'll make use of a dating platform to get an Oriental partner, you are not thought-about as an individual, that stopped working to discover an affiliate in the homeland. You merely need to find an elegance, that will share your tastes and choices, appropriate?
Canadian migration authorities frown upon conjugal-partners sponsorship for heterosexual pairs, and also currently require the pair to wed prior to a visa is provided. Ladies in Russia, Ukraine, Belarus, and other Eastern European countries are common mail-order bride prospects. European American guys discovered monetary success in the migration West, however the one point that was missing out on was the company of a wife. Very couple of women lived there right now, so it was hard for these males to calm down as well as start a family. They attempted to bring in women living back East; the guys composed letters to churches and also released individual advertisements in magazines and also newspapers. In return, the females would certainly write to the males as well as send them photographs of themselves.
But also for every one of those tales, there are additionally tales of honored, clever Asian ladies, choosing lives in distant locations and doing so by themselves terms. Initially, the Thai and also Filipina females were reluctant to speak with me out of fear of how they would certainly be portrayed. Visiting journalists that 'd reoccured had actually left a less than good perception, relaying tales that did little to break down the misconception of the subservient Oriental new bride. Currently, with 1,500 more males than females in between the ages of 18 and 60 on the islands, locating a wife can be hard. I am not Asian, yet having actually resided in a number of Oriental countries over many years, I understand women that battle the assumption that they are targets regardless of where worldwide they move.

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When I told people I was mosting likely to the remote Faroe Islands to movie women from Asia who had actually relocated there to wed males they satisfied online, many would certainly think they encountered some sort of exploitation or trafficking. Sometimes, the social pressure puts anxiety on younger Chinese people. ItвЂs possible that the Chinese language mail order new bride you satisfy shall be introverted.

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There has been a surge of mail-order promotions in Shanghai guaranteeing to locate better halves from Southeast Asia. Chinese authorities are advising guys to be cautious of marital relationship agency advertisements to discover them wives from Southeast Eastern nations.

Which country has the most loyal husbands?

Now let's jump on our list of countries with most faithful husbands.Italy. Russia. China. Canada. Turkey. Britain. United States. Americans are also high on the list of faithful husbands. Australia. Australians are at the very top of our list of 10 countries with most faithful husbands and not without reason. More items•
As for informing Pura's side of the tale, Clarke really did not specifically influence much self-confidence. Alex Jung explained cached article by Clarke that included gems such as, "The Asian compulsive is a relative of gay for evident reasons. In the picture, the personality of the Filipina mommy is portrayed angrily submitting her nails while three dewy-eyed youngsters grin from a corner. boyfriends worked as pimps for several of the worldwide (20%) and also UNITED STATE Noosibirsk, 655) are the residence of a moderate number of hired females.
Better, she said, Korean males identify Southeast Oriental women as friendly, hardworking, "accommodating as well as obedient, able to talk English, and also recognize with Oriental patriarchal society". Effective prosecution under this statute is unusual or non-existent as widespread deployment of the Net in the mid-1990s brought a proliferation of internet sites operating outside the Philippines which legally stay beyond the reach of Filipino law. One Montana site profiled in an ABS-CBN News and also Current Matters record qualified "Pinay Brides" prevented the restrictions by qualifying its function as that of a travel agency. Because of the multitude of Colombians wanting to leave their country by marrying immigrants, a black market for marriages to immigrants has actually created, with some individuals allegedly paying as long as 20 million pesos ($ 10,000) to unlawful groups. In 2005, President Alexander Lukashenko attempted to control "marriage companies" in Belarus and make it tough for them to run. He thought that Western men were draining his country of women of child-bearing age.
Yet with normal communication, they might turn out to be much more open and also friendly. Several might be atheist but fans an approach that can coexist with various other religions. The movie-- which broadcast Monday evening as a component of the PBS "Independent Lens" series-- considers Caucasian men's infatuation with Eastern ladies as well as checks out the stereotypes that paint Oriental women as sex-related and submissive creatures. It additionally checks out the intricacies of Steven and also Sandy's relationship as they navigate married life, managing a language barrier along with normal connection issues such as envy. Filmmaker Lum, a fourth-generation Chinese-American, discovered Steven on the online matchmaking website Oriental Buddy Finder, where he had actually been looking for as well as corresponding with prospective Chinese brides for several years.

Teenage Brides Trafficked to China Reveal Ordeal: ‘Ma, I’ve Been Sold’ - The New York Times

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lives, just to be forced into sex-related bondage in whorehouses in Taiwan. This vulnerability of disadvantaged women is well known to traffickers.

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Mail order brides are hardly a modern convention and the practice of selecting other halves from magazines or advertisements has been going on for hundreds of years. As he neared his 40th birthday celebration, nonetheless, Mr. Behnen began to tire of the rate. Early one early morning, after an evening invested making the rounds of Cincinnati bars, he quit to go to a 70-year-old priest as well as buddy from his days as a monk. After listening to his problem that he "didn't like conference women this way," Mr. Behnen states, the senior clergyman showed him a newspaper article regarding American Asian Worldwide Providers. However the isolation, Mrs. Elkington states, is a little price to pay for a life in the USA, a conviction she seems to share with much of the hundreds of other ladies that stare from mail-order brochures. Mr. Patterson picked more than 90 women from those in the brochure as well as those who had written to him, as well as sent them a kind letter telling about himself. He was, he wrote, birthed and raised in Tennessee, his work as a quality-control specialist at Planetic Design made him concerning $28,000 a year, he was sterile as well as he was trying to find a better half.
Vietnamese as well as Uzbek mail order brides have actually gone to Taiwan for marital relationship. While there is still no official demand for a minimum income, the enroller needs to give proof of income with their IMM 5481 Sponsorship Analysis. One of the major modifications was conjugal partner sponsorship, offered for any kind of two people (consisting of same-sex pairs) that have had conjugal connections together for at the very least one year.
may be exploited and abused by males who use to marry or embrace them. versus him as well as momentary custody of their son on allegations of abuse. setup of marriages between two globes-- the first and also the third.
Economic and also social problems for women in Russia as well as other Post-Soviet states are an inspirational factor in finding foreign arrangements. 52 percent of Russia's labor force is composed of ladies, yet according to some sources they usually hold reduced settings of importance in their home nation as well as work jobs with much less regard as well as lower wages; and also females make 43 percent of what males do. A representative at a marriage agency told the paper such spouses normally run away within the first 2 months of marriage if points do not go as anticipated. The male is reported to have actually paid $7,400 in firm costs as well as an added $5,500 to the female's household. Authorities with the management stated they have actually obtained complaints from a variety of guys saying such females, for whom they paid a high cost, had gone away a few months after marriage. Global Times, part of the Chinese Communist Event paper Individuals's Daily, reported in Shanghai officials have actually found a number of instances including young Southeast Asian females in the city this year.
It was amidst the personals in The National Enquirer that Mr. Patterson initially checked out a classified advertisement for an organization called Pacific Advances, among an estimated hundred in the USA that present American males to Oriental women. In February 1985, he sent out $120 to the noted message office box and also within weeks obtained a magazine with images as well as important data of more than 200 Eastern females. By Might, he had obtained letters from 150 extra females, not in the brochure, who had actually been provided his name by the firm. Fulfill the South East Asian females saving the population of the remote Faroe Islands, one marital relationship each time.
a woman that instituted a residential violence defense order against Mr. The 'Potato Orphans' of Australia is an obscure period in the nation's background when countless susceptible, adolescent women were delivered from Ireland to be other halves for the Australian convicts.
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2020.11.23 17:49 Nobody_Likes_Shy_Guy I feel like this stuff has robbed me of my youth (and is continuing too)

very long, mostly vent post
So for the record I’m 18. I get the notion that this sub is predominantly millennials with the occasional Gen Xer, however it’s possible there’s a lot of Gen Zers here that lurk like me so maybe the comments will be different than I expect. Regardless this may come off as a bit of a ramble.
I was an active Tumblr user by the time I was 10. Needless to say now that if I do end up having a kid/kids they will not have the unrestricted internet access I did. I ended up growing way, way too fast, self-diagnosing myself with depression and anxiety by the time I was 11 and eventually also identifying as pansexual. This was mostly due to the fact that I felt a need to fit into that crowd as a straight white male and also because I didn’t really feel like I could have a say in anything if I didn’t have some sort of identification that made me unique. Other results of being exposed to this sort of ideology so early was me wearing the same clothes to school practically everyday because my devoid-of-nuance brain thought things like basic hygiene because social norms were bad, and basic hygiene is a social norm, therefore basic hygiene is bad.
It also should be noted I have a neolib mom who bought a Hillary 2016 bumper sticker the day after Obama beat Romney.
I was like this until around the time I was 13, when I developed feelings for one of my close friends and realized I probably had to clean up my act if I wanted to score a chance with her. Luckily this worked out and that relationship (lasted a year-and-a-half which is relatively long for kids that young) ended up saving my ass largely because I realized how to be a normal person who thinks on their own and problem-solves on their own. There was nobody to truly help me when her and I had relationship issues because the only people in the relationship were her and I. This relationship got me out of groupthink.
Regardless, the damage was already done. This subconscious desire to be part of a collective resulted in me developing horrific Imposter Syndrome at a summer job when I was 15 that resulted in the development of anxiety disorder that still follows me today and now manifests itself in areas outside of my identity. I am constantly questioning whether or not I actually fit into my group of friends/place of work/family/everything because I spent legitimate years lying to myself about who I really was to fit into some BS Tumblr wokethink.
What makes this worse is that at 18 now I have two goals in life; get into the journalism field and find love again. These two things seem fucking BLEAK at the moment, albeit for reasons related and unrelated to wokeness.
The journalism field worries me because putting anything out in the public with my name on it will inevitably lead to it being scrutinized by the woke mob and any small slip-up will lead to cancellation. Cancellation TERRIFIES me. When Skai Jackson was out cancelling people this summer, a lot of those kids were from my area. She set a dangerous precedent there, not only exposing the identities of 18-year-old’s but also terrifyingly publishing the addresses of their places of work. I am terrified of my life being ruined by a group of socially acceptable nutjobs that are out of my control. Outside of wokeness it also doesn’t help that the sitting president (that the doomer in me thinks is going to find a way to stay in office) has labeled us enemies of the people, something I think the industry will take years to move on from.
When it comes to dating it’s like everyday more and more of the girls I know are being enveloped by this stuff. Pointless fundraisers in their IG bios and on their stories, circlejerking each other about how “educated” they are for knowing what ACAB means and wearing masks (not that I don’t agree with those but it’s as educated as 1+1=2), typing ✨ like this ✨ which grinds my gears to no end because I know EXACTLY who I’m dealing with when I see shit like that.
Blegh. I realized recently all of the media I consume, whether it be music, television, film, or video games, has ended up becoming almost exclusively from the 00’s. I don’t think this is a coincidence. I yearn to have been born 10 years earlier because I don’t believe this would’ve happened to me, and I don’t believe I would’ve had to grow up in a culture where this sort of thinking is the norm.
Thanks for reading if you did. Let me know if there’s somewhere more appropriate for this sort of post.
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2020.11.23 16:41 Junebuggg91 Rude to turn down a wedding invite?

I hope everyone is doing well and staying safe. A few weeks ago in late October one of my (29f) good (and only) female friends got engaged to her fiancé who she has been dating for roughly a year. They are having a wedding in South Carolina in March 2021. The wedding guest list will be small, around 20-30, however most of the people invited will be coming from out of state. Instinctively when my friend verbally told me about the wedding, my gut reaction was to say that i was going to attend and i was very excited as I have not been invited to many weddings before.
Due to the fact that her fiancé doesn’t have any close family or male friends, they are not having a wedding party. However my friend has created a group chat with her, myself, and two of her other female friends to go over wedding details and help plan out things. The wedding itself seems like it will be fairly extravagant, black tie, outdoor at a plantation house, etc.
I know for a fact that my friend hasn’t been very cautious when it has come to COVID. She and her now fiancé have traveled multiple times both nationally as well as internationally via plane and have been frequently posting pictures on social media of themselves with various groups of friends without wearing masks.
The more I have thought about this, the more concerned I have become about the risk associated with going to this wedding. In addition to the COVID risk by traveling, being around people all weekend, and going to various restaurants and such, I am also worried about the cost that I will have to front for a wedding that may leave me feeling anxiety ridden the whole time.
I don’t want to ruin my friendship with her, however I feel as though it would be really foolish to go. Any advice on how to tell my friend that I won’t be able to make it to her wedding would be greatly appreciated. Thank you in advance. ❤️
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2020.11.23 16:30 marbleageTA Relationship with Colombian refugee showing red flags. Should I be concerned?

I (25M) recently began a relationship with a Colombian refugee (29F) 6 months ago and have seen some red flags show up during the course of the relationship. She knows English pretty well, however there is a minor language barrier that is sometimes frustrating, but isn’t a deal breaker. She claimed refugee status with her ex-fiance of 5 years (32M) to get into the country and they broke up (he cheated on her) before the hearing date has come and past. They broke up late in the year last year. This means they still have an active case together. This is crucial to the story. She is a classy, good hearted woman and you can notice this when speaking to her, however there are some things I just can’t ignore. We first met on a dating app and went on a pretty successful first date, both laughing, solid conversation. After this date, she basically ghosted me for 2 weeks before messaging me out of the blue to reconnect and go out again. I reluctantly said yes to going out and we began our relationship after this point. After finding out about the ex fiance she still needs to communicate with to discuss the case, I began to keep an eye on red flags that may show up. This is where my naivety turned to observation. First off, he would call her out of the blue to talk about the case they have, lawyers, etc. I mentioned how I don’t like this but she says that it is essential for her to complete the case. I totally understand that, and can’t do anything about it, but it doesn’t stop me from thinking something bad is in store for me. She has been nothing but loving towards me and has included me in her friend group, family Facetimes and future plans. I trust her fully as she hasn’t given me a clear cut reason not to. There hasn’t been much of an indication that she doesn’t want to be with me, but I can’t help but feel like she isn’t emotionally ready for a new relationship, or she still has feelings for her ex. The red flags: The obvious one that she has a case she needs to work through with her ex. She bought a coat at the mall and told me it would look good on her at the hearing (which has no confirmed date yet). I’m also 4 years younger than her and the ex is 3 years older than her. She mentioned at the start of the relationship that she always dated older guys and never been with a younger man. The conversation on her Whatsapp with the ex is archived, to which she claims is because she doesn’t want to see the conversation on her main screen. When someone messages her on Whatsapp and her phone is locked, it won’t show up on the lock screen at all. A small but definite red flag. She still talks to the ex’s family. In fact the exs brother in law works with her and drives her to work every single day. A huge red flag to me. He still follows and likes her instagram posts despite her not following him back. There are still photos of them on her Facebook. She posts me to her insta/Facebook story for the 24hr period, but will never make an official post on her social media. She claims it could make her case invalid as she is supposed to pretend she is still with her ex to gain permanent residence. I have been through alot of dating in my short life and have seen these types of situations before. I feel like I’m just a backup and she is using me to make her ex jealous because I’m the new gringo boyfriend in the new country. I also think because he cheated on her and the relationship ended abruptly that there is still some unresolved emotions on her part, aside from all these res flags. AITA for thinking something is going on? Every time I mention something I don’t like she will get mad and say that I don’t trust her, which isn’t true. I’m just looking out for my own well being. Maybe I have trust issues? Maybe I am overthinking this? Maybe I am spot on. I don’t know what to think anymore.
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2020.11.23 16:28 Parciphract Please help with a project - need some people to talk through my notes

Hi all, I'm working on a messengeevent booking app project to bolster my portfolio with a digital product, showing steps from start to finish. The app is targeted primarily at gamers - 16/18 to 30 yrs. From conducting some user interviews one of the things that came up that I wanted to pursue as the brand's mission is to provide an inclusive platform that has two goals: It allows for setting up gaming sessions/events on a calendar which can be easily shared on social media or existing calendar apps, with a visible countdown timer within the chat group showing that upcoming event/date with an easy ability to access further information (and potentially a countdown widget to also have on the home screen of a device as an instant indicator of when the next event is without needing to open the app); and to integrate a vocoder system into voice chat as both a fun feature and as a way of masking gender and identity of the speaker for a degree of anonymity. From my interviews, people said that they lose track of important event information and wanted access to that info easily so that people in the chat didn't forget about the upcoming sessions. The second important thing was that it turned out that female gamers were facing sexism and gender discrimination in fps games online - they would be targeted by hate and abuse as soon as their gender was discovered. So I thought to give this app a unique selling point to differentiate it from all the other messenger apps out there or say discord, that one of the main goals of the app would be to supply an app that could work on multiple devices that could disguise peoples voices via the use of vocoder technology to allow people a level of anonymity so as not to be targeted in such a way. My interviews also pointed out that lots of people use chat apps like discord to play tabletop games through and I thought having the ability to modify/manipulate vocals may help with a fun element they could employ for characters as they played.
In short, I'm looking for some people to chat to and bounce ideas off - talk a bit through my notes before I go into prototyping to see if I'm on the right track or if areas need more work.
I initially started the research for this much earlier in the year in this subreddit but had to put it aside at that time. I'm determined to get the prototypes made in the next week or so.
Thanks all.
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2020.11.23 16:02 RobbieIDK I was bored so I wrote this story and posted it here, some people liked it and asked me to continue it so yolo I guess. (CHAPTER 3 AND CHAPTER 4 OUTTT!!!!!!!!!)

Author's notes before writing
I originally wrote this story for fun and posted it here, I didn't realize that people would actually want to read it, I was making it up as I was writing this story XD. Now I'm committed to finish writing this story for my 3 new followers, thanks for keeping me motivated. This is the updated story with chapter 3 and 4.
Please note that I'm not a writer, so the story might have some narrative flaws.
I have fixed some grammar and punctuation mistakes in chapter 1 and 2. I'm sorry if you don't understand what I'm trying to write, I'm from Malaysia and not a native speaker.
This story contains a few swear words.
Hope you guys enjoy this trip full of cliches and cringy writing ;)
Let's get writing 😩🤘
Hi there, my name is Mark Stone, if you're reading this letter right now, you probably knew what happened to me. You must be sad and confused right now, but I would like to tell you about everything, how it all started, how I met the love of my life, Nicole Bennett.
It was the December of 2015, I forgot which day it was but I remembered that it was at night and it was snowing heavily, I couldn't see what was in front of me, it was as if I was transformed into the same universe at The Mist. I bumped into this girl, she was the most beautiful girl I had ever saw, she had blond hair and perfect blue eyes, I was an average ugly awkward high schooler so I was completely shocked and didn't know what to say. Her books fell after I bumped into her so I helped her pick it up, I just couldn't help but stare at her beauty, she also wore a grey hoodie (I have a thing for hoodies). While I was helping her pick my the books, she kept repeating "sorry", it was in the cutest and most sincere voice I've ever heard. I didn't expect to see anyone here late at night since it was snowing heavily, so I asked her:
Me: "Why are you out here? It's late and it's snowing like crazy."
Nicole: "Let's go somewhere to talk, you probably don't want to talk with snow in our mouth. Let's go to my house, it's not far from here."
Me: "Sure, if my mom was here she would have probably gone crazy, she always told me not to go with strangers into their houses."
Nicole: "Hah you're funny, I'm already starting to like you."
After we arrived, I quickly analyzed her house, it was so...colorful, it was a wooden cabin in the middle of the woods, her cabin had a natural smell that I don't even know how to describe, the cabin had a special warmth and charm to it. I sat down on her comfy couch and asked her the question I asked before:
Me: "So as I was saying before you brought me into your house, what were you doing out there?"
Nicole: "I was walking home after I finished working at the library, hence why was I carrying so many books. My parents are poor and their earnings are simply not enough to support our household. I also have a brother as well, his name is Jamie, he's sleeping upstairs by the way so we better be quiet."
Me: "Speaking of your parents, where are them?"
Nicole: "They're still working."
Me: "But it's.....3 am."
Nicole: "They had to work overtime everyday, they have to work until 4 am, have 5 hours of sleep then go back to work again at 10 am, they barely have any free time. Despite this, we still live in a shitty cabin. People may feel pity for us, but we have gotten used to that kind of life. Anyways, I've just realized, we have been talking for a few minutes now and we haven't even exchange our names yet, my name's Nicole, what about you?"
Me: "My names Mark, nice to meet you, don't say that about your cabin, I think it looks special and it feels comfy and warm, it's that warmth that modern homes doesn't have."
Nicole: "I guess you're right, hey we should exchange numbers, you seem like a really good guy and since I don't have many friends, maybe we could start talking?'
Me: "Sure, I'd love to."
We exchanged numbers.
Me: "I'll be leaving now, if you need anyone to talk to or vent to, I'm always here."
Nicole: "Thanks and have a safe walk home!"
While I was walking home I kept thinking of her, I couldn't concentrate on where I was going, it was as if I fell in love with her at first sight, I didn't know what love felt like, I had never fallen in love, I never even had a crush. When I arrived home I realized what a mess my house was compared to her house, despite living in a rich environment, I was never happy. My dad passed away in a air crash accident when I was 9 and my mom is always working, we also live with my sister Emma and my uncle Tommy, who helps my mom do all the housework. My mom is a famous businesswoman, hence why we live in such a rich environment. Despite this, I never connected with rich kids, I found myself making friends with poor kids, maybe because I think most rich kids are jerks who are spoiled.
I went up to my bedroom to see my uncle and sister sleeping.
Me: "Guess mom's still working again."
As I was getting ready to sleep, I heard my phone beeped and vibrate, my friends rarely texts me so I was curious to see who it might be, it turns out it was Nicole.
Me (texting): "Don't you think it's a bit late?"
Me (texting): "Do you miss me already?"
Nicole (texting): "Nah, I just forgot to ask you a question, do you go to Claymore high?"
Me (texting): "Yeah how did you know?"
Nicole (texting): "I think I've seen before, we go to the same school btw."
Me (texting): "That's cool I guess."
Nicole (texting): "Aren't you that kid who always eat alone at breaks, don't you have any friends?"
Me (texting): "I hate hanging out with rich kids, I connect with poor kids more, I hang out with them secretly. If the rich kids know that I've been making friends with the poor kids instead of them, they'll probably start bullying me. Besides, I like being alone at breaks, it helps me collect my thoughts."
Nicole (texting): "They probably don't care about you since you don't hang out with them at all, why would they start bullying you if they don't care about you?"
Me (texting): "I guess your kinda right."
Nicole (texting): "A horde is better than a lone wolf."
Nicole (texting): "So would you like to be friends with me? We can become our own horde...'
Me (texting): 'You're desperate for friends aren't you, we just met like what...a few hours ago and you're already asking me to be your friend? :P"
Nicole (texting): "Yea, I think my friend count is lower than -1"
Me (texting): "Sure, let's be friends"
Nicole (texting): "Woah, it's 4 am already, thank god it's Sunday tomorrow. Anyways I gotta sleep, I'm feeling really tired, have a good night's rest ^^"
Me (texting): "Goodnight, I'll talk to you tomorrow."
That night, I don't know why but.....I kept thinking about her. Who knew my life would change that night.
It had been nearly 2 weeks since we meet each other, it might not seem like that long but during that time we spent a lot of time together, we spent almost every hour of our free time together, it was as if we couldn't live without each other, it was like if we were born to be a couple, we had so much in common, I've never connected to anyone more than her. I was surprised that no one wanted to be friends with her, she had so many talents, drawing, playing piano, singing etc, and she was so....beautiful. It was as if she had a secret, a secret that everybody knew so they wouldn't be friends with her.
It was the 12th December 2015, the day before Nicole's birthday, I was in bed scrolling through Twitter as usual, when she suddenly texted me.
Nicole (texting): "Hey handsome."
Me (texting): "Handsome??"
Nicole (texting): "XD well I'm turning 16 tomorrow, what do you want to do?"
Me (texting): "Idk, tomorrow is Sunday, I'll probably stay home and play some COD or Minecraft."
Nicole (texting): "Well, that's a shame, I have no one to hang out with on my birthday :("
Me (texting): "Hmmmm, maybe it's time that I actually start spending time with other human beings instead of playing video games everyday XD"
Me (texting): "Maybe I could hang out with you :p"
Nicole (texting): "That's great! I would love to hang out with my best friend on my birthday."
Me (texting); "Best friend?"
Nicole (texting): "Well since we don't hang out with other people as much as each other recently, I was wondering if we could be best friends?"
At this moment I started feeling weird, I felt so happy, sure it can't be love, can it?
Me (texting): "Hell yea, best friends :)"
Nicole (texting): "Great! I thought it would be awkward but I'm glad you responded well."
Nicole (texting): "So where do you wanna meet?"
Me (texting): "It's your birthday so you should choose XD"
Nicole (texting): "How about the park? I haven't been to the park in ages, does 2 pm sound good to you?"
Me (texting): "Yup! Have a good night's rest, you don't want to feel tired the whole day on your birthday :P"
Nicole (texting): "Hah, I won't trust me, also I'm definitely NOT expecting a birthday gift from you ;)"
Me (texting): "Haha I'm sure."
Nicole (texting): 'Anyways, it's late, goodnight! ^^"
Me (texting): "Goodnight ^^"
That night I couldn't stop thinking about what should I buy her, I wanted it to be a simple but meaningful present, after I kept turning my body around on my bed, I decided that I will decide it tomorrow and that I should get a good night's sleep first.
The next day I went into a small shop near the park, it was already 1:30 pm, I didn't know that my house was that far away from the park, and since uncle Tommy was buying groceries, I had to walk. I was panicking and I had to make a decision fast, I quickly picked up two items and asked the shop worker to wrap it.
When I arrived at the park it was already 2:10 pm, I could see Nicole waving at me near a swing. She wore another hoodie, this time the hoodie was red, while I just wore a random t-shirt with some jeans. I always wondered if she was trying to express her feelings through what she was wearing, because I realized that the more we hang out, the brighter the color of the hoodie she wore. I'm still amazed at how a girl can be so cute naturally without any makeup.
Me: "Sorry I'm late, I didn't know the park was that far awa-"
Nicole: "Don't worry, do you really think that I would be mad at my best friend for being late? Besides, you're only 10 minutes late, I have a lot of patience."
She looked at the present I was hiding behind my back. She giggled and said:
Nicole: "Next time hide your presents better, I can see you're hiding them behind your back, so obvious."
Me: 'Oh."
Nicole: "Let's take a quick walk before we open my present shall we?"
Me: "Sure"
We walked and talked about ourselves, school and life in general for what seemed to be hours, we swung on swings and played with the children nearby just like as if we were still kids.
Nicole: "Mark?"
Me: "Yea?"
Nicole: "Don't you ever wish that you were still a child?"
Me: "No, why?"
Nicole: "When you're a child you don't have to worry about anything, you enjoy life as a child, but when you get older things start to get sad and depressing, you have to face the harsh reality of this world, you realize that the world is not colorful and happy, in fact it's dark and awful. I would rather live in an imaginary world where everything is positive rather than live in reality where everything is negative, I just miss the good old days you know? I'm already 16 and I don't have any goals or objectives in life, I just can't find any motivation to do anything, I just.....I want to die so badly.'
Tears started falling down Nicole's eyes
I was shocked at what she just said, I never knew she was this depressed on the inside, she was always a positive and outgoing girl on the outside. When I saw Nicole's tears, I couldn't help but help her wipe them off, I knew that she had gone through a lot in life, she never had any friends and she live in a awful environment. I hugged her and said:
Me: "Please don't cry, I know you never had any friends or people to rely on, but here I am, I'll always be there for you when you need me."
Nicole: "I'm sorry for that, just getting a little bit emotional on my birthday."
After that, I saw a busker playing guitar near us. I pointed to the busker and asked Nicole:
Me: "Hey, there's a busker there, he seems pretty good, do you want to go there and listen to him?"
Nicole: "Sure, I'd love to."
I asked the busker to play some calm and romantic music to calm Nicole down, the busker asked us:
Busker: "What brings you lovers here?"
Nicole blushed after hearing what the busker said. I awkwardly corrected him:
Me: "Oh...oh no, we're just best friends, it's her birthday today actually, we're just having a walk."
The busker giggled and said:
Busker: "Oh "best friends"? Really?"
Now we're both blushing hard.
Nicole talked to me about her problems and I asked her to start imagining a better future, a future where she's happy, where she's settled down, a future so good that would overlap what the past did to hurt her. She closed her eyes and started her imagination while we listened to the busker's guitar music for a good 10 minutes. During that time, I couldn't help but stare at her, I thought to myself:
Me (thinking): "Ah Mark stop! Why are you being such a creep?!"
Suddenly, she opened her eyes, she looked at me with a cute and sincere smile and said:
Nicole: "I hope you're part of my future."
I was speechless, was she trying to signal me something? I panicked and responded with:
Me: "I hope so too."
I didn't know what to say, that just came out of my mouth out of nowhere and I was embarrassed by it, we both blushed hard.
We listened to the busker for about a good 20 minutes more before we decided that we would open her present. I tipped the busker and he winked at me, till this day, I still don't know who that busker was but I swear to god that I will forever remember him.
We sat on a bench and she started opening up her presents, the present I gave her was a polaroid camera and an album. After she opened it I said:
Me: "I hope that we'll have many more amazing moments together, you can bring this camera everywhere and every time we have a unforgettable moment, you can take a picture and put it into this album, by the time we have our last breath, I hope we can fill this album up."
Nicole hugged me and started crying.
Nicole: "I don't know if we'll ever fill this album up but there's one thing that I'm sure of, and that's the fact that we'll be friends forever. Thank you so much Mark, this might be the best present I've ever gotten in my life."
I always thought it was funny that we went from complete strangers to "best friends forever" in 2 weeks, you'll never know what god throws at you in life, she just suddenly came into my life out of nowhere.
It was getting late so I offered to walk her home, before we started going home, we saw a poster on a shop that said that there was going to be a firework show at 11 am, I offered her to watch it with me, she responded with:
Nicole: "Won't your mom be mad at you?"
Me: "She never cares about me, all she cares about is money, I'm pretty sure she won't even realize that I'm not home."
Nicole: "Hey! Don't say that, you mom works so much isn't because she wants to get away from your family, she wants to earn as much money as possible so she can support your household.'
Me: "You don't get it Nicole....she......she..."
I couldn't say it.
Nicole: "What's the matter?"
My mom had a dark secret that only I knew, something that I've yet to confront her. I just couldn't tell least not yet.
Me: "I guess you're right, hey look! Here comes the fireworks!"
The fireworks were beautiful, it was a whole new experience for me, I've never watched fireworks with someone else before, every Christmas or new years I would always be lonely. I turned to Nicole and I just couldn't help but stare at her beauty once again, she was prettier than the stars, prettier than the fireworks, she shined the brightest amongst all of them. Thinking about it now, I wondered if she ever knew that I was staring at her, maybe she knew and she let me stare, maybe she knew that I had a little tiny crush on her already.
We saw everyone around us holding hands, she turned to me and asked:
Nicole: "Can we uh.....hold hands?"
Me: "Um....what?"
Nicole: "Everyone around us is holding hands, it would be weird if we didn't. But I don't want to make them think that we'"
Me: "Who cares what they think, the most important thing is that we'll enjoy the fireworks and have a great time."
She grabbed my hand and said:
Nicole: "But can we still hold hands?"
Me: "Sure, it's your birthday, I'll do anything for you."
I saw her blushed in the cutest way possible, god she was so cute I wish you could see her.
Her hands were cold and soft, it seems like I could easily break her bones if I pressed her hand too hard, I'm not even a strong man.
She suddenly took out her polaroid camera and said:
Nicole: "Let's take a picture and put it in the album!"
We posed for the picture and she put it inside her album.
After the fireworks I asked her:
Me: "So what did you think of the fireworks?"
Nicole: "It was...special, it might be the best firework show I've ever watched."
Me: "Same here."
We sat down on the grass and looked up to the sky, the stars were absolutely beautiful.
Me: "Do you think that every time someone dies, they get reincarnated into a star?"
Nicole: "No, where did you get that idea?"
Me: "I'd like to think that once you die, you get reincarnated into a star, every star represents a person's story, they are watching us creating our new stories while their stories is being stored with them up there with billions and trillions of stars."
Nicole: "If that's true, I hope that I'll get to have my star be near yours when I die. You're the most special person I've ever met in my life, I've never been able to connect with any person as much as you."
We slept on the grass looking at the beautiful stars and talking about our lives. After a while, I looked at my watch, it was already 2 am, the park was now empty, we were so focused on talking and enjoying the stars that we forgot our surroundings.
I walked her to her cabin, before she went in, she said:
Nicole: "Mark, thanks for spending the day with me, this is the best birthday of my best day of my life."
Me: "You're welcome, that's the least a best friend could do, I hope to spend many future birthdays with you."
She took out her polaroid camera and we posed for another picture.
Nicole gave me a small kiss on the cheek before she ran inside her cabin, I blushed and smiled while walking my way home. When I went inside my house, my mom, sister and uncle were already sleeping, I couldn't even bothered to be angry that they didn't call to check on me, I took a quick shower and brushed my teeth before going to bed, despite not eating dinner, I'm not feeling hungry at all. I tucked myself inside my blankets and whispered something before I went to sleep:
Me: "Thank you Nicole, today was the best day of my life as well."
Chapter 3 (NEW CHAPTER!!!)
It had been about a week and a half since that day, I still couldn't get that day out of my head, I think that was the day that I truly fell in love with her. We introduced my sister Emma and her brother Jamie to each other, they're now best friends as well, we hang out together almost every hour of the day, we do home work together, eat dinner together, play games together etc. I had never felt so happy in my life. Before this month started I thought that this would be a horrible month but it turns out this was one of the best months of my life. I wish I could turn back time to this day just to relive every moment, it truly felt like a good time to be alive.
It was Christmas eve, I felt fantastic as usual, I won't be lonely on Christmas for a change. I did my normal daily routine then I heard a beep and a vibration, it was a text message from Nicole:
Nicole (texting): "Hey handsome"
Me (texting): "Hey Nic, what's up?"
Nicole (texting): "You'll never guess what happened to me last night ^^"
Me (texting): "Hmmmm......did your post blow up overnight again? XD"
Nicole (texting): "Nope! Something better!"
Me (Texting): "You finally got rid of the monster under your bed?"
Nicole (texting): "Nope!"
Me (texting): "So what is it?"
Nicole: "You know Jason right?"
Me (texting): "Yea, that rich kid that everybody hates."
Nicole (Texting): "HEY! DON'T SAY THAT ABOUT HIM!"
Me (texting): "Excuse me?"
Nicole (texting): "He came to my cabin in the middle of the night with a basket of flowers asking me to be his girlfriend!"
Nicole (texting): "It was the cutest thing everrrrr"
Nicole (texting): "You don't know how long I've been waiting for this moment Mark, I simply couldn't reject it, I've had a crush on him for 5 years XD"
I freeze, I didn't know what to do, I was confused and heartbroken at the same time. Nicole had a crush on this jerk for 5 years? How come she never told me? They don't even hang out as much as we do! Didn't she like me? Didn't she tried to signal me something at the park?
So many emotions rushed through inside my body, I had so many questions. Tears didn't start roiling down my face, nor I felt sad or happy for her, I just felt emotionless.
Me (texting): "Congrats I guess"
Me (texting): "I gotta go my mom called me"
Nicole (texting): "Ok then, talk to yo-"
I blocked her number before she could finish typing.
I finished dressing up and went outside to try to collect my thoughts, I just sat on the snow looking at other people. My sister came outside of the house and asked me:
Emma: "Mark? What are you doing out here? You've been sitting here for an hour!"
Me: "I don't know, I'm trying to collect my thoughts."
Emma: "What's going on Mark? Nicole texted me like crazy, she's worried about you, why did you block her number?"
Me: "She belongs to Jason now."
Emma: "Wait WHAT?! Jason and Nicole are dating now? H-how did this happen?"
Me: "Nicole said she had a crush on this cunt for 5 years now, so when Jason asked her to be his girlfriend, she immediately accepted."
Emma: "Then why are you so sad? Shouldn't you feel happy for her? Wait, don't tell me you have fee-"
Me: "Yes I have feelings for her."
Emma was shocked..
Emma: "Oh...I-I'm so sorry Mark, if you really love Nicole you should be glad that she has found her happiness. You should try to mo-"
Emma: "Di-did you just fucking shout at me?"
Me: ....
Emma: "I can't believe this, I'm just trying to help you here. Everyone is looking at us now, ughh."
Emma slammed the door and went back into the house, tears flowed down my cheeks and I started crying, I didn't even care that my neighbors were watching me with a weird look on their face. I'm still surprised that no one recorded that and put it onto their social medias, 2015 was a different time back then.
I sat there for most of the day and in the end I realized that Emma was right, me and Nicole wasn't meant to be and I must move on. I went back into the house for dinner and I saw Emma watching Moonraker, I thought to myself:
Me (thinking): "Huh, a Bond film, she never watches those."
I walked up to her and said:
Me: "Hey"
Emma: ...
Me: "Why are you watching a Bond film? I thought you didn't like those."
Emma: ...
Me: "I guess you're a little bit moody today, that's why you're watching it, am I right?"
Emma: ...
Mark: "I'm sorry for shouting at you, I regret it, I was angry and confused at that time, I don't want to have a stupid sibling fight on Christmas eve, please accept my apology."
Emma: ...
Me: "Did you say anything to Nicole about what happened?"
Emma: "I said you're a cunt."
Me: "Excuse me, what?"
Me: "I can't be bothered to talk to you right now, you're so goddam childish."
I went over to eat dinner with my mom and uncle, Emma didn't want to eat dinner despite my mom's numerous attempts of yelling at her.
Emma: ...
I went upstairs and laid on my bed, I unblocked Nicole and texted her:
Me (texting): "Hey Nicole, sorry for blocking you, that was a mistake. I was suppose to block my sister, we got into a big fight."
I didn't know if this was a good idea or not but I decided to lie to Nicole, she couldn't know that I had feelings for her.
Nicole (texting): "Yea I can see that, when I asked her what's wrong with you, she responded by saying that you're a cunt XD"
Me (texting): "You're not mad at me?"
Nicole (texting): "Why would I be mad at you? Didn't you said that it was a mistake?"
Nicole (texting): "What did you guys fight about anyways? It's Christmas Eve, can't you guys not fight?"
Me (texting): "We fight over the smallest things XD"
Nicole (texting): "Hah I understand, me and Jamie always fight about the smallest things as well."
We kept texting each other for about another 3 hours.
Nicole (texting): "Hahah I'm about to go to sleep, have a good night's rest <3"
Me (texting): "You too ^^"
Even though that <3 at the end of her sentence was the smallest of things, it melted my heart.
Before I went to sleep, I checked on Emma, she was still watching a movie, this time it was "The Living Daylights", I went up to her and said:
Me: "Hey, it's a bit late, I think you should go to sleep."
Emma: "I'm sorry."
Me: "Wow you finally calmed down."
Emma: "I was being childish."
Me: "That's fine, we were both being childish, I'm glad that we can reconcile again."
Emma: "Hey, these Bond films are pretty good, I can't believe I never watched any of them."
Me: "I've literally been trying to get you to watch one for years now."
We both giggled.
I heard Emma's stomach rumbling, I knew she was hungry so I offered to cook her some noodles to eat. Thank god my mom and uncle was sleeping at that time, I tried to cook it without making to much noise. While she was eating, we both made and laughed at our horrible jokes before I washed the dishes and went to bed.
It was not the best of days, but I'm glad everything worked out in the end.
Chapter 4 (NEW CHAPTER!!!)
Christmas day was special, we spent the whole day together and I actually felt...happy for once. Sure I got shitty gifts like usual, socks, dvds etc, but I didn't feel lonely, I had Jamie, Nicole and Emma with me, we felt like an inseparable group, like pre 80s ABBA.
After Christmas our time together slowly dipped, it was now only Jamie, Emma and Me, Nicole started hanging out with Jason a lot more, every time I texted her she would say that she had a date with Jason or something, it was starting to get frustrating.
February 14th 2016, Nicole was buying flowers for Jason since it was Valentines day, while she was walking home she saw Jason holding another girl's hand and...kissing her. Nicole dropped the flowers and ran to my house and cried. I was confused because I didn't know what had happened, when she had calmed down and told me what had happened, I swear I felt a huge rage forming inside my body, I knew he was a fuckboy but how can anyone cheat on such a beautiful girl? I swear I wanted to punch that jerk's face so bad. I comforted her for a bit and I had to ask this question.
Me: "I don't want to sound weird or anything but....why are you in love with Jason? You guys didn't seem to hang out that much before you guys started dating and you both are so different."
Nicole "You don't understand, we have a backstory."
Me: "A backstory?"
Nicole: "When I was young, my parents didn't have a job, no one wanted to hire them, we were homeless, we literally had no money, to a point where sometimes we would have to starve through the entire week, his family gave us half of their money, we wouldn't have been alive if it wasn't for them. You might not even realize it but, the cabin was built by my father and his father. Me and Jason spent most of our childhood together, we couldn't live without each other. We started drifting apart when we were 14 but we were still good friends. I swore to god that I will love him forever, no matter what, I would try to win his heart. Even if he just randomly proposed to me out of nowhere, I would still accept it. I was obsessed with him. He changed as time moved on, even if he's the popular fuckboy kid now, I still love him. I became more and more obsessed with him, I would stalk him on all of his social medias every night. When he asked me to become his girlfriend, I had never felt happier, I felt like I finally had goals in my life. I understand now, he has changed, he's no longer the Jason I know and love, I.....I must move on but I don't know if I can."
I felt a my heart ache after hearing this, I had never seen her so sad, I didn't know her past was this sad, her family was literally homeless during most of her childhood. I was speechless, I look at her in the eyes and said what my heart told me to say:
Me: "I know you've gone through a lot, but see, things got better overtime. Somethings in life are just not meant to be, change is a permanent thing in life, to have a better future you need to be strong and move on from the past. You're still so young, you'll met your special one in the future, maybe he's around you and you haven't realize it yet."
Looking back now, I cringe at my attempt to try and comfort her, but somehow it worked.
I continue letting her vent to me for a few hours before she went back to her cabin, it's been a while since she talked to me for this long. She waved goodbye to me and I realized that she wasn't wearing any makeup, I never knew how I didn't notice that, she's the rare kind of girl who doesn't need makeup to make her look beautiful.
February 21, 2016, a few days had past since that awful day and Nicole had gathered enough courage to confront and break up with Jason. During the days before that I had been encouraging her and talking to her to make sure she's fine, it was obvious to me that she wasn't over Jason yet but had accepted that he had changed.
It was Sunday morning and I was playing Sunday league football with other friends, I had started making and hanging out with friends since Nicole came into my life, every time when I'm down all I needed to do was to think of Nicole, she was really something special. It was half-time and my team was leading 2-0, I scored one of the goals by scoring a Messi like free kick into the top bins of the net. It was half time and Nicole called me:
Nicole (call): "Mark, please help me.'
I could hear a loud banging noise in the background, I was really scared for Nicole.
Me (call): "What's going on?"
Nicole (call): "I've just confronted Jason and he literally just freaked out, I swear he's fucking crazy. I don't know what to do. I'm scared."
Me (call): "Where are you now?"
Nicole (call): "I locked myself in the bathroom when he started throwing things at me, he is currently outside banging the goddam door. His parents aren't home and I don't know their number so I can't call them for help. I just called my parents but they didn't pick up, I think they forgot to bring their phones to work, fuck my life."
Me (call): "Hold on! I'm calling his parents!"
I called Jason's mom:
Jason's mom (call): "Hello, who is this?"
Me (call): "I'm Mark, one of Nicole's friends, Nicole just confronted Jason about him cheating and he literally just freaked out and started throwing things at her, please go home and stop him, Nicole's in danger!"
Jason's mom (call): "WHAT???!!! I'M COMING HOME!"
Me (call): "Please also call your husband and tell him about the situation."
Jason's mom (call): "WILL DO"
I continued my football match but I couldn't stop thinking about Nicole. Somehow thinking about Nicole made me more motivated, I ended up scoring a hat trick and getting 2 assists to help my team win 6-2. My friends wanted to celebrate my Man of The Match performance but I refused, I went to Jason's house to see Nicole crying beside Jason's mom. Jason was nowhere to be seen. I went in there with my dirty football kit on and asked:
Me: "What happened? Where's Jason? Are you okay Nic?
Jason's mom: "We arrived just in time, Jason broke into the room and started hitting Nicole, she was bleeding but we managed to stop Jason before it got too serious. His dad dragged him to the park to calm him down."
My heart ache when she said that, I couldn't bear seeing Nicole like this, I hugged Nicole tightly and we started to cry.
Me: "I'm sorry I put football ahead of you, I should have quit the match and come here to stop him, I'm sorry it's all my fault."
Nicole: "It's not your fault, I wouldn't have known what to do if I were in your situation."
Me: "You still have some blood that you haven't wipe of, let me help you wipe it off."
I helped her wipe off the blood.
Nicole smiled.
Me: "You look beautiful when you smile, I haven't seen you smile recently, you should smile more."
Nicole giggled and said:
Nicole: "That's the first time someone call me beautiful, thank you."
We flirted for a bit before Jason's mom send us home, I wondered what she thought when she saw me flirting with her son's ex, I always wanted to ask her but I guess now is too late.
Before we parted ways Nicole took out her polaroid camera.
Me: “Wow so you're really bringing this camera everywhere with you?"
Nicole: "Yup!"
We took a picture outside my house before I went into my house to continue my day, I spent most of that day playing Minecraft with Nicole, Jamie and Emma online and we had a blast.
------To Be Continued------
Author's notes after writing
Fuck I can't believe this took me 4 hours
I just reread chapter 3 and my god it's cringy as fuck I think I might need to rewrite it in the future
I just realize this whole story is Mark writing a letter, how can he remember the exact dialog of each conversation 😩😩 I fucked up real bad
I'm going to eat dinner now goodbye and have a nice day
also the football in chapter 4 refers to soccer not american football
if you have any suggestions please tell me even tho I already have ideas for another 10 chapters lmao
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2020.11.23 15:49 partypastor Reached People Group of the Week - Koreans of South Korea

Its that time of year again, when we are forced to sit at a table and tell our families things we are thankful for. But what I am thankful for is groups that became reached after thousands of years of being unreached. Today we are doing a rather obvious one, the Koreans. I'm posting this one because South Korea sends the second highest number of missionaries around the world, how awesome is that?? And up until around 1800 they never had access to the Gospel.
How were they reached?
Catholicism was first introduced during the late Joseon Dynasty period by Confucian scholars who encountered it in China. In 1603, Yi Gwang-jeong, Korean diplomat, returned from Beijing carrying several theological books written by Matteo Ricci, an Italian Jesuit missionary to China. He began disseminating the information in the books, and the first seeds of Christianity were sown. In 1758, King Yeongjo of Joseon officially outlawed Catholicism as an "evil practice." Catholicism was reintroduced in 1785 by Yi Seung-hun and since then French and Chinese Catholic priests were invited by the Korean Christians.
Joseon royalty saw the new religion as a subversive influence and persecuted its earliest followers in Korea, culminating in the Catholic Persecution of 1866, in which 8,000 Catholics across the country were killed, including nine French missionary priests. The opening of Korea to the outside world in the late nineteenth century brought religious toleration for the remaining Catholics and also introduced Protestantism via American missionaries, beginning in 1884. The first Protestant church in Korea was established by Seo Sang-ryun and the first Protestant missionary to enter Korea was Horace Newton Allen, both events occurring in 1884. Horace Allen was a North Presbyterian missionary who became an American diplomat. He served in Korea until 1905, by which time he had been joined by many others.
The growth of both denominations was gradual before 1945. In that year, approximately 2% of the population was Christian. Rapid growth ensued after the war, when Korea was freed from Japanese occupation by the Allies: by 1991, 18.4% of the population (8.0 million) was Protestant, and 6.7% (2.5 million) was Catholic. Wikipedia
And then this
The Christian missionaries who arrived in the 1800s and following have contributed much to the health, education, and general well-being of the South Koreans. Christians were vocal in their support of the liberation of the Korean peninsula from imperialist Japan. The establishment of schools, hospitals, orphanages, and universities by the Christians paved the way for the modernization of South Korea. Joshua Project
It is estimated that 30% of Koreans in South Korean are Christian!!
What are they like?
Typical qualification that all people groups can't be summed up in small paragraphs and this is an over generalization.
South Korea boasts Asia's third largest economy. Exports of electronics, automobiles, and machinery allow the country to afford many conveniences of the modern world. High rates of cable and/or satellite television usage and high-speed internet connectivity make South Korean a member of the cutting edge technology users of the world. The country is also credited with pioneering the television via mobile devices and internet revolution.
Distinct regional differences in culture and politics exist among the South Koreans. The most important regional difference is between the Gyeongsang region in the southeast and the Jeolla region in the southwest. The two regions maintain a rivalry that reaches back to the fourth century AD. The rivalry originated from a struggle for control of the peninsula. Interregional marriages are rare and travel between the regions in sparce despite a major highway connecting the regions since 1984. Constructed for the specific reason of increasing interregional travel, the highway has not served to improve visitation or commerce between the regions.
The political power elite have come largely from the Gyeongsang region and, consequently, this region has benefitted most from government development assistance. In contrast, the Jeolla region has remained comparatively rural and undeveloped.
Regional stereotypes, like regional dialects, have been breaking down under the influence of centralized education, nationwide media, and several decades of population movement since the Korean War. Stereotypes remain important in the eyes of many South Koreans however. Each region has its own stereotypical beliefs about the other regions. These beliefs may or may not be based in truth and accuracy. Joshua Project
History Lesson
The Korean Peninsula was inhabited as early as the Lower Paleolithic period. The history of Korea begins with the founding of Joseon (also known as "Gojoseon", or Old Joseon, to differentiate it with the 14th century dynasty) in 2333 BCE by Dangun, according to Korea's foundation mythology. Gojoseon was noted in Chinese records in the early 7th century. Gojoseon expanded until it controlled the northern Korean Peninsula and parts of Manchuria. Gija Joseon was purportedly founded in the 12th century BCE, but its existence and role have been controversial in the modern era. In 108 BCE, the Han dynasty defeated Wiman Joseon and installed four commanderies in the northern Korean peninsula. Three of the commanderies fell or retreated westward within a few decades. As Lelang commandery was destroyed and rebuilt around this time, the place gradually moved toward Liaodong. Thus, its force was diminished and it only served as a trade center until it was conquered by Goguryeo in 313. Wikipedia
What do they believe?
The dominant religions of South Korea are Christianity and Buddhism despite the fact that most of the population express no particular affiliation with a religion. South Korea has the third largest number of professing Christians of all the East Asian and Southeast Asian countries.
There is a great deal of ambiguity in the practice and adherence to the belief systems that exist in South Korea. Many people see religion as an inherited trait as much or more so than a faith. Also, many South Koreans practice elements of several belief systems. Christianity is the only faith that maintains distinct lines between those who belong to the belief system. For the other religions, it can be difficult if not impossible to know who practices what.
The Korean Church has had amazing growth in numbers and influence. It was founded on sound indigenous principles, blessed with a succession of revivals, refined by persecution and is now one of the foremost in the world for missions vision. Its presence is highly visible; every level of society has been impacted and growth has been remarkable. Of the 11 largest mega-congregations in the world, 10 are in the one city of Seoul. Seoul also hosts the largest Pentecostal, Presbyterian and Methodist congregations in the world and the second-largest Baptist. With over 15,000 missionaries, the Korean Church sends the second-highest number of cross-cultural workers to other parts of the world. Joshua Project
How can we pray for them?
Brothers, my heart’s desire and prayer to God for them is that they may be saved. (Romans 10:1)
Here are the previous weeks threads on the UPG of the Week for Reformed
People Group Country Date Posted Beliefs
Korean (Reached People Group) South Korea 11/23/2020 Christian
Qashqa'i Iran 11/16/2020 Islam
Saaroa Taiwan 11/02/2020 Animism (?)
Urdu Ireland 10/26/2020 Islam
Wolof Senegal 10/19/2020 Islam
Turkish Cypriot Cyprus 10/12/2020 Islam
Awjilah Libya 10/05/2020 Islam
Manihar India 09/28/2020 Islam
Tianba China 09/21/2020 Animism
Arab Qatar 09/14/2020 Islam
Turkmen Turkmenistan 08/31/2020 Islam
Lyuli Uzbekistan 08/24/2020 Islam
Kyrgyz Kyrgyzstan 08/17/2020 Islam*
Yakut Russia 08/10/2020 Animism*
Northern Katang Laos 08/03/2020 Animism
Uyghur Kazakhstan 07/27/2020 Islam
Syrian (Levant Arabs) Syria 07/20/2020 Islam
Teda Chad 07/06/2020 Islam
Kotokoli Togo 06/28/2020 Islam
Hobyot Oman 06/22/2020 Islam
Moor Sri Lanka 06/15/2020 Islam
Shaikh Bangladesh 06/08/2020 Islam
Khalka Mongols Mongolia 06/01/2020 Animism
Comorian France 05/18/2020 Islam
Bedouin Jordan 05/11/2020 Islam
Muslim Thai Thailand 05/04/2020 Islam
Nubian Uganda 04/27/2020 Islam
Kraol Cambodia 04/20/2020 Animism
Tay Vietnam 04/13/2020 Animism
Yoruk Turkey 04/06/2020 Islam
Xiaoliangshn Nosu China 03/30/2020 Animism
Jat (Muslim) Pakistan 03/23/2020 Islam
Beja Bedawi Egypt 03/16/2020 Islam
Tunisian Arabs Tunisia 03/09/2020 Islam
Yemeni Arab Yemen 03/02/2020 Islam
Bosniak Croatia 02/24/2020 Islam
Azerbaijani Georgia 02/17/2020 Islam
Zaza-Dimli Turkey 02/10/2020 Islam
Huichol Mexico 02/03/2020 Animism
Kampuchea Krom Cambodia 01/27/2020 Buddhism
Lao Krang Thailand 01/20/2020 Buddhism
Gilaki Iran 01/13/2020 Islam
Uyghurs China 01/01/2020 Islam
Israeli Jews Israel 12/18/2019 Judaism
Drukpa Bhutan 12/11/2019 Buddhism
Malay Malaysia 12/04/2019 Islam
Lisu (Reached People Group) China 11/27/2019 Christian
Dhobi India 11/20/2019 Hinduism
Burmese Myanmar 11/13/2019 Buddhism
Minyak Tibetans China 11/06/2019 Buddhism
Yazidi Iraq 10/30/2019 Animism*
Turks Turkey 10/23/2019 Islam
Kurds Syria 10/16/2019 Islam
Kalmyks Russia 10/09/2019 Buddhism
Luli Tajikistan 10/02/2019 Islam
Japanese Japan 09/25/2019 Shintoism
Urak Lawoi Thailand 09/18/2019 Animism
Kim Mun Vietnam 09/11/2019 Animism
Tai Lue Laos 09/04/2019 Bhuddism
Sundanese Indonesia 08/28/2019 Islam
Central Atlas Berbers Morocco 08/21/2019 Islam
Fulani Nigeria 08/14/2019 Islam
Sonar India 08/07/2019 Hinduism
Pattani Malay Thailand 08/02/2019 Islam
Thai Thailand 07/26/2019 Buddhism
Baloch Pakistan 07/19/2019 Islam
Alawite Syria 07/12/2019 Islam*
Huasa Cote d'Ivoire 06/28/2019 Islam
Chhetri Nepal 06/21/2019 Hinduism
Beja Sudan 06/14/2019 Islam
Yinou China 06/07/2019 Animism
Kazakh Kazakhstan 05/31/2019 Islam
Hui China 05/24/2019 Islam
Masalit Sudan 05/17/2019 Islam
As always, if you have experience in this country or with this people group, feel free to comment or PM me and I will happily edit it so that we can better pray for these peoples!
Here is a list of definitions in case you wonder what exactly I mean by words like "Unreached"
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2020.11.23 15:37 LightIdentity [ANALYSIS] A Character Study of Wilbur’s Mental State on the Dream SMP

(or: A Formal Request For u/wilbursoot's Character to Get Some Therapy)
I am fully aware that the Dream SMP is a roleplay. However, it's a damn good one, and as a result, I'm fully able to overanalyse characters - and I think that's great! This essay is focusing on only one part of this character - I have hyperfixated on him so hard that honestly I would be able to write a second if you really wanted me to.
I'm also... very prepared to, in future, end up having this essay be completely wrong. That's okay! This is just for fun. Roleplay is lighthearted, not stressful, after all.
CONTENT WARNINGS: This includes heavy discussions of depression, trauma, mental health, and suicide. Keep in mind that any reference to ‘Wilbur Soot’ is referring to his character, not the streamer himself. I’m not going to diagnose a real person with real disorders, that’s weirdchamp.
This essay is a spoiler for quite literally all of season one, and the first part of season two. So.. be careful! I will be posting it later on Tumblr under the username general-light.
This essay is about 4.5k words long, and is broken up into approximately five sections. I know that’s a lot; I don’t expect this essay to go very far when it comes to social media. Still, if you read it, thank you a lot!
Wilbur’s character on the Dream SMP is, I would say, one of the most tragic ones compared to the rest of the cast. Looking back on his entire life, it becomes clear with the power of hindsight that he was doomed to eventually crumble in his own mind right from the start of his life. Contrary to popular belief, though, Wilbur’s long-burning fuse does not start with his exile from L’Manberg, but with his childhood – a part of Dream SMP lore that is not often touched upon.
This “essay” will focus on explaining the roots and development of Wilbur’s mental health struggles, how they manifested, and how they impacted all of his decisions. Hopefully, it will serve to awaken people to the depth of his problems. I want to make it clear in advance that I am by no means a formal essay writer. I will mostly be including information that can be backed up by at least one in-canon reference, though I will include some interpretations of character histories as well. Ultimately, this is my assessment of the character – feel free to read and digest as you please.
Key note: There may be times when Wilbur’s own lines will contradict my assertions. Before you counter me with them, remember this key fact: Actions speak louder than words.
---> Table of Contents > 01. Childhood, and Needing Attention > 02. Trauma, Betrayal, and Distrust > 03. Stress, Delusions, and Suicidal Tendencies > 04. Dying With Trauma - Dissociative Amnesia > 0X. Conclusion (and Mock Diagnoses)
> 01. Childhood, and Needing Attention
Wilbur Soot is the son of Philza Minecraft, and the brother to Technoblade, TommyInnit, and Tubbo. The DSMP canon is not very clear on the circumstances of each birth, but with stream evidence, right now, the best assessment of canon is that Wilbur was the oldest biological son of Phil, and Tommy’s biological older brother, and that both Technoblade and Tubbo were adopted into the family at varying dates.
It is evident that Wilbur thinks very highly of his father, thinking back to him in what he once assumed to be his final moments at the Manberg Festival. At least once in his childhood, presumably while he was very young (as Wilbur did not mention any of his brothers in the memory), he and Phil would partake in creative activities together – once, they made Chinese Lanterns, and this memory was strong and positive enough to persist even in his deceased state.
However, despite this period of idyllic peace in his life, it would appear that Phil’s attention would become unevenly divided among his children. In his life, Wilbur would come to display a hunger to be seen and noticed, which most likely stemmed from early experiences of feeling underappreciated and unseen - Phil would express that he didn’t expect Wilbur to be any source of major trouble, trusting him to take care of himself. A lot of Wilbur’s later actions could be interpreted as having been heavily impacted by his drive to be seen and acknowledged, such as his insistence on having at least one person witness his detonation of L’Manberg.
This assertion of imbalance is only reinforced by Phil’s instinctual reaction to his spiralling – Phil condemns Wilbur’s acts, claiming that it’s unlike the son he knows, while endorsing and praising Techno for his literal massacre. This act could be seen as a display of favouritism, implying that there was an imbalance of recognition in their childhood household. It is far more likely that Phil placed more trust in Wilbur to be mature and responsible, but this would backfire, as a higher level of trust would come to result in Wilbur potentially resenting Phil for his lack of parental interference in his life.
These childhood issues would leave a lasting impact on him throughout his entire life. It is possible that his lack of attention fuelled his self-identification as a “Dirty Crime Boy”, and his further acts of lawlessness, as delinquency is often a last resort for people who desire to be recognised for anything at all. This self-identification would fuel his desire to create a drug empire on the Dream SMP in the first place, which would steadily spiral into the creation of L’Manberg as a whole when the Dream Team called his actions into question.
It would appear that Wilbur has always been very fond of his brothers – entries from his later memories would reaffirm this, as he would spend time with both Techno and Tommy frequently. As a result, it would appear that the core of Wilbur’s desire for recognition focuses on Phil’s respect and pride, and nobody else’s. Despite this, Phil is not the only one he thirsts for attention from, almost as if Wilbur is attempting to supplement his lack of fatherly attention with anything else.
Notably, Wilbur inadvertently continues the cycle of fatherhood neglect in his own son, and we can see similar degrees of jealousy and acting out in Fundy’s actions, which only reinforces my assertion.
As a result, I assert that a key potential motive for creating L’Manberg could have been to attract attention from the other server members (and maybe Phil, who had been relatively absent up until that point due to his focus on his own home server). Despite starting an entire nation, Phil would scarcely acknowledge it, most likely because Phil was under the impression that he could handle himself – this likely worsened his frustrations later in life. During his Presidency, Wilbur would begin to struggle with disrespect from his own nation members, which would peak in the civil war fought about the Pet conflict.
This resultant fear that nobody respects him was a key catalyst for his drive to kickstart the first elections, believing that becoming democratically elected was the only way to achieve proper recognition and avoid being displaced among his own family again. Wilbur struggles for control in his own nation – this shows in his closing of the borders and his rules on the members remaining armourless.
The most notable examples of Wilbur’s lasting hunger for attention are clearest in exile. During Niki’s Birthday Party, notably while under the effects of nicotine and perhaps alcohol depending on your perception of the party, Wilbur would openly request attention on multiple occasions, frequently forcing his way into the spotlight of the situation as if he could not bear to go unseen in this situation. Later, he would admit that he only attended because he desired an audience for his detonation (this is the one time he admits this motive for keeping people around out loud).
During his stay in Pogtopia, Wilbur would grow frustrated whenever he showed any signs of losing his say in the commune. Despite not technically having a hierarchy, Wilbur would act like a leader, attempting to reinforce his authority by taking command of the people in it. When Tommy began to show signs of disobedience, Wilbur’s frustration at the lack of respect and recognition boiled over into him snapping at his brother [the classic “there is a reason you are not the President, and never will be” like].
Wilbur would frequently delay his button scheme so that at least one person could bear witness to it, implying that one of the reasons his detonation plan was on such a large scale was to seize attention. He could not bear the thought of burning out alone, intending to go down with an explosion. Chances are, this is a direct result of Wilbur’s thirst for attention. During the Festival, Wilbur was at his most clear about his motives regarding attention, openly wondering if Phil would finally be proud of him.
TL;DR for this section: Wilbur cares for his family a lot. However, for reasons we are not aware of, it is very much likely that he faded into the background in the family dynamic as the relatively plain and typically responsible son. His subsequent lack of recognition from Phil would serve as one of the sparks driving his creation of L’Manberg, his arrangement for the Elections, and his large-scale TNT plot.
> 02. Trauma, Betrayal, and Distrust
Before the War for Independence, Wilbur displayed a high willingness to trust people. L’Manberg was formed on a basis of blind trust among its members, and Wilbur was very happy to let this happen, having had no reason to distrust any of his battalion. This would prove to be a mistake, as Eret would take advantage of his blind trust and betray the nation in one fell swoop, leading to what we consider to be a canon death among the majority of the group.
It would appear that the majority of the war traumatised Wilbur, judging by the memories that his ghost self cannot recall. He doesn’t remember Tommy’s duel with Dream, or the first detonation of the nation, or his initial plans to surrender – it would appear that it is all a sore spot. Notably, Wilbur doesn’t remember Eret at all, and I stand to claim that his betrayal was the most traumatising part of the War for Independence to Wilbur.
After the nation of L’Manberg claimed independence, Wilbur became less trusting. He would refuse to open the borders to non-Europeans at all, requiring they had express permission to step on L’Manberg soil. He was by no means a trusting Presidental candidate, either, constantly wary about where his political party stood in the elections.
These budding trust issues would only worsen with the later betrayals suffered in the Election. Schlatt is implied to have been a friend of Wilbur’s, because he was initially called in as a candidate to support POG2020. However, Schlatt backstabbed him, and formed a coalition government with his main political rival before immediately exiling him and Tommy upon winning the Presidency.
Eret’s betrayal still affected him, even then, as the man would offer the exiles support, only to be turned down repeatedly. Wilbur was still not ready to forgive – it would appear that he was ready for Eret to turn around at any moment and take advantage of their new vulnerable position. He actually seemed insulted at the idea that he should look for support side of the man who traumatised him so harshly.
Later, as an act, Fundy would disown Wilbur and burn down the flag. Unfortunately, Wilbur was unaware of its falsified nature, and so the act would serve to shatter his trust further – if his son was willing to turn traitor and backstab him, who was next?
I assert that the last straw for his initial psychotic break regarding trust is the announcement of the Manberg Festival, because during it, the majority of Manberg’s members seemed content with Schlatt’s rule. It would appear that everyone who had once claimed to support his revolution had turned their backs on him as soon as Schlatt became powerful, and so Wilbur went into a state of moral despair.
He came to the conclusion that nobody had ever truly been on their side, and that the people just follow after whoever is strongest. Even when making plans with Dream, Wilbur worked under the assumption that none of his allies were really on his side, and that even Dream had an ulterior motive regarding the destruction of L’Manberg. Wilbur knew that Dream only supported him because he was going to detonate his land – this didn’t bother him, though, because ultimately, what happened in the aftermath wasn’t going to be his problem (we will discuss the implications of that in the next topic).
Wilbur even prepared himself for the likelihood that Tommy or Tubbo would betray him, though when Quackity proposed the idea of Tommy betraying them, this caused distress to him – it would appear that despite his own despairing ideas of loyalty, Wilbur wanted to believe that he could trust in Tommy no matter what.
Tommy is the one person Wilbur struggled to keep around, through manipulative tendencies and light pleading. I assert that, if Tommy had left Wilbur, his character would have worsened – Tommy was the one person keeping Wilbur together, by the end of the corruption arc. (Despite his trust, it would appear that Wilbur resented his brother somehow, ultimately intending to pass on the Presidency to him in order to detonate the nation in front of him. Wilbur’s emotions surrounding Tommy were very conflicting, and it is very likely that he himself was conflicted on how he felt about his brother.)
TL;DR for this section: Eret’s betrayal was the one key event of the War for Independence that traumatised Wilbur most. He would become conservative with his trust, and later, with the betrayals of Schlatt and Fundy, Wilbur would spiral further into the ideology that loyalty does not truly exist. Tommy is the one exception to his lack of trust, and even then, Wilbur seemed to resent his brother.
> 03. Stress, Delusions, and Suicidal Tendencies
In Wilbur’s own later words, whenever he was not behind a podium, he would scream and cry into a pillow. Wilbur had happy moments as President, but it is now very clear that he went through a lot of emotional turmoil at the head of the fledgling nation. He was absent for a lot of the members’ key conflicts, likely implying he was either elsewhere handling issues or simply uncertain about how to carry himself as the leader of an entire nation.
He would only make appearances in order to complete formal tasks, or attempt to keep Tommy in line in his absences. One such key instance was during the Railway Hit-and-Run with Dream, in which Wilbur was forced to step in to avoid a second war breaking out between the feuding nations. Tommy would eventually fight anyway, though fortunately the escalation was halted before the conflict budded into warfare.
The effects of leadership and struggling to be respected would play on his decision to run an election, and his decisions during the election itself. I would assert that, before the Results, Wilbur was at his most stressed in the first Debate, which ultimately devolved into a screaming match between the two lead parties (and a lot of doubt from Fundy). Wilbur would end it himself, claiming nothing was getting done, and exiting the courtroom without further notice as a result of the cripplingly stressful nature of the situation.
The formality of the title of President led to Wilbur never bringing up his issues with stress in discussion, leading to him bottling them up. I don’t doubt that his later problems with depression would begin their roots here, in a milder form, especially with his admission that he would cry himself to sleep almost every night. President Wilbur was not alright, and this would only serve to worsen with his exile.
Wilbur hardly rested in Pogtopia, frequently completing menial tasks and going back out to Manberg on intel missions. Despite the commune lacking a hierarchy, he was the go-to-leader, and that likely took a toll on him mentally as he coped with the (potentially permanent) loss of his nation.
His trust-issues sparked psychotic break exacerbated the situation, piling the stress further on his shoulders – he now had to cope with the knowledge that he was alone, and he had nothing to fight for anymore. Wilbur deteriorated with this information, losing hope in a positive ending for him and coming to terms with the fact that his old nation had died at the hands of its own aspirations. Wilbur seemingly lost faith in himself, as well.
The conception of the Explosion Plot would bring forth suicidal tendencies in his character. His refusal to wear armour became something that implied he no longer placed any value in his own life anymore. Wilbur had wired the TNT Room up with several blocks laying inside the detonation chamber, implying he intended to explode with it.
This would be further confirmed in the room’s first reveal, when Tommy and Quackity talked him down – he was fully aware he would be trapped with the TNT, and he had made peace with that. I assert that Wilbur intended to die with his failed nation, believing them to be alike in a depressing way.
As his (likely) depression and his suicidal tendencies worsened, Wilbur emotionally detached himself from the revolution, falling into the ideology that their victory was never meant to be. Even when everyone sided against Schlatt, he was in the belief that re-taking the leadership by force was, well, tyrannical at best.
The anthem of L’Manberg itself had claimed the land to be free of tyranny, and by imposing a new age of blood-soaked leadership, it would no longer be true to its one aims. He would wander away from the group as they planned their takeover in a very sad manner, implying that he had succumbed to his despair and the fate he knew he would eventually come to. When he ultimately detonated the nation in front of Phil, he begged for his father to finally kill him in a final burst of suicidal intention.
Wilbur would assert that he was the only victor in the situation as he looked over the destruction, and in a way, this is true for the war – his plans did come to fruition in the way he wanted them to. It is possible that he asserted he was the only victor because he was dying, as well – he had achieved his final goal of finally burning with his nation, the way he intended to.
It’s difficult to decipher Wilbur’s mental state in his final moments before death – it’s very likely that he was not thinking straight at all, and that none of what he said should be taken as a significant truth.
His last few words would taunt Phil with the fact that Techno was the traitor, and then he would talk to himself, mocking Tubbo’s new administration in a final haze of delusion. They’d taken everything from him – his nation, his sanity, his trust, his kindness. I don’t doubt that he felt an overwhelming level of spite towards the living in his final moments.
TL;DR for this section: Wilbur experienced a lot of stress during his Presidency and the Elections, to the point where he would often cry himself to sleep. His depression worsened in his exile, spiking into suicidal desires after his psychotic break. Contrary to popular perceptions of the scene, Wilbur’s mental state did not clear up in his death, and he remained in a state of bitter delusion up until his passing.
> 04. Dying With Trauma - Dissociative Amnesia
Wilbur’s ghost – I will refer to him as Ghostbur in this section for ease of understanding – is, despite acting differently to his living self, still ultimately the same character. In his deathly state, Ghostbur lacks the majority of his negative memories, his mind covering them up with blank spaces and falsified cover-up information. He appears to suffer specifically from dissociative amnesia – a type of amnesia that can be caused or worsened by high levels of stress and trauma.
When asking Tubbo about his memories, Ghostbur quickly backed out of it, claiming he didn’t want to hear anything more. He seems to have a desire to separate himself from his living self’s actions, being deeply troubled at the idea and knowledge that he used to be a bad person. When Quackity tried to forcefully remind him of his detonation plot, Ghostbur resorted to a state of denial, proving that he struggles to cope with the truths of his missing memories.
It is believed that Ghostbur’s memory is actively deteriorating – he forgets quite sporadically, even forgetting when he wrote a book of his memories. It would appear that he is trying to clutch onto some of them with the creation of the ‘What I Remember’ book, though its ending of a hasty scribble and the phrase ‘I don’t know’ implies that the act of recalling for too long sends Ghostbur dangerously close towards a breakdown of some degree. It is possible that the creation of the book itself, and the act of forcing himself to remember for an extensive period of time, was emotionally damaging enough for Ghostbur to repress the memories of the book’s creation as well.
Ghostbur seems to experience some variation of depersonalisation regarding his living self, referring to him in the third person and requesting to be referred to with the Ghostbur nickname and not his living name. Ghostbur struggles with his identity seemingly, trying to spend time around others in a hopes of reclaiming who he is and subsequently finding out how to pass on peacefully. Ghostbur doesn’t seem to be aware of why he is still in L’Manberg as a spirit – he seems surprised at the assertion that he has unfinished business.
Ghostbur remembers his death – he remembers being stabbed by Philza. Notably, he referred to Phil as Philza only when describing how he was “stabbed to death” in his book of memories. He doesn’t seem to remember exactly why he was killed, and does not remember asking for it at all, implying that he doesn’t know anything about his mental state at the time. Ghostbur recalls a large explosion, but not its source, and failed to tie its happening to L’Manberg’s state as a crater.
His familial memories are fairly intact. He remembers Fundy, too – most people assert that he does not fully remember his son, and it is true that he has likely repressed his memories of Fundy’s betrayal. However, Ghostbur recognises his son rather easily, and remembers him growing up. Judging by how Ghostbur acts around Fundy, he’s still very fond of him, and strives to fix whatever Alivebur may have done to ruin their relationship.
It would appear that Ghostbur is still rather depressed, despite his strive to become better. Most of the time, he avoids large meetings, and uses invisibility potions to remain unseen. Ghostbur frequently vocalises that life has no meaning, so there’s no point in being anything but kind. He also speaks about death in a very depressing manner, describing it as a long road with an abrupt death, and asserts that there is nothing in the afterlife. Ghostbur has expressed that he likes being dead, because everyone seems to prefer him when he’s dead, but has vocalised that he doesn’t want to go back to the afterlife, and has occasionally contradicted himself by expressing an offhand desire to be resurrected.
TL;DR for this section: Ghostbur’s lost memories are a result of his lasting trauma, and not the act of dying. The reasoning for his further memory loss may be due to the association of the lost memories with some degree of mental stress. Ghostbur is experiencing some form of depersonalisation about his living self, and is still somewhat depressed about his state of being despite having already died.
> 0X. Conclusion (and Mock Diagnoses)
Wilbur Soot needs therapy. Wilbur Soot needed therapy even when he was still the President of L’Manberg. He’s been through so much as a character that it’s no wonder he snapped in the end. His corruption arc did not begin upon exile.
He has gone down a steady downhill path of rising trauma, trust issues, stress, and ultimately succumbed to his own suicidal desires. (Yes, it is true that he was not the one to kill himself, and Phil did, but don’t forget that he was the one to pressure Phil into doing it, and that he initially intended for there to be TNT in with him when he pressed the button. The explosion plot was an over the top suicide attempt.)
In his state of death, I predict that either Ghostbur will eventually snap upon the weight of his forgotten memories, or he will slowly forget everything and fade out of existence. He acts happy now, and claims to be at peace, but he isn’t – not really, in my perception. He’s still sad, and he’s still traumatised – he’s just locked the memories behind a wall of blankness.
There is absolutely zero chance that his character is/was not suffering from some degree of mental illness. It would appear that, in his “corruption arc” (when his spiral was at its fastest and most clearest), Wilbur’s displays had a lot in common with the symptoms of something like BPD (Borderline Personality Disorder). In order to be diagnosed with this particular disorder, the individual must experience three factors of the Impulsive type. In particular, I think Wilbur best expresses several of these factors, which are as follows:
> A marked tendency to act unexpectedly and without consideration of the consequences. Wilbur often acted rashly in the latter parts of his life – for example, in the Manberg Festival, he would stride out in the middle of a post-massacre festival in order to confront Schlatt, wearing no armour on his back. He would consistently refuse to wear armour, and it could be argued that his entire explosion plot falls under this factor. It could also be argued that his pitting Tommy and Techno in fist combat against each other could fall under this, too.
> A marked tendency to engage in quarrelsome behaviour and to have conflicts with others, especially when impulsive acts are thwarted or criticized. Wilbur frequently fought with Tommy and Quackity when his plots were called into question. Even before his psychotic break, he would argue with Tommy when he acted out. This would happen multiple times (I can presently think of three separate arguments, two of which were in response to criticism of Wilbur’s plans.)
> An unstable and capricious (impulsive, whimsical) mood. Wilbur tips between being scarily gleeful at his plan, playfully discussing warfare and teasing at his plotted destruction, to turning desperate and angry, turning his anger on those around him, to turning almost melancholy, remarking on his lack of a home sadly and disconnecting himself from the rebellion around him. It’s hard to guess what mood he will be in most of the time.
This would-be diagnosis fits with the assertion that his character also potentially suffered from PTSD (Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder) to some degree after the War for Independence, and the idea that his ghost self (who does not fit these criteria solely because he has forgotten experiencing the triggers for them) experiences dissociative amnesia as the result of a spike in said PTSD after the Manberg Rebellion.
Take my diagnoses with a grain of salt, though – it was probably unintentional, and I am not a psychologist (yet - I can hope!). I encourage further research on the topic, if you get this far in the essay.
Thank you for reading. I hope my claims didn’t sound entirely insane. This is, effectively, a longer and more in-depth version of my shortened summary of character!Wilbur’s mental health issues that can be found on his character wiki page.
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2020.11.23 14:30 SirParsifal Looking Back at the Last Decade of Baseball: The 2020s in Review (part 1 of 2)

The last decade of baseball sure has been fun, hasn’t it? We’ve had thrills, we’ve had chills, we’ve had spills, . But a decade is a long time, and much has been forgotten: So let’s look back on the 2020s, and all the things that happened in it! We begin in...


January: Hype builds around the top free agent of the season, Trevor Bauer. After announcing that he will not accept any deals that do not have leading numbers of either 69 or 420, front offices scramble to free up the necessary budget space.
February: As players arrive at spring training, there is an astounding amount of hype surrounding the young superstar Vladimir Guerrero Jr., who is reported by multiple news outlets as being in, ‘the worst shape of his life’.
March: After four intense months of free agent negotiations, Trevor Bauer announces he plans to take a gap year to explore his possible options in life.
On Opening Day, Byron Buxton runs full-tilt into the outfield wall while trying to track down a Jorge Soler home run. He breaks three wrists and is out for the remainder of the season, sparing Twins fans the disappointment of seeing him waste his batting potential.
April: Mike Fiers, sick of being snubbed by front offices due to his role in blowing the whistle on the Astros sign stealing scandal, writes a tell-all where he claims he was the brains behind the whole operation. Eight different MLB clubs and Bill Belicheck immediately send him a contract offer.
May: Mark Reynolds announces his retirement on the grounds of being completely blind. He is promptly offered a lucrative contract by the umpire’s union.
June: On June 12, highly touted prospect Seth Beer makes his major league debut with the Arizona Diamondbacks. He uses ‘Beer’ by Reel Big Fish as his walkup song, and is immediately banned from baseball for life for reminding people that ska existed.
July: Fernando Tatis Jr. again ignites controversy from the media and from former players after being intentionally walked when his team is up by ten. “That is a disgusting act by Fernando Tatis Jr. and it's unfortunate that we had that on our air live”, says Joe Buck, calling the game for FOX, “That is disgusting by Tatis”.
Toronto continues their long-standing tradition of signing prospects who were born of somebody who screwed someone who used to be a good major league player by bringing A.J. Burnett Jr. into their minor league system.
August: Hawk Harrelson returns to broadcast a single game for the White Sox. Chicago gives up ten runs in the first, and Hawk remains completely silent for the last eight innings.
After years of controversy, the Cleveland Indians finally announce their rebrand. Their announcement states, “We waited far too long to get rid of Chief Wahoo. We’re not going to be late to the party for the next step. With Washington rebranding, it’s time to strike while the iron is hot. We recognize that there will likely be uproar, but history will vindicate us. From now on, the team will be known as the Ohio Indians”.
September: The MLB marketing team goes into overdrive and announces the creation of MLBFilms, a movie company developing films starring MLB players to try to increase their public image.
October: The Mariners put the final touches on a blessed season by mounting a five-run comeback against the Angels in the bottom of the ninth inning of game 162. Kyle Seager hits a walk-off grand slam to cap it off. They finish 73-89.
November: With the close of the 2021 season, the collective bargaining agreement between the MLB and the Player’s Union ends. For the sake of everyone’s sanity, both sides agree to ignore this.
After further investigation into the Astros sign stealing scandal, the Comissioners’s Office announces new sanctions: Cleveland State will receive the ‘death penalty’.
December: The Rockies broadcast team welcomes Matt Holliday as their new color commentator. The longtime Colorado player joins Drew Goodman, Ryan Spilbroughs, and Jeff Huson in the booth.
A.J Pierzynski receives two votes for the Hall of Fame and immediately demands a recount.


January: Tim Lincecum, long time Giants fan favorite, announces his intent to come back to baseball. ‘I’ve been out of this game too long. I wasn’t sure if the fans and the team would accept me after all this time, but the support I’ve received has been incredible. When this position as a bat boy opened up, I knew it was made for me”. He will face stiff competition from a number of eight year olds to fill the position
MLBFilms announces their first movie: a four hour long, Scorsese-directed gender swapped version of A League of Their Own. It stars Mike Trout, Bryce Harper, Giancarlo Stanton, and Mo’ne Davis. It will be cinema.
February: The Blue Jays show some concern as Vladimir Guerrero Jr seems to have gained more weight during the offseason, ballooning up to 300 pounds, and requesting a position change to designated hitter.
March: Tragedy strikes Tampa Bay as Tropicana Field is mistaken for an abandoned shopping mall and torn down by a demolitions company. The goof isn’t noticed for almost a week until a group of Yankees fans arrives to buy tickets.
April: Trevor Bauer finally decides to sign with someone, and signs a $69 million, 4.20 year deal with the White Sox for the express purpose of trying to get suspended by Tony La Russa.
May: The Rays announce they are rebuilding Tropicana Field exactly as it was, brick-for-brick. They put out a call for any Yankees fans who might have attended the stadium in the last few years to send pictures to work off of, as the original plans for the Trop were traded to the Mariners for cash considerations years ago.
Nelson Cruz invites controversy after choosing the 17 minute version of ‘In-A-Gadda-Da-Vida’ as his walkup song, and not stepping into the box until the entire song is finished. He manages to avoid getting plunked by pitchers until he starts doing air-guitars with the bat and drumming the solo on home plate.
June: The MLB marketing team jumps back into action by putting pictures of Spiderman on the bases, presumably on direct order from J. Jonah Jameson. This is immediately met with massive backlash from every human being on earth, including Spiderman himself. Bud Selig counters, “Suck it up, buttercup.” This is a real thing that happened.
The Braves pay Bruce Sutter ten million dollars and thank their lucky stars that Bobby Bonilla gets all the press.
July: The umpire’s union receives serious backlash after Ron Kulpa blows a ball-strike ball on a David Price perfect game in progress, causing him to walk Nick Castellanos with two outs in the first inning.
Joe Buck broadcasts the entire Home Run Derby solo, saying, ‘And we will see you tomorrow night’ in a straight, monotone voice for every single home run; gradually increasing in volume until he yells at the top of his lungs continually during the final round. It receives the highest ever ratings for any television event ever. Jo Adell wins with three total home runs.
On July 21st, in a game against the Diamondbacks, Kenley Jansen intentionally balks to move a runner from second to third. Sensing unwritten rules being broken, Brian McCann punches his way out of his grave beneath the mound and hits Jansen with a DDT, killing him instantly.
August: Tony La Russa publicly announces he is moving on to a more sabermetric way of managing, and moves his center fielder out of the first spot in the batting order. “Perhaps, depending on how this goes, I may even move the catcher out of the ninth spot in the order.”
September: As their season ends, the Ohio Indians announce another name change, citing how large the backlash was and how offensive they learned their name was to the millions of people who were not acclimatized to it. They are now known as the Lake Erie Indians.
October: The Marlins, after years of careful management by Derek Jeter, sweep the National League playoffs on their way to a World Series victory over the Athletics in six games. Immediately after hoisting the trophy, the entire front office is sold off to other franchises to save salary room.
After the World Series, Bud Selig officially announces his retirement as MLB commissioner. “After thirty years in this position, it’s time for me to move on. I am grateful to the owners throughout Major League Baseball for their unwavering support and for allowing me to lead this great institution. I thank our players, who give me unlimited enthusiasm about the future of our game. Together we have taken this sport to new heights and have positioned our national pastime to thrive for generations to come. Most of all, I would like to thank our fans, who are the heart and soul of our game.” Tony Clark is thought to be next in line for the position.
November: Bill James publishes his new book, The Measure of a Man, where he has an exact formula worked out for the value of individual human lives. Mike Trout is worth exactly $290,322,784.32. You are worth twelve cents.
December: The Winter Meetings begin with a bang as the Mariners announce they are trading Kyle Lewis for ten of the Yankees’ wins next year. DiPoto says, “They probably won’t need them, and although we aren’t going to get enough to win the whole shebang, we might be able to get the 15 percent share to get an invite to the debates. With that kind of media coverage, who knows where we can go?”


January: The Nationals announce that Mike Rizzo is stepping down as President of Baseball Operations, but not before giving himself ‘a full and legal pardon for all crimes he may or may not have committed while in his position, and for all the crimes he may or may not commit in the future.’
The Athletic releases a shocking exposé showing that Tim Wakefield’s ‘rolling contract’ on the Red Sox will actually never expire due to a legal technicality. The Red Sox owe him $4 million, every year, until the heat death of the universe.
February: The MLB marketing team puts pictures of Mike Trout on milk cartons, with the caption, ‘Have You Seen This Kiiiiiiiid?’. The only result is the occasional call to the missing persons hotline whenever somebody accidentally tunes into an Angels game.
Vladimir Guerrero Jr. arrives at spring training announcing that he feels lighter and faster than ever, due to his fat folds being held up by repulsorlifts like Baron Vladimir Harkonnen in Dune.
March: Disaster strikes the Oakland Coliseum as the Wave takes hold of the stadium on opening day. Thousands of people die either of exhaustion or starvation. The governor attempts to declare a disaster zone, but finds out that legally, the entirety of Oakland has been a disaster for the last thirty years.
April: Nothing happened this month.
May: The Boston Red Sox are caught up in yet another cheating scandal, where the Blue Jays allege that Tom Brady, somehow, managed to deflate their baseballs before a key playoff game in 2022.
Byron Buxton runs headfirst into a Mack truck that was accidentally left parked in Target Field’s outfield by the ground crew. He loses eight ribs from the resulting surgery and is out for 6-8 weeks.
Robbie Cano is banned from the MLB for life after testing positive for shooting up black tar heroin into his eyeball.
June: Matt Holliday is suspended from his broadcast job after claims that, in the past, he had ‘inappropriately touched’ home plate during his Rockies career.
Tom Brady is ambushed at his house by Brian McCann and tombstoned directly into the driveway, killing him instantly. There are no witnesses.
July: Fernando Tatis Jr. is suspended by the Padres without pay for a week after being hit by a pitch with the bases loaded while up by twelve over the Dodgers. John Smoltz condemns his repulsive behavior by running up the score. Lynch mobs assemble outside Petco Park.
Billy Hamilton wins the Home Run Derby after discovering that inside the park home runs are not technically banned. He racks up 783 home runs in the first round alone before the kids playing the outfield figure out what’s going on.
August: Matt Holliday is cleared and reinstated to his job after no evidence was found of him actually touching home plate. In a public statement, he thanks the Padres for their longtime support and their hard work to clear his name in this matter.
During a Braves-Marlins game, the disembodied head of Joe Buck appears on the Fox Sports South broadcast on all cameras and stares wistfully into the camera for twenty-two seconds before bleeding from the eyes and fading away. Buck declines to comment on the matter.
September: Jose Canseco announces in a tweet that, if he is not elected to the Hall of Fame by the Veteran’s Committee immediately, he will not intervene to save us all from the upcoming singularity robot apocalypse.
October: In the Wild Card game against the Blue Jays, the Astros again invite controversy by calling the other team’s bullpen phone constantly and telling Ken Giles to stop warming up; twenty-seven times in the eighth inning alone. With Toronto unable to use their bullpen, Russell Martin comes in for the save situation and gives up seventeen runs. Charlie Montoyo attempts to protest the game, but the Astros yell so loud at the umpires that they can’t hear what he’s saying.
Pete Rose reveals that he was behind the 1978 Boston College point shaving scandal, and boy, did he make a ton of money from that. He is immediately banned for life from the Basketball Hall of Fame.
November: Both the American and National leagues award their MVP award to Albert Belle despite him being out of the league for twenty years, as he certainly did not deserve to lose to Mo Vaughn in 1995. Pedro Martinez finishes a close second.
Albert Pujols’ home run against Brad Lidge finally lands, killing millions on impact.
December: At the Winter Meetings, Brett Favre formally announces his retirement from the NFL.
The Yankees flex their checks and sign one of the best pitchers ever to have played the game for 15yrs/450million: Christopher Robin from Winnie The Pooh Home Run Derby.


January: In an explosive piece of investigative journalism, The Athletic discovers that Joe Buck has ties to Russia. Buck categorically denied the allegations in a press statement, adding, ‘And we will see you tomorrow night. In court.’
Jose Canseco is unanimously elected to the Hall of Fame.
February: Vladimir Guerrero Jr arrives at spring training by oozing through the windows of the practice facility and reforming himself into a man-like form in the hallways. He moves to the outfield, as he now covers enough ground that the ball will never hit the turf.
March: MLB The Show 2024 releases to rave reviews from critics, despite being the exact same game as MLB the Show 2023 and MLB the Show 2022. It is voted the best sports game of the year for the simple fact that they did not remove features from last year’s game.
On opening day, Dusty Baker announces to the umpires that he will be playing the entire season under protest. He gives no explanation.
April: Spencer Torkelson makes his MLB debut for the Tigers, lasting an entire at-bat before the umpires pull him from the game and send him back to the 1890s where his name belongs.
The Yankees announce that they are moving away from the pinstripe uniforms which have dominated their style since the early days of the club, and are switching to more iconic and beloved uniforms - the 1970s Houston Astros rainbow jerseys, effective immediately. Yankees fans strenuously object because it’s harder to look like assholes when wearing bright, happy colors.
May: Aroldis Chapman mirrors Randy Johnson when, during a save opportunity at Yankee Stadium, he brings down a low-flying single engine plane with a pitch, killing the pilot. This becomes the second-worst plane accident involving a Yankees pitcher in New York in the last twenty years.. [Editor’s note: This is not a 9/11 joke. That would be incredibly distasteful and disrespectful to the thousands of Americans that died on that day. This is a joke about Corey Lidle, whose death is slightly more socially acceptable to make light of.]
June: Scientists working with the New York Yankees announce new developments in doing The Wave, led by observations at Yankee Stadium. This new version of The Wave, endorsed by Yankees fans around the world, will be done only with the middle finger.
July: MLBFilms announce their next release - a collaboration with Warner Bros: Scooby-Doo! Batter Up!, where the Scooby gang meets Bryce Harper and the Phillies and have to defeat a ghost that possessed the Philly Phanatic and locked the team inside Citizens Bank Park. The city of Philadelphia defeats the ghost by throwing batteries at it, and it’s revealed to have been Gritty all along. This is not a joke.
For the fifteenth and final time, the Reds pay Ken Griffey Jr. 3.6 million dollars, ending his deferred contract. The Reds front office once again thanks the Mets for being such boneheads that nobody cares that other teams have far, far worse deferred contracts than they do. Although none of the other ones had to do with Bernie Madoff.
August: The Blue Jays announce that they are negotiating with LeBron James, Jr for a minor league deal.
Brett Gardner tests positive for having a giant fucking head and is suspended by the MLB for 80 games. He appeals on grounds of the test possibly being a false positive, and the possibility that vitamins he took were contaminated, and that, as a sovereign citizen, the MLB has no right to test him. He also tests positive for eleven different steroids, which he does not contest.
September: Tony La Russa announces his retirement at the end of the season, citing his early stages of dementia. This confirms the rumors that spread around the league after La Russa wandered off in the middle of a game to find the nearest Cracker Barrel.
October: Fernando Tatis Jr. disrespects the game of baseball by arriving at Petco for a game after the Padres have clinched the top seed in the playoffs. Brain McCann materializes out of the aether and hits Tatis with an elbow off the top ropes, killing him instantly.
The MLB announces a new broadcast format for the World Series, where Don Orsillo and Jerry Remy will sit silhouetted in front of a screen with the official Joe Buck/Tim McCarver broadcast and heckle them constantly, MST3k style. It is cancelled after one game after complaints from Joe Buck’s mother.
November: Radical sabermetricians make the news by making threats against the MLB, warning that unless announcers actually learn how WAR and FIP work, ‘there will be consequences’. Commissioner Tony Clark gives a strong speech, responding that the MLB ‘does not negotiate with terrorists. We don’t even negotiate with the MLBPA most of the time’’.
December: The Red Sox trade Tim Wakefield’s rolling contract to the Mariners in exchange for the Mariners’ franchise history and the cutout of a baseball player that sits outside a Lowe’s in Seattle.


January: The St. Louis Cardinals accidentally delete their Excel 95 spreadsheet listing their minor league prospects. It’s estimated that up to 200 ballplayers were lost, and though scouts managed to retrieve some of them, a large number still cannot be accounted for.
February: Vladimir Guerrero Jr. announces his retirement from baseball to star in an MLBFilms remake of ‘The Blob’.
March: The MLB floats the idea of having a ‘three batter minimum’ for pitchers, so that teams won’t continually switch pitchers to gain a handedness advantage. This is laughed at by everyone, so they forget about it. The idea never comes up again.
April: In an otherwise routine game at Target Field, Byron Buxton is tracking down a routine pop fly when he suddenly runs headlong into the evidence that Pete Rose bet against the Reds, shattering every bone in his body and eight in Max Kepler’s.
May: The Mets broadcast leaves a live mic on Zach Greinke, which picks up what he’s constantly mumbling about while on the mound. A transcript: “Dog carcass in alley this morning. Tire tread on burst stomach. The city is afraid [strikes out Tim Anderson] of me. I have seen it's true face. The streets are extended gutters and the gutters are full of blood and when the drains finally scab over all the [induces a Chad Wallach pop-up] vermin will drown. The accumulated filth of all their sex and murder will foam up about their waists and and all the whores and politicians will look up and shout "save us!"... and I'll look down from the mound and [retires Derek Dietrich on three pitches] whisper "no"”
June: June 28, 2025. A date which will live in infamy. Everyone remembers where they were on that day. The pictures are burned into the brain of every man, woman, and child watching the All-Star game.
The black helicopter landing in center field.
The masked figures kicking a bound and gagged David Eckstein out of the door.
Their speech through the loudspeaker system, calling for the deaths of all those who stood in the way of progress. You all know what followed.
When that helicopter took off, leaving a four foot eight corpse on the field, the relationship between baseball and statistics was changed forever. SABR was declared a terrorist organization, and although Bill James denied any involvement and denounced the perpetrators, he would never be looked at the same. The FBI tracks him for the rest of his life.
July: C.C. Sabathia, Brian McCann, and the corpse of David Eckstein are inducted into the Hall of Fame. During his speech, Sabathia briefly mentions breaking the unwritten rules of baseball, and Brian McCann hits him with a steel chair, killing him instantly.
A huge remembrance of David Eckstein’s life takes place among the media.
“How can a man weighing 45 pounds and only two and a half feet tall make such an impression on the hearts of man? Not everyone has the grit, the determination, the grit, the dirtiness, the courage, the grit, or the grit to win in the MLB, but that’s only because Eckstein took the grit from all those people to use himself.”
“We all remember Eckstein single-handedly dragging the Cardinals to a World Series victory, but it’s easy to overlook his other work, and not just because he was so short. This was a man whose bodily fluids were filled with lunch pails.”
August: SABR’s hitlist is leaked by government agencies. It includes the two bozos who left Pedro Martinez off the MVP ballot, 90’s Joe Carter, John Smoltz, and everyone who ever wrote an article about David Eckstein, ‘to wipe clean the scum of the earth’. All of these people are immediately placed under police protection except John Smoltz, who refused it as he never believed in sabermetrics anyway.
September: A source inside the MLB suggests that they should have been more prepared for a terrorist attack, saying, “These guys are literally named SABR - could they have more of a Bond villain secret organization name? And look at their mission statement: ‘we seek the deaths of those who would desecrate our great national pastime, and those who refuse to understand it.’ - shouldn’t that have turned some heads? I believe that the MLB intentionally ignored this threat so they could go to war with SABR and then seize their oil”. Tony Clark refuses comment.
Tony La Russa announces his retirement from baseball at the end of the season.
October: After a long and storied career, Albert Pujols announces his retirement and immediately ages 150 years to return to his true age like Donovan at the end of Indiana Jones and the Last Crusade. Both dugouts rush his desiccated body to claim the bones as good luck charms.
November: David Eckstein is posthumously inducted into the Rock n’ Roll Hall of Fame as an honorary member of the Nitty Gritty Dirt Band.
The NAACP makes headlines when they release their list of Greatest Baseball Players of All Time, due to Jose Bautista taking the #1 spot over from Jackie Robinson. They justify it by saying ‘Jose Bautista is the Harriet Tubman of his times”.
December: After missing the playoffs for the tenth straight year, the Philadelphia Phillies trade Bryce Harper to the New York Yankees for a sack of potatoes.
Part 2: 2026-2030
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2020.11.23 14:08 GainFintechreviews Things You Need to Consider Before Trading on GainFinTech

Things You Need to Consider Before Trading on GainFinTech
If you are already in the world of trading and cryptocurrency or have not got in yet but are interested, you might have come across some contrasting versions of GainFinTech reviews. It might be confusing for someone who wants to start reading these many stories from one platform with different outcomes. That is understandable; however, those who are experts in this area and think of themselves as professional day traders, including myself, are also confused by these GainFinTech reviews.
Because I have been using this platform as my primary exchange for a long time now, I was curious to find out what all this fuss is about. So, I did some research. The result I found was quite interesting, so I decided to share it with you trading enthusiasts here in this GainFinTech review.
Here is the thing in short, and I will explain it in detail throughout my GainFinTech review. The reason there are so many GainFinTech reviews out there on the internet with contrasting information is that basically, the kinds of traders who use this particular trading platform are in two major groups:
1. The professional traders. These people have worked their way up in this business. They are experienced, they have educated themselves by reading or experimenting with cryptocurrency, and they know about the risks and gains involved in this field.
2. The beginners. These are the individuals who may not know much, or even anything for that matter, about trading. They just start exchanging or investing some money without analyzing or anticipating any risks or the depth of knowledge required.
The thing about the first group is that they know if things go wrong, it is their fault as a trader who did not pay enough attention to the trends or ignored the signals and traded on a hunch. They know how things work in this business and do not blame the platform or the website for a loss they have taken. On the other hand, it is the second group that has messed things up. Not that being a beginner is a wrong thing, but if you are just starting to trade, and you have zero knowledge of how things work, you need a little education in the field before actually starting to invest or exchange. If you neglect that and refuse to experiment or learn the craft for any reason and lose your money as a result, it is completely your fault. You have no right to discuss it on your social media and blame the exchange or the platform.
All that a platform does is to give you an opportunity. At the end of the day, it is you who decides to click that button and trade. So be responsible and educate yourself before getting into this.
Anyway, now that we are done with GainFinTech reviews, I felt the need to write my version of the GainFinTech review and tell you about a few things you need to be aware of before trading on this platform, especially if you are a beginner.

GainFintech Reviews

1. Your Margin

Even though using margins in trading is easy and can create many opportunities, you should know that it is by no means risk-free. The only point that beginner traders consider is that using margin allows them to trade more with investing less money. However, there is another side to this story, and you really need to be careful with that. The other thing you need to consider is that by using a margin, you are not always winning more money, but also, if you lose, you lose more money. A loss of 50 percent or more from stocks bought on a margin is equal to a loss of 100 percent, which is in addition to interest rates and commissions.
Many beginner traders start trading on the margin because they want to make more profit in a shorter time, without being aware of the risks. And when they do lose their money twice as they should have on trading without margin, they criticize the platform for not giving them sufficient information on the matter, and they begin to believe that the website has scammed them.
That is not the platform’s responsibility, and that is one of the main reasons I decided to write this GainFinTech review and share it with you. Gainfinech has outstanding and up-to-date trading charts and signals. Even if you want to use margin and invest with it, read to analyze the signals and charts first and use your margin only on the stocks that are predicted to go up, NOT on the ones that have been stable for a long time or the ones that are liable to fluctuation. In short, learn how to use your margin first and use it smartly, or do not use it at all.

2. Your Leverage

Even though leverage and margin are interconnected and often used together, there is a difference between them. This GainFinTech review is not about this technicality, but if I want to explain this difference in short, I would say margin is the amount of money you need to open a position, while leverage is the multiple of exposure to account equity.
Using leverage, just like margin, takes in-depth education and training. It is risky because you can lose a lot of money, but it is also helpful because it can enable you to trade with more capital. If you cannot accept the risk that comes with using leverage for your trading, I should completely avoid it, at least at the beginning. But, if you can accept this risk and you are willing to commit to the potential loss without blaming others for it, you should think of ways and strategies to hedge this risk. Read the FAQs from the Ginfintech website and try to analyze how things work. Also, you can join traders’ communities on social media and see how other traders have used their leverage and what kind of stock or crypto they have used it on. This way, you can use your leverage more wisely, considering all the possible outcomes.
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2020.11.23 12:34 EffectIndependent I ended my relationship with my ADHD dx BF

Hi It’s a long story that I tried to keep short of my relationship with my ADHD partner, it is my side of my story and I just need to vent out since I’m currently in the process of getting over on my break up.
I newly moved in Australia for work, I have no relatives or friends here but it did not bother me much I’m excited to take the challenge, and so I met this cute, wonderful and sensitive man through dating app, we dated and we hit it off really fast. First few weeks that we dated I noticed that he doesn’t keep his promises, he doesn’t take me out for a date as he said he would but since its covid time, nothing is open so I accepted that, even though I can think of a lot of things to do without going to restaurant. So I suggested that we go for a park I was pretty excited about that and when the day came I was dressed just ready for him to arrive, when the day came he cancelled out for the last minute and my gut feeling said no. This is not right, I feel that I was being treated like whatever so I broke off with him, what I did not expected was I feel so strongly for him, long story short I fell in love and my heart and brain keeps on fighting and in the end I said ok lets try again, I will not be judgmental and try to work this out.
So I reach out to him and we got back together, we went on and off a couple few times and every time I broke up with him or he broke up with me it really breaks my heart. One day when we were just settled for being friends he mentioned that he had ADHD. I’ve heard of it but I never knew about it, so I researched, watched videos and eventually found this support group. Everything made sense and I sympathize with him, it must be so hard to have this kind of condition while people assume that you should be normal so I tried to understand him, there comes a point that he was down and was ready to give up since he lost his job and he doesn’t have enough money to live here in Australia since he was a student and working here.
I offered my place I told him that he was welcome to stay until he got back from his feet and we got back together at same time, from then on I see his behavior differently, I gave more patience and become more sympathetic in his condition. I though I can make it, I even think we would last and will eventually end up together however, reality slowly comes crushing down on me. The cleaning, 8+ hours of games, sleeping half a day and the rest social media, games and shows hit me. I gave more patience because I know this is ADHD at work but what rubs me raw is not once did he asked me out for us to go on a date, spend time together or do something together. We will go out half a day then the other half until the next morning he will play his game at the café.
I’m always the one who asked out. I think that my love for him start dying when on my Birthday that I have to remind him 3x yet he did not bring me anything. He just greeted me Happy Birthday preheated a bread and went out to his part time work. When he got home he just bought two beers and two instant curry for his lunch tomorrow then proceeds to let out his frustrations for the day. I thought I will receive flowers or even a cupcake for my birthday but none. The next morning we have plans to at least go to the beach so we can celebrate my Birthday, I woke up early and waited for him I expected him to at least at my important day he will have an initiative to wake up or be excited for us to go and celebrate since he never fail to set an alarm for his work and he always follow up with his cousin on where they are going if his cousins invites him.
half day later he's still in bed, I got angry, showered and get dressed to go out and he just said to me you’re going? And I said yes, he said are you ok? (obviously not) but I said yeah and he said ok have fun. And I went out and I was really, really bitter that day walking alone and just bought myself a cake and ate it alone at a café. From that day on I got my walls up, we got on some fights and every time we have one my love for him became less and less even though he tells me he likes me so much, I’m the best person he ever met, the best GF and etc. Until we had a heavy fight and after we calmed down the following days then months we stopped being intimate, I thought to myself that maybe he decided for us to be friends but he doesn’t have the balls to tell me or this might be ADHD? his hyper focus on me is over, I don’t know. But one time he told me that if I want to do something (sex I believe) I have to ask for it. And when I heard it, it sounds ridiculous why would I have to ask for sex? And when I tell him my frustrations about his lack of attention or etc he tells me you just have to tell me. And I hate it every time he say that. Why do I have to tell you? Don’t you have initiative? That’s what I keep on thinking. Eventually he moved out of my apartment and it got me to a long depression almost every day. He only visits me to pick up his stuff or when he needs a parking from the city.
The last draw was when I’ve been planning for months for the both of us on this coming holiday and when I’m telling him about my plans he told me that we were suppose to go to his friends xmas dinner or lunch (I don’t know exactly since he doesn’t know if it would be xmas eve or day) it hurts me that he assumes that we will go to his friend when I’ve been planning here alone for months now.
I told him that if he wants to go, he’s free to go but I will go as planned. I’ve been generous enough to say that we will go if the date for my plan will not be in conflict with his friends’ and he laughed at me and said I was such a Sheldon (from the show big bang theory). Everything has to be on schedule, even laundry has to be on Friday and at that moment I was thinking he was just laughing at me and its just like I’m just seeing him for the first time. I asked again on what his opinion about my plans and he just told me I don’t know, I don’t care whichever’. And then I knew its over, I don’t want this anymore, I've felt depressed, alone and I've been crying honestly even before he moved out. I ended it.
Right now I feel numb, sad and I don’t really have a support here since I live here alone. I talked to my family about it but its never the same since they were not with me. Its hard.. it was really, really hard but I thought its better now than later. I realized I was never happy from the beginning and I should have followed my gut feeling to save me this trouble.
Thank you for reading this, this is my side of the story and I know I also made mistakes. My Ex is a wonderful person that's unfortunately had ADHD condition but I'll never know if its his personality that's rotten or ADHD.
This channel has been my support and reference from my ex's behaviour. Thank you for posting your stories and heartaches I admire you all for staying to your partners I wish you all the best.
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2020.11.23 12:18 SMcNuggets05 I(24F) think my bf(27M) is embarrassed of me

I never really thought much about this since he introduced me to his friends but there was this one time when we went out with them and just right after his friend suggested that we take some pictures as a group, my bf tried to hide his face in the hood of his jacket and just removed it because his friend that took the photo noticed that we can’t see his face in the picture. One of his friend even teased and asked if my bf’s trying to hide me from someone and that’s when I started to feel insecure.
We’ve been going out for 6 months now, he never posted about us and he’s very active in social media but whenever his friends would tag him in our group pictures, he would never put it in his timeline. I remember our mutual friend telling me that he used to post about his ex just a few months after they started dating.
He wouldn’t hold my hand out in public except when it’s dark outside or when we’re already in the parking lot and there’s not a lot of people. I also think his family doesn’t even know about me, except for his dad whom I was only able to talk to, one time and through the phone.
I never had a bf that’s embarrassed of me and I admit, this really made me overthink things. He used to say that he doesn’t care about looks since looks eventually fade but I just noticed that looks are so much important to him.
I gained at least 30lbs since the first time we met a year ago and he would always always tell me to lose weight and how he liked how I looked before. We’ve been dating for 6 months now and we still haven’t had sex, another reason that made me insecure.
Since I started dating him, my confidence just continues to drop so I’m planning to end things with him but what I don’t understand is why he would even keep me if he’s embarrassed of me.
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2020.11.23 12:15 justme91d A non compete form in contract

Hey all first time poster in the his group. I have been given a contract with a non contract clause.
They also listen a list of companies I am not allowed to apply for. The list is a lot of companies in the marketing and media space. They have also stated the list can change from time to time. I am corned as I am not allowed to work for three months if I leave with my probation. It’s also stated after my probation I cannot for a period of a year if I pass my probation. Feels like if I take this then if I want to move onto another company. As my industry is small and what action they take? I will be employed as a manager working under one of the managing directors.
The contract
21.2.1 Non-competition The Employee shall not for a period of 12 months from the Termination Date directly or indirectly be interested or concerned in any business on the Restricted Agencies list. The Employee shall not for a period of three months from the Termination Date directly or indirectly be interested or concerned in any other business which is carried on in the Area and which (a) concerns the business of advertising or marketing, media planning and buying, market research activities or support to in-house communications departments for all types of financial services businesses and with which the Employee was actively involved at any time during the Relevant Period; or (b) is competitive or likely to be competitive with the business of the Company or any Relevant Group Company being carried on at the Termination Date and with which the Employee was actively involved during the Relevant Period or 17
(c) if the Termination Date falls within six months of the Commencement date, then the restriction imposed by clause 21.2.1 is limited to those Restricted Agencies listed. Should the Termination Date fall on a date beyond six months after the Commencement date, clause 21.2.1 applies to all Competing Agencies and businesses which deliver Services as defined. For this purpose, the Employee is concerned in a business if: (i) he/she carries it on as principal or agent; or (ii) he/she is a partner, director, employee, secondee, consultant or agent in, of or to any Person who carries on the business; or (iii) subject to clause 12 above, the Employee has any direct or indirect financial interest (as shareholder or otherwise) in any Person who carries on the business.
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2020.11.23 06:26 Consistent_Produce_1 Why the freedom fighters should not be in the games

REASON No 1: Their backstories are 100% incompatible with the SEGASonic universe! Some of their backstories rely on certain events from SuckAM/Archie to happen (ex: Robotnik taking over the world). As far as we all know, those events didn't happen. Their planet is already free! Also their cameo appearance in Sonic Spinball doesn't count, since that game is NOT canon to the mainstream games. You might be thinking "What if they change it?" Well obviously, those SonSatAM Whiners (as I like to call them) clearly don't like any changes given to their "precious" characters, especially Sally the Mary-Sue.
REASON No 2: Their roles have already been taken! Let's take a look see;
Sally Acorn - Sorry, but no! Amy is THE main action girl and quasi-romantic interest. Whether you haters like it or not! Rouge and Blaze also fall into the action girl trope as well. Tails is also Sonic's well established BFF and right hand man as well as the analytist and brains of the group. Plus, she IS a Mary-Sue! (Stop denying it fanbrats, you know it's TRUE!) Even Archie recently admitted it. Don't believe me? See for yourself!… After 3 kill off attempts, I have one simple question to ask. Why can't this thing (I refuse to call it a character) just STAY DEAD!?
Bunnie Rabbot - While it would be nice to have an all Power-type female character (and I'm sure SEGA/Sonic Team will make one someday) and she is one of the very few characters from SuckAM that I do give a shit about, we've got enough muscle characters already. I'm NOT trying to be disrespectful or anything. I'm just telling you the truth.
Rotor Walrus - This guy is nothing but a cheap & REALLY BORING replacement for Tails in that show! Tails already has the role of mechanic and tinkerer and is good enough at what he does. I didn't gave a single shit about him when his back was crippled! Even with his new redesign in the upcoming storyline, I still don't care about Rotor… Like, AT ALL!!
Antoine D'Coolette - Oh God, seriously? There is no reason what-so-ever as to why this character should even exist in the games! No reason at all! Especially considering most fans disliked Sonic & the Black Knight's (even though, I personally enjoyed that game) sword gameplay gimmick!
NICOLE - As of Sonic Unleashed, Tails has a multifunctional electronic handheld device called the Miles Electric. If Tails' electronic handheld can display video recordings from satellites, be a control interface for the Tornado-1 & translate the Wisps language, then I'm sure it's also just as capable of doing what NICOLE can do. (ex: open/close doors, hack access codes) Also you need to remember, that most of the cast travel a lot! Holograms have very limited distances, and they often stay in one location. Lastly, she has 2 horrible backstories! One that's flat-out disturbing (scrapped SuckAM season 3) and one that's just convoluted as hell!! (Archie)
Dulcy - Oh God! Here's another horrible "comic relief" character that the SEGASonic universe can defiantly do without!! Even some fans of the show think she's a really bad character! She is annoying, unfunny & a disgrace to all dragons in fictional media!! She just appeared in the show from out of the blue, with no explanation!! There is NOTHING redeemable about her!!
Charles "Chuck" Hedgehog - Another one of the few I like. But whether you want to admit it or not, Uncle Chuck is UNORIGINAL. He is basically Sonic if he was 50 years old, wears red & yellow maroon shoes, lacks the gift of super speed and has the face of the Monopoly mascot. Does anyone remember Professor Pickle? I'm sure he'll fill in the wise old man type quite nicely.
Scourge the Hedgehog - I know he's a villain and has never appeared in the show. But come on, do we really need another hedgehog who's name also begins with the letter S? I can't believe I'm saying this but, I would rather put up with Jet the hawk then see this terrible "parody" of a recolour! If Sally is a prime example of a Mary-Sue, then this guy is a prime example of a Gary-Stu!!
Any characters created by Ken Penders - After the whole copyright fiasco, I highly doubt SEGA/Sonic Team would ever want to touch his work with a 20 foot bargepole ever again. I would rather like to see Shade return then see any of his characters rear their ugly heads! All of his creations are unoriginal, (especially his echidnas) forgettable & bland as hell! I'll go into more further details about them in my series of rants on this bastard & his upcoming train wreak of a project! I don't care if Archie sued him first! The fact of the matter is, Ken STARTED IT FIRST! End of story.
REASON No 3: Nobody watches SatAM anymore! Who still watches that overrated piece of shit? Seriously people. Do you really think today's modern fans who;
-are born in the late 90s/early 2000s -got into the franchise between 10-5 years ago to last year -are more familiar about the games -have never watched the show (let alone the other 2 DiC cartoon adaptations) in their entire lives -7 times out of 10 MIGHT have watched Sonic X (regardless if subbed or dubbed) -might've read those shitty Archie comics at one point in their lives
Are going to give a shit about a cartoon that has NOTHING to do with the franchise at all? A cartoon that hasn't aired on a TV channel (Netflix doesn't count) in years! Even if modern Sonic fans decide to watch this cartoon, just out of pure curiosity, they are NOT going to say…
FAN 1: I luv th3se charACTers FAN 2: Sally !$ SUPER, DUPER, DUPER, AWESOME!!1! We nE£d h3r iN dA gAIMs! FAN 3: Robotnik is SUPER, DUPER, DUPER, AWESOME!!1! F00k £gGmaN! FAN 4: B£$T SH0W £VER!!1!
They will most likely say…
FAN 1: Hey! Where's insert character that appeared after Sonic 2 here FAN 2: Man that Sally is such a spotlight hogging whore! Who does she think she is!? FAN 3: Get off your arse & invent something!! Best incarnation of Eggman, MY ASS!! FAN 4: People actually like this trash!?
And before anyone gets the wrong idea, no I'm not some fan who recently got into the franchise. I'm a fan who has been in the franchise since it's humble beginnings, who also believes that this cartoon hasn't aged well. The only fans who still watch this show are those nostalgically blind SonSatAM Whiners, who are wearing the nostalgia goggles too tight & wish that it's 1993 every year in their pathetic little minds!!
One last thing before we move on. If the rumoured new Sonic cartoon is true, I guarantee you 9 times out of 10, they will most likely watch that cartoon. I could write an entire journal explaining why I think SuckAM sucks so much balls! But I'm saving that for September.
REASON No 4: Shipping sighs deeply I have a feeling that as soon as Sally is put in the games, those Sonally fanbrats are going to want her to hook up with Sonic or claim that she and Sonic are already dating. Unlike DiC or Archie, SEGA wants to keep Sonic single. While I am an open-minded Sonamy (who also supports Sonmina and Sonblaze) fan, I do respect SEGA/Sonic Team's decision. Unlike some people I could care to mention. I could rant on and on why Sonally can NEVER, ever work. PERIOD! But just to save myself some time, I'll let KrissyBKillin explain it. She sums up why this couple can't work better than I could!…
REASON No 5: SEGA can't afford them! In April last year, SEGA suffered a big financial money loss. They are in so much debt, that they needed Nintendo's help to publish some of their next games.
REASON No 6: They will become the Wisps bitches! For those who don't know, Takashi Iizuka has announced that he plans on using the Wisps from Sonic Colours as a new standard gameplay style for future games. While I enjoyed Colours & I do plan on getting Lost World, I'm not sure if that's a good idea to have the Wisps appear in every game. Not only it will eventually lose it's charm, it will get stale very quickly. The only time I'll probably accept their future appearances is if SEGA/Sonic Team ever make a PROPER Sonic Colours 2.
Anyway back on topic. If the Wisps are going to appear more often, we will most likely going to see Sonic become the only playable character more-so then ever. So unless SEGA/Sonic Team decide otherwise, your chances of seeing the Freedom Fighters as being playable are now extremely slim!
REASON No 7: They have served their purpose! This is something that those SonSatAM Whiners don't want to admit! Face it, people! The Freedom Fighters are done, through, finished, ancient history, obsolete, pasted their sell-by date, no longer needed!! Do you want to know why they were created in the first place? Because Sonic, Tails & Eggman we're the only characters around at the time. But nowadays, we have plenty of characters by SEGA/Sonic Team that we don't need them anymore!!
Do you want to know why StC decided to let Shortfuse the Cybernik be an ordinary squirrel again (before StC-O turned him into a furry version of Iron Man (minus heart problems)) & killed off Johnny Lightfoot in the SA1 adaptation? Because they have served their purpose. Do you want to know why we never see villains like Erazor Djinn, Black D oom, most of the StC one-shots etc… ever again after their first & only appearances? Because they all served as villain-of-the-week.
Now I know that the Freedom Fighters have developed past their SuckAM counterparts. Such as Uncle Chuck owning a café, Sally having a sisterly bond with Amy (even though, it's so artificial as hell) and Antoine married to Bunnie. (unless the Genesis Wave from that POINTLESS crossover has already changed that) But let me ask you this simple question. What else do they have to offer?
The answer… is NOTHING ELSE. They have nothing new to offer to the table. All the writers from those shitty comics have failed to realise that they have well served their purpose. Overstayed their welcome, if you will. If I was in charge of the comics, (which BTW is not a bad idea) I would've killed them off 75 issues ago. Just so I can let the game cast shine while letting in some new faces to take their place! And I will feel no form of regret about it. Bottomline, the Freedom Fighters are 13 years YESTERDAYS NEWS!!!
REASON No 8: Fans will bitch/demand more! If SEGA/Sonic Team ever decides to cave-in to those Archie/SuckAM worshipping cock suckers by giving them new backstories, new voices actors, (I highly doubt they'll rehire the old ones) use their upcoming redesigns, (which are not bad, but I think Antoine should've kept his uniform) and possibly new personalities, I guaran-damn-tee you one of 2 reactions WILL happen. The fans will either…
a) bitch and moan that they are in the games. Constantly demanding SEGA/Sonic Team to get rid of them (especially those Sonic & Eggman only purists) until we never see or hear from them ever again!
b) demand even more non-game characters from the other continuities, both well-known & obscure. Making the cast even more bloated then it already has.
As much as I would love to see the likes of Mina Mongoose, Shortfuse the Cybernik, Tekno the Canary, Grimer, Anton Brooke, the Parlouzer family, Princess Alucion, Sleet, Sam Speed & Cosmo in the games. I know for a fact it's not going to happen anytime soon.
So there you have it! Those are the main reasons why I don't ever want the Freedom Fighters to be in the games. Adding them in is not going to solve the problem. It's just going to divide the fanbase even more then it already has!! I don't care how popular they are! I never gave a shit about them in the fucking first place! I never read those shitty Archie comics in my entire life to get emotionally attached to them! (especially since I grew up reading a far better comic series (I'm a biased StC fan BTW)) And I'm not going to start giving a shit about them right now! Even if they are wearing a t-shirt that says "I'm important! Pay attention to me!" We didn't need them in the sixth generation console war!! (AKA the Dreamcast Era) We didn't need them in the then Modern Era!! And we sure as hell don't need them in the next Era!! SEGA/Sonic Team need to realise they have plenty of major characters that are in desperate need of development more so nowadays than ever before. Because at the end of the day, whether you want to deny it or not, the game cast will ALWAYS BE MORE IMPORTANT. Not as much as gameplay, but you get my drift.
And that concludes my rant. I hope you enjoyed reading it. I like to thank Vertekins & Cartoonguy133 for inspiring me to make this rant. To anyone who plans on making a dramatic reading/commentary on Youtube, go right ahead. I want the worldwide web to know there are fans like me who despise SuckAM with a passion. And lastly, to anyone who disagree with this rant, I dare you to make a rebuttal on why the Freedom Fighters should be in the games… And no! I will NOT accept "because the game characters suck" as a valid excuse!
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2020.11.23 06:22 elviracowles_ Marriage is always the solution 😀

I was in a group with some old mission ex-companions. And they've started talking to me It was time to return to the church because I was doing the genealogy of my family. I was studying just for fun, not thinking in go to the temple one day and baptize them. Alright! One day I've said I had a dream with a companion who married somebody from US and is living there. But in my dream, we were not in "real life". We were in the missionary field. And, at same time, we were not members anymore. It was a crazy dream. But I had this dream because we made a zoom call that night. It was not a big deal. And the girls started having the "marriage" talk. That it was time to return to the church, that maybe the love of my live could be in another country and I should marry somebody. It was the message of my dream. I couldn't believe. I had a dream about mission. I was teaching people. I had to wait 5 minutes and I said: "I'm very busy right now. I'm leaving the group. See you around".
I was speechless... Because you can't believe somebody think like that.
I'm not a member for a long time now. And they think my problem is that I need to find a mormon man and I will return to the church😂
Even when I was a member I never really wanted to marry nobody. I had a boyfriend, but it was like something really weird. I've met him when I was in my mission. I was opening an area and he was from another mission. We've met on subway. He was from my state. We've started talking during the mission by e-mail. We really dated for 3 months. But it was weird. When we are in the mission, you are so far away from home and everything. It's not like now that missionaries can write stuff on social media. You miss your family. And I really thought I was in love for that guy. But we were not. He already married two girls after our "relationship". 😂 And sometimes I think I almost married that guy because it was the script I had to follow in the church. There is no escape. Glad I'm a rebel.
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2020.11.23 05:42 Yakhov Qanon is a Massively Multi-Player High-Control Group

Not exactly breaking news, but this a deep dive into at the origins of Qanon and the characteristics it shares with other Destructive Cult Structures seen in High-Control Groups like NXIVM. The difference being Qanon's use of social media to build a Qarmy of millions, enough to tip an election and alter the political landscape of the USA forever.

Characteristics of High-Control and Cult Groups:

  1. There is opposition to critical thought…the initiate is told to do their research and given bias confirming info
  2. And self-doubt is encouraged.Trust the plan, Fake news, Believe me
  3. Magical thinking is prevalentThe storm is coming, mass arrests, decipher Q drops, follow the white rabbit
  4. And leaders claim to have special insight and supreme knowledge.
  5. The leadership is authoritarian, charismatic and narcissistic
  6. And leaders are not accountable to other authorities.
  7. There are draconian and intrusive rules for members Get red pilled
  8. But the leaders are above the law.
  9. The flow of information is subject to censorship and control… Limited Q engagement, sporadic coms
  10. And the group as a whole is elitist, with an elite ‘inner circle’ at its core.
  11. Threats are made against members who leave
  12. And outsiders or outsider groups are slandered and vilified.
  13. Members become increasingly isolated from former companions
  14. And group identity takes precedence over (or replaces) individual identity.
  15. The group performs secret rites and rituals
  16. And in general, their events involve mind-altering practices.
  17. Members frequently experience feelings of shame, guilt, fear and dread
  18. And show zealous commitment, loyalty and dependence upon their leaders.
  19. Groups have a preoccupation with new members and proselytizing
  20. They target the vulnerable with ‘love-bombing’ and idealistic goals.
  21. There is evidence of economic or financial exploitation…
  22. And of punitive punishment, even physical abuse.
  23. There is evidence of sexual exploitation
  24. And women, especially, are tightly controlled.
  25. Deception is normalized, and the ends always justify the means.
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2020.11.23 05:41 Draemeth [For Hire] Marketing and SEO

My name is Zack Frederick and I started doing marketing several years ago as i began my first yoga ‘e-business', realising very quickly that the difference between me and the next John Doe wasn’t the product but the presentation. So I set about, by trial and error, learning how I could sell more Yoga mats than John Doe. It wasn’t long before I realised I was very good at the marketing aspect, and I didn’t really like things like warehousing and distribution.
Today I’m most interested in building reports, designing paid campaigns and helping with Instagram.
I’ve compiled a few free tips for general marketing and SEO.

Brand awareness

First off. Influencers will not magically make your website successful. You have to be your own influencer. Over my tenor, I have spent thousands on social media analysis, rebranding and learning tricks like sticking state names across American products or even changing the colour of my website depending on the demographics of my audience. Spoilers, guys love red. Here’s an example data set.
Last year, I ran a campaign for one of my shoe clients, and we used the pride of state consumers to grow his shoe business. I researched the best colours to use for different states and gave him a list, we put the state names across his shoes and marketed directly to them through instagram. It wasn’t long before his conversion metrics were soaring.
Here's an example report from one of my clients -


I have worked with a lot of musicians, a big part of them started with low view, audio-only videos. I learnt quickly that for them to achieve success they had to provide value, so i told them to create videos. They did and then ta-da, they had 4500 views when they only had 200 view music videos before. For the next step, I even got them contacts with massive digital celebrities. My proudest connection having been ‘Ninja’ during the height of his fortnite campaign, I organised the marketing behind several viral Fortnite music parodies with now millions of views.

Trend riding

Make use of trends in your business. If something is so mainstream and big, why ignore it? In the past I have made use of the political trends in the American election with trump AND hillary brands on some of my clients products, with the pro trump and pro hillary supporters wanting to sport their political beliefs no matter the cost.
I see a lot of website based businesses underuse social media with broad attempts at Facebook ads and Instagram ads, ill go to digital marketing agencies and see they either have no social following or a huge botted one. It's a terrible idea to buy followers, if you want to cut corners then you should look at buying a smaller business with a bigger social following.
Here’s the impressions from a tweet I made on the first day of creating a company a twitter platform and using trend riding and collaboration to grow it 4K Impressions on one tweet in 15 minutes - we hit 80k impressions in the first day. I did this from simply mimiking the formula for success from a similiar company account, i don't want to try change the magic formula for success.



You really do have to stay in touch with your business to know what's working and what isn't, companies like Toys R Us refused to do that and stuck with huge stockpiles of star wars toys and then they collapsed. Blockbusters where ahead of the curve for digital movies and then they refused to change, Netflix changed and Netflix won. Amazon learnt to use online selling and left companies like Tescos with financial crisis.
The big boom in marketing that I’ve seen is social media marketing, marketers can create huge social following for companies and use that platform to sell content for extremely low costs in comparison to the tens of thousands it costs to use other platforms such as radio. Social media marketing has become somewhat controversial, but it is important to always stay open minded.

Collaboration** & Viral content

I can not stress the importance of working with other people. Every billionaire i know of has had a mentor, every big company success story had business partners. I've had far more success in clients who have listened to me and done collaborative work with digital celebs, with a dog product business making thousands of sales when they worked with vlogger Zoella and gave her free products.
Viral content is very important because every Youtuber with over 1 million subscribers has started off big and managed to keep it big, nobody grinded and slowly rose up at an equal exponent. Hard work is fine but being consistent and mixing it up, copying the viral content of others is an easy way of bringing in secondary viewership and traffic. Pewdiepie, the biggest youtuber on the planet, started with viral horror content. Ninja, the biggest streamer, grinded for 7 years but only truly struck gold with the virality of Fortnite. So it makes sense to repeat their methods.

Key words

It is an obvious thing to say but it's neglected, key words are very important. I had a crypto business come to me and ask why their site wasnt doing very well, and i looked through it and saw they never mentioned anything beyond bitcoin. Bitcoin is a very expensive key word to market, with costs of the raw word being as high as 38$ per click. I had to bring them down to earth with harsh truths, i rewrote their entire site using SEM tools in mind - with key words and phrases like "Altcoin exchange" and using the names of the top 100 altcoins across the site.


Search Engine Optimisation is the name given to increasing the value and raw volume of your organic traffic. A successful website always wants as many of the most likely consumer base to encounter their product because that’s the hardest point of digital business. Your websites SEO is determined by crawlers which regularly check up on your website and update their index which is later used by an algorithm to order results when someone ‘googles’ something.
Today I’m going to be talking you through some key points about SEO that I personally audit for businesses.


Https://Www.Example.Com is an example of something we call a ‘root domain’ which is made up of protocol (https://) subdomain (www.) domain name (example) and top-level domain (.com). These are the basic parts. It’s important that the protocol is the best and safest it can be or else google will punish you. It’s also important your domain name and top-level domain are appropriate and readable. The words used in your subdomain can also affect how customers interpret your website, websites can be named after their market base for easy marketing. In addition, the age and previous registrations of your domain matter. It’s important these factors are appropriately considered in your website. Be minimal with subdomains.


Google knows where it’s users are and what they’re using from their browser data, IPs and MACs and then matches them with websites in their areas or appropriate to searches. Ever since the infamous 2016 update ‘Possum’ it is not something you can ignore. Even jobs based websites had to use the meta data ‘Jobs Schema’ (from 2017 onwards) to tell google where your website was focused. Location specific landing pages matter. You have to pay credence to DNS (domain name server) and Glue to keep TTL (time to load) and mobile in mind, especially with more mobile users than ever. CMS (customs) is also part of this discussion: themes and plugins are a factor in Google’s ranking. One way to improve TTL is through CDN’s and we have to consider how we approach them to rank better. Sometimes, you might face penalties and there are ways to know; that’s a little too hard to explain here but PM me for more.


Nobody loves a book more than google. Robots will read all your website, even the stuff humans don’t bother with. Things like duplication will annoy Google who doesn’t like reading things twice. CTA’s (buttons basically) have to go somewhere nice and if they don’t work properly google will punish you. Human biases are important too. The user experience will effect their retention and Google will clock that. There’s also lots of minor things that can stack up: Filenames (help you rank on Images) Thin content (Google sees it as lazy) phrase diversity (spamming key words is noticed) and URL structures too! Make sure your in and outbound links are healthy as well as having keyword mapping where you assign the correct words to the right pages. Make sure your anchor texts (viewable when linking) are descriptive yet succinct. And finally: link velocity, a healthy eco system of link building is important to longevity and renewed SEO.

Technical Stuff.

Consistent anchor elements are important to prevent 404s. Don’t use abbreviations with naming files and folders. Limit use of dates for file folder names. Your site architecture has to be simple and close to the root domain so the click depth isn’t too great! Links to and from your site can’t be dead ends, and use breadcrumbs! Be wary of canonical issues from similar content across multiple URLs. Treat Cookies and Session IDs properly, privacy laws are ever changed and mismatching them can be dangerous. There’s lots more to go into like header status codes, site maps, GSC Crawl Errors but Reddit has a text limit so I’ve deleted some of my post.

PM me if interested in my services or with questions.

~28-35 USD hourly
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2020.11.23 05:13 throwRAfalseaccu53d F23 falsely accused of m*lesting a child

Im in desperate need of advice, any advice would help
I have a friend "Jack" who I have known for the past 2 yrs. He had been dating "Sally" for a little longer. (Fake names) they separated at the start of 2020 so I helped him to get a job and accomodation at my workplace. I lived with my parents at the time, not at the work accomodation.
Sally and I went to the same high school but didn't speak much. We've fought over text 4 years ago. When Jack started hanging out the friendship group I'm a part of Sally hated it as she didn't want Jack to be around me. I have a long term partner but even so she has always been suspicious of my friendship with Jack (which has always been completely platonic). Jack and my partner are also very good friends.
Jack now gets his 3yo (ex?) Stepdaughter (SD) once a week so naturally she is present at said workplace. 2 months ago Jack calls me and asks if I have a spare hairbrush for SD. I brought one over and braided SD's hair as she requested when she saw my braids. Shortly after she needed to use the bathroom. I showed her to the bathroom and opened the door for her. I waited outside the door until SD came back out then I helped her wash her hands. We went back out to Jack and I left to see my other coworkers who were knocking off of work and that was that. Jack told me that when he dropped SD off, Sally was upset that I braided her hair. I accept that that was an asshole-ish thing for me to do knowing that Sally doesn't like me.
Sally is now claiming that 10 days after I saw SD, SD complained of having a sore private area and said that someone had penetrated her private area. Apparently Sally pressed for more information and SD said that I did that. This is supposed to have taken place when I escorted SD to the bathroom.
These accusations came 2-3 days after Jack blocked Sally on all of social media after an argument between them.
Sally tried to press charges against me but the case was dropped. According to the detective it wasn't adding up and he decided there was no case.
Sally then contacted me via messenger and challenged me to meet her "face to face like a real woman" and told me she's going to make me suffer. I blocked her. Now she is pushing for a restraining order against me citing the reason as "stalking", and apparently she is trying to press charges again to put me behind bars. An interim restraining order is in place against myself.
I don't know what to do. I don't want to discuss it with anyone because I'm so uncomfortable describing what I'm being accused of. And I'm afraid that if I tell someone they will say something to Sally, which might breach the intervention order and get me arrested. I'm 6 months away from completing studying (medical field) and I won't be allowed to work in the field if this is on my record. The last few years of studying and debt can't be for nothing. This is going to ruin my life. I'm freaking out. I'm also short and really thin and Sally is very tall and a little bit on the bigger side and honestly she could beat me half to death if she wanted to. She keeps challenging me to fights and I'm terrified that I'm going to run into her and get beaten to a pulp.
Do I need a lawyer? What do I do?
Sorry if this is a mess. I tried to keep in brief.
Info: There are no security cameras in the hallway that leads to the toilets. I asked our cleaner and she confirmed.
We are in Australia
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